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post #161 of 288
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Originally Posted by Dar View Post

The only thing that was close to a problem was when the guy served fruit soup for breakfast and she didn't like it, and he kind of pushed it, in a jokey sort of way, but still... it was uncomfortable. Never mind that I also wasn't eating the fruit soup...
He probably didn't like it either, and was worried he'd get stuck with the leftovers when he saw you both not eating it.
post #162 of 288
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Originally Posted by thismama View Post
I recently had a situation where my infant was in hospital for three days, and the nursing staff attempted to prevent my 5 year old from staying overnight with us (or alternatively pressured me to leave my infant! Over my dead body!). I called age discrimination and cited the Family Centred Policy of the hospital. My 5 year old has anxiety anyway, and I am a single mother so had she not stayed, she would have been in a different bed in a different house which would have been very hard for her during an already upsetting situation. She was perfectly behaved, and stayed in our room the entire time, got dropped off at bedtime and picked up in the mornings. But the drama and hostility I dealt with was unreal. It was like she was not really a person, that her needs did not matter, that she must be a vector of germs because she is a child. The whole thing was quite horrible and I did feel that she was dehumanized and that we experienced unfair treatment.
Kudos to you for holding your ground! I hope your baby is doing better!

We blessedly haven't had this situation. However, when my youngest was a baby we were visiting a relative in the hospital, and another visitor and I stepped out of the room during a procedure and were chatting in the hallway, as I nursed dd in the sling ... and a nurse came up and said I couldn't do that in the hallway, that I needed to go back into the room.

So happens the procedure was done by then (or else something happened that there was more room for us by then, I can't remember for sure), and I didn't want to make waves because of my relative -- but it was just really weird and rather irritating, too.
post #163 of 288
That is not right in my eyes. I understand where they are coming from with the romantic aspect but wherever my children are not allowed, I am not either.
post #164 of 288
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Originally Posted by newlynaturaldad View Post
That is not right in my eyes. I understand where they are coming from with the romantic aspect but wherever my children are not allowed, I am not either.
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post #165 of 288
I have only read the first page of replies...but I don't think they were rude whatsoever - just direct.
And I also completely understand why children would not be allowed, as others have said.
This is someones personal HOME, usually decorated and not at all child-proof.

Plus I were staying at a B&B with DH as a romantic getaway, I wouldn't want to be disturbed by children of other guests.
post #166 of 288
My parents have a bed and breakfast and they do not accept children under 8. The problem is the rooms are very close to one another and toddlers and children are loud and if you don't have children you are not empathetic to people with children when they wake you up at night or bang around in the morning.

People pay my parents money to get away from their lives and have a relaxing weekend sans kids all the time. It is possible that allowing someone to bring their baby could really ruin someone elses vacation. Also, they are not baby-proofed at all everything is antique and glass. I would rather go somewhere that catered to families when I go on vacation. I have found renting a private residence to be a better way to go. You get a kitchen and I don't have to worry about my kids bothering other guests.

Anyway, although I empathise with your predicament. I think if their particular house is not set up for kids you'll be better off somewhere else anyway. My parents do not have guests when we come to visit for the same reasons. I guess I get this one from the side of the parent and the visitor
post #167 of 288
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Originally Posted by kmeyrick View Post
Which is why I said kids aren't banned from the bank, it's just not designed to be kid friendly and there's nothing wrong with that.
I don't think anyone is arguing that places should all CATER to children or be child-friendly. I like lots of places that are not kid friendly (though strangely, I suppose, my kids love them, too). I simply disagree with businesses that REFUSE children on the grounds that they are children.

My kids go to get their nails done at a spa with my mom, they enjoy a fancy meal at a very-kid-unfriendly restaurant on New Year's Day every year, they come to all kinds of movies with their dad and I (and enjoy them), etc. I don't expect or even want any of those places to be kid-friendly, with cookies or candy or whatever else kids are supposed to appreciate. I just don't want them to turn my well-behaved children away simply because they haven't reached some arbitrary birthday yet.

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But strip clubs, by their very nature, are meant for adults. Both the owners and patrons want it to be that way. Even if it were legal I think it'd be HIGHLY inappropriate.
And that can be your decision to make, as your kids' parent. It would likely be mine as well . . . but I do think that decision belongs in the hands of parents, not the law.

Dar and Thismama, I am really sorry to hear about the experiences your kids had recently.
post #168 of 288
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And that can be your decision to make, as your kids' parent. It would likely be mine as well . . . but I do think that decision belongs in the hands of parents, not the law.
I think we need to remember not ALL parents place there child/children "first" like those here...Some laws are there to protect the kds and there sadly are many parents who wouldn't think twice about putting there inocent kids in harms way if it means they can have a "good" time.

Deanna
post #169 of 288
It is common practice at B&B's to not take children(some take older kids).

Personally I wouldn't want to take DD to a B&B, it would be torture. she's a crazy 2 year old and it would suck. I would be looking for a hotel with a pool, so that we all could have fun. Being in someone's home with a toddler seems extremely trying. I also went on vacation to Mexico last year when DD was 15 months and that was pretty awful, we stayed at a place that was more adult centered and spent 10 days trying to keep her from jumping in the non-gated pool-real fun.
post #170 of 288
i know it stings when we hear "No Kids"

but I do understand it on many levels.
post #171 of 288
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Originally Posted by karina5 View Post
Denmark! That's it. Yeah, I think it's awesome. ANd it's great that they feel it's so safe. OMG, I can't even imagine leaving my kid outside like that, but it's a really neat tradition.
I feel safe leaving my kids in situations that others feel uncomfortable with, and I have gotten negative feedbacka bout it. It's always a risk, no matter where you are, I think it's good to keep that in mind.
post #172 of 288
I have not read all the reviews, but you know you cant take a toddler to the elvis museum right? Research it before you go and you will find all sorts of good info on how it is NOT baby friendly, will save you time and hassle!
post #173 of 288
Nope, doesn't offend me either.

When a place or event is "no kids", I don't go. MY life has changed forever because I have a baby. That doesn't mean everyone else's life has to revolve around me and my baby.
post #174 of 288
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Originally Posted by 2cutiekitties View Post
I have not read all the reviews, but you know you cant take a toddler to the elvis museum right? Research it before you go and you will find all sorts of good info on how it is NOT baby friendly, will save you time and hassle!
Graceland? my son went with us when he was 19 months old, and we had a great time.
post #175 of 288
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
I don't think anyone is arguing that places should all CATER to children or be child-friendly. I like lots of places that are not kid friendly (though strangely, I suppose, my kids love them, too). I simply disagree with businesses that REFUSE children on the grounds that they are children.

My kids go to get their nails done at a spa with my mom, they enjoy a fancy meal at a very-kid-unfriendly restaurant on New Year's Day every year, they come to all kinds of movies with their dad and I (and enjoy them), etc. I don't expect or even want any of those places to be kid-friendly, with cookies or candy or whatever else kids are supposed to appreciate. I just don't want them to turn my well-behaved children away simply because they haven't reached some arbitrary birthday yet.



And that can be your decision to make, as your kids' parent. It would likely be mine as well . . . but I do think that decision belongs in the hands of parents, not the law.

Dar and Thismama, I am really sorry to hear about the experiences your kids had recently.
Jessy, would you like someone to decide who's kids can come and which ones can't based on that favoritism? Would you like someone else to define "well behaved?" Cause I've seen that definition vary widely. I think it's okay to refuse kids on the premises because you really can't predict which ones are oh so mature for their age. I was very well behaved usually (except for the damned bank) but guess what? Sometimes it alienates the other customers who, for whatever reason, want to be away from kids. If those people make up a large number of your clientele, then you might want to consider making your business child-free.

There are plenty of other places for families to go to.
post #176 of 288
Just jumping in to share a B&B experience...

When dd was about 5, we went to a B&B with her. I didn't know about the "no kids" thing when I called, and they told me they don't normally host children. They explained why (antiques that can be easily broken, don't want kids jumping on the bed, etc) and asked my about my dd. I told them about dd, who is a very cautious child, and is very respectful of other's property. She also really appreciates small, quiet settings (over large hotels/motels). They agreed that it sounded like she would do fine, and we made the reservation.

It went great, and dd had a wonderful time. They had some videos and board/card games in the living room that we could use in our room, so they did even have some kid entertainment. When we checked out, they said that dd was welcome back at any time

Now, it would not have gone that way when dd was 1-3 yo. SHe was a big time tantrummer at that age (multiple meltdowns a day), and being away from home was a trigger for her tantrums. Motels with concrete walls were our friends for that period time. Likewise, I might never bring ds to a B&B, as he is shaping up to be a pretty active, semi destructive little guy I can understand why B&B owners would not want dc who act like my dd at age 1-3, or my son acts now, at a B&B. But maybe some B&B owners would be flexible if you just have a conversation with them? Or maybe the conversation will reveal that it really isn't a place you want to take your dc (expectations of behavior that are too high for your dc to meet).
post #177 of 288
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Graceland? my son went with us when he was 19 months old, and we had a great time.
hmmm, I was going to go earlier this year and I read some site with hundreds of reviews, a lot of them complaining about how it was not baby/toddler friendly. Maybe it was just not stroller friendly?
post #178 of 288
I don't have a problem with no-children venues, and I love kids. Reading one of posts about never banning children, leaving it up to the parents - this gives me the chills. Can you imagine going to a strip club (I don't, but just imagine) and have a 5 year old next to you watching the girls strip? Or going to a X rated movie with a family sitting next to you with multiple aged kids? Or having a special candlelight dinner with a screaming baby? We usually do family things, since I have two small grandkids, but I do enjoy my time with my dh away from the noise and hustle of little ones. Not all children are as "well behaved" as their parents think they are...........
post #179 of 288
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Originally Posted by newlynaturaldad View Post
That is not right in my eyes. I understand where they are coming from with the romantic aspect but wherever my children are not allowed, I am not either.
This is how I feel as well.

I didn't know that about B&Bs. Good to know. Now I know where not to spend my money.

I do feel it is discrimination. My child is a person. Wherever I go, he is allowed as well. I am his Mom. Also, DD better be allowed where I am considering she is a nursling.

I wouldn't raise a huge stink, but I do vote very well with my pocketbook, especially in this economy.
post #180 of 288
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Originally Posted by 2cutiekitties View Post
hmmm, I was going to go earlier this year and I read some site with hundreds of reviews, a lot of them complaining about how it was not baby/toddler friendly. Maybe it was just not stroller friendly?
Well it's Elvis' home, it's not the Met, it doesn't have an elevator it has stairs it doesn't have long wide hallways. My son was in the sling when we toured the inside of the main residence, but for the parts outside he walked around with us and did great. I think we spent about 2 hours there.

Seriously for those who have never been, Graceland is freaking awesome! One of those places that if you are within 100 or 150 miles on your way too or from somewhere it is worth going out of your way to attend.
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