Still really working through this :
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12/31/08 at 2:51pm
I hadn't seen this thread before but I'll but in with a thought I had.
If we are talking about biblical parenting, what about this issue
There have been a few comments on this subject, to the issue of whether kids misbehave essentially because they feel unloved.
It seems to me that Christianity suggests that this is not always the case. What about the fall? Whether you take it figurativly or literally, I don't think Adam and Eve sinned because they felt unloved. It seemed to have more to do with pride or being self-centred.
Wouldn't that also be true of kids in some cases, or that it is an element in many cases? That they misbehave because they are being selfish or want to fufil their own desires and don't care if it's at someone else's expense?
|I don't see God ever actively imposing consequences as a tool to help people become disciplined or more righteous.|
I totally agree with this!
I do wrong because is FEELS good. Like yelling at dh. Or swearing. : Horrible, but true. I do not do it to get attention.
Why would it be different for my children?
I do think lack or temperary loss of connection can cause misbehavior, but sometimes they just want to use mamas lipstick. Period. They are not feeling unloved. They have a need and do not care if they step on someone else to fulfill it.