Hi DID. I'm going to agree with Delfin here (the word you were looking for was "transcend").
I see us as energetic spiritual beings. As such, if you know the first law of thermodynamics, energy can neither be created nor destroyed, only changed from one form to another. I feel that we have a part of ourselves that is carrying the energetic imprints from life before, and as such it is part of our continuing lessons that we experience in this life. It is only victim blaming hooey if you sit around being the victim, and attracting instances that will allow you to continue being victimized. I think there is a fine line between tragedies that come to us because we are a victim, and those that come to us because we have to clear something up or release something. Even as a victim you can learn great lessons, but you will have to stop being a victim first to learn from the past.
I am deep in a personal crisis right now. And I know that what is happening is directly related to my recent past as well as past life stuff. I'm pretty big into astrology though. Jyotish (vedic astrology) especially addresses past life karma. I've used that as a tool to gain understanding of my current life circumstances. I believe that much of that is related to past life actions. It's obvious, and since I know they didn't make up the rules of jyotish to specifically fit my chart, well how can I not believe? To me the interconnectedness of everything in this life means that this life is also interconnected to life before. Otherwise where can you draw the line and disconnect or destroy the energy from before? It can't be destroyed, only changed to a different form, a different energetic expression.
When using astrology to examine the birth charts of myself and my daughter, it is obvious there are deep ties between us. How would this happen if we were not together before now? To me, it feels so lonely to think that nothing was me before now. That I am here alone in this life without those around me who have an understanding that is much deeper than simply knowing the details of my present life is a lonely thought. The people who are in my life today, are here because we shared much before now.
And a good thing with jyotish is that there are remedies that can be done to alleviate some of the difficulties. There are lots out there who will say this is hooey too. Yet I've seen these remedies applied and issues resolved or averted because of it. Based on that you said you are on a 2-3 year cycle, it makes me think of a Mars affliction, Mars takes 2.5/3 years to make a trip around the sun. I am in something called Sade Sati, where transisting Saturn is coming into the place of my natal moon. It's not pretty at all and in the most traditional interpretation lasts for 7.5 years! In fact, this same configuration happened 30 years ago when I was 5yo (that's how long saturn takes to return to the same point in the sky), and my world was in complete turmoil then too. The resemble between the issues my family faced then and those that I face now..... it is way more than a coincidence.
Those are some of my thoughts on Karma (which only means "action", and is neither good nor bad). Now, I'm far from expert, but if you felt like entertaining me, you could PM me your birth info and I can let you know what I see. If you are really interested in what I've said, I would find a professional jyotishi cuz the rules are very complex and I've only been self teaching myself jyotish for about 4 years, I have much more experience in western astro, but it doesn't address past life stuff as well imho.
And if nothing else, at least in writing this I was able to step outside of my own tragically falling apart life for a few moments. I appreciate it.
Best wishes to you in whatever you are facing.
I would work really hard to find a way to revers those comments in your mind. As if any of us need others feeding into our negative self talk. Can you ask the people close to you who make those comments to stop? I would let them know that those comments are hurtful. I think you might gain some positive effects from just sticking up for yourself like that!
