just want to share my happy story

[bestjobever]

I just want to share my happy story, especially for those of you reading here looking to make a decision on your own sons.
When we found out our second was a boy I began to discuss with my husband my thoughts on circumcision. My thoughts have evolved over the past three years, starting from "I will let my husband decide" and ending with "I will not have my son cicumcised, period". I am gratefull to have a husband who entertained our discussions and did not ignorantly tell me otherwise. With our daughter we were spared the decision (for wich I am so gratefull, because looking back on it, she probably would have been circumcized had she been a boy). With our son, it really wasn't up for "discussion" any more, but we did talk about all the reasons why not circumcizing would be best. DH had the usual concerns, the main one being he never wants his son to feel "different", but he conceded this risk did not outweigh the benefits of remaining intact. We are also lucky to have had three doctors, my sister-in-law (OB-GYN), as well as both my childbirth OB's who do NOT recommend circumcision... Our son's OB thanked us after we told him NO circ. (We had a wonderful waterbirth)
ANYWAY...
The reason I wanted to share was because EVERYTIME I CHANGE MY SONS DIAPER, A FEELING OF IMMENSE HAPPINESS COMES OVER ME AND I KNOW WE MADE THE RIGHT DECISION.: The mere thought of circumcising my own child fills me with huge regret and pain, and we didn't even do it.

[Raelynn]

That is wonderful! Congratulations on your son!

My situation was almost exactly the same. Had my 1st been a boy, I know for a fact that he would have been circ'ed because I had no idea the risks, function of the foreskin, that it was attached to the glans in a baby. All I knew was that her dad was, he wanted it done, I wanted it done, and we were going to pay for it, no questions asked. I am thankful every day that she was a girl and that I was educated before my son was born. I cannot imagine how much regret I would feel, had I done it to my child and learned better afterwards.

[Tangled Hill]

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[LavenderMae]

Congratulations!! :

When my first son was born I just knew with out a doubt after I saw his whole perfect body that we (dh and I) absolutely were right not to alter him at all. And the normal penis (which I hadn't seen before irl) was just that completely and perfectly normal. I am forever grateful that I knew better than to circumcse before my first son was born and I'm outraged and heartbroken I live in a culture that encourages much less allows such a thing.

[bobbiedoc]

keepthemintact

When a society starts moving away from sexually mutilating its children (circumcision) the actual knowledge on how to care for intact children gets lost, and damage may be caused to the child by the parents, carers, peers, and medical staff by lack of knowledge, ignorance, false information, old wife's tales etc.
May I draw your attention to the best up to-date article on how to care for an intact child which can be found by googling:
"‘Only Clean What Is Seen’—Reversing The Epidemic of Forcible Foreskin Retractions"
This is a wonderful and informative article and mothers with intact children should aquaint them selves with it.
May I personally congratulate you wonderful modern mothers who defied the pressure by the circumcisers to sexually mutilate their sons. It would be hard to understand that everything he said was a lie and that he didn't have your childs interest at heart only the money he could make by doing this sexually crippling operation.
Your boy will thank you in the future for keeping him intact.

[njeb]

Originally Posted by bobbiedoc

When a society starts moving away from sexually mutilating its children (circumcision) the actual knowledge on how to care for intact children gets lost, and damage may be caused to the child by the parents, carers, peers, and medical staff by lack of knowledge, ignorance, false information, old wife's tales etc.
May I draw your attention to the best up to-date article on how to care for an intact child which can be found by googling:
"‘Only Clean What Is Seen’—Reversing The Epidemic of Forcible Foreskin Retractions"
This is a wonderful and informative article and mothers with intact children should aquaint them selves with it.
May I personally congratulate you wonderful modern mothers who defied the pressure by the circumcisers to sexually mutilate their sons. It would be hard to understand that everything he said was a lie and that he didn't have your childs interest at heart only the money he could make by doing this sexually crippling operation.
Your boy will thank you in the future for keeping him intact.

Do you have a link to that article? Thanks!

To the OP: Thank you for sharing your story! I know what you mean. It makes me sad to think that if I hadn't chosen to birth at home, my sons would probably have been circumcised. It was even more automatic back then than it is today. (FYI, my oldest was born in 1979).

[MyBoysBlue]

I did a quick search and found it here:

http://www.kindredmedia.com.au/libra...ractions/401/1

[3pink1blue]

I'm the same way. Every time I change or bathe DS, I tell him what a lucky boy he is. I am so glad we didn't harm him. I am so grateful to MDC and especially the CAC forum.

I often think what would have happened of my first had been a boy. I know i didn't like the thought of circ even as a young teenager (when i had no information on friggen anything at all, let alone sex/circ/etc.) All I knew at the time was I never wanted to put my son through that pain.
I think I probably would have had him done though, which is why thank God my first was a girl. I was young and single (not just relationship-wise, but support system-wise) and taking advice from other young women, who would have convinced me it was no big deal.

I am 100% confident that we made the right decision, and 100% confident that my son will feel the same way.

[njeb]

Originally Posted by MyBoysBlue

I did a quick search and found it here:

http://www.kindredmedia.com.au/libra...ractions/401/1

Thank you!
This is an excellent article!

[Night_Nurse]

That's great news! It's also wonderful that your sis-in-law any your OB's recommend against them. I wonder if your s-i-l would be willing to put out NoCirc pamphlets in her waiting room or something? Maybe she would offer one of the NoCirc dvd's to her patients contemplating circ?

[latinalonestar]

: Congratulations!

[triplembride]

our first WAS a boy and the amount of guilt we feel for not knowing any better and circing him is almost unbearable i thought it was just a simple procedure like getting your ears pierced i had NO IDEA how painful and invasive it really was. no child of mine will EVER be mutilated again

so kudos to you for keeping your son out of harms way and fully intact what a blessing : :