At Wits End with DSS

[everettdaddy]

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My eldest boy is causing us great distress. We are a gentle discipline type family. I was raised in a strict household, but it was not a physical discipline.

He lashes out at everything, he was premature, and has communication issues. We are afraid that one day he will hurt one of the other children and I am secretly hoping that I am the one that he goes off on first. But that is my sick and twisted nature.

Still, we don't know how to handle his outbursts. He will be playing fine with the other kids, then BAM... he explodes and singles out one of them and is very cruel and mean to them.

How can one help him communicate his feelings better?

[elizawill]

my son was like that a lot. honestly, he has just recently outgrown this stage. i recommend 2 things. first, i LOVE the book "how to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk". it has wonderful ideas for helping your son learn to communicate. i bought it used at amazon for dirt cheap. secondly, shadow your son in public. be close enough to intervene immediately since you know he can be aggressive with other kids. i had to shadow my son a lot when he was going through that phase. lastly, remember, it is just a phase. i know it's stressful, but it will pass hugs.

[everettdaddy]

Fearierose was jumping up and down, and yelling at me to come nad read the post as she is holding the CD Audiobook of that, saying "See, I told you so, I am not the only that reads these books."

I have been meaning to put that book on the comp, so i can listen to it on my Ipod. I guess I will now.. :