We don't accept children - Page 3

[Peppermint Leaf]

Originally Posted by Kirsten

THANK YOU!!! Not everything is for everybody. There is a time and a place. I love my kids - and usually everyone else's - but they aren't welcome everywhere. I am always blown away when people (it seems always to be women) think their kids should be allowed in their college classes, their workplace, all wedding ceremonies (some of which are kid-friendly and some of which are not).

Husbands aren't welcome at bridal showers. No one gets upset about it. It just isn't for them. Doesn't mean we don't like them or are husband-haters. Wives aren't welcome at the annual canoe trip my dp takes with his high school buddies. No big deal.

I'm sure there are lots of hotels in the area that would work for the whole family to stay. I haven't personally stayed in B & Bs before - because it just seems like not enough privacy. OP, I hope you find something that will work for you. Congrats on your dp coming home!

[mytwogirls]

Originally Posted by grniys

See... I just don't see it as discrimination. The business is geared for couples on romantic getaways without kids. I just don't think EVERYTHING must be child-friendly.

This! OP I understand your frustration and I honestly hope you can find the right place for your family to spend your time together. But, I can say not every retreat should be family friendly. When I was researching places for our honeymoon it took me a LONG time to find a couples only resort in St. Lucia. The last thing I wanted on my honeymoon was hearing screaming kids (not saying yours is a screamer ) while Dh and I were trying to enjoy a relaxing evening on the beach. It is just nice to have a retreat to go to without kids. If kids were allowed everywhere then it would be a pretty bummer of a place to vacation anywhere. That said I take my children almost everywhere I go in public, grocery store, post office, dr. office, and weddings and receptions and celebrations that are family oriented. (I am trying to say I am open to having children around 99 percent of the time and my children have never spent the night away from me but there is a time and place for adults only.)

[1littlebit]

i think they should have put it on their website. if you don't accept children just say so. assuming that everyone knows is arrogant and it will lead to upsetting people who do not just know. not everyone frequents B&Bs and not every B&B is the same ... and in other countries they are often very child friendly. if you don't allow kids just say so on the website. really really simple.

o and we do not accept kids is rude... how about we are an adults only establishment.

[riverscout]

Originally Posted by Swan3

And in terms of Latin America I definitely think there's a different cultural acceptance of kids. They go where the adults go, families travel together instead of without kids.

Southern Europe in particular seems much the same. You see kids out everywhere with there parents, even in nice restaurants that if it were here would be considered too nice for kids. As a parent there you aren't subjected to a life of Olive Garden or Red Robin.

[karina5]

Originally Posted by riverscout

Southern Europe in particular seems much the same. You see kids out everywhere with there parents, even in nice restaurants that if it were here would be considered too nice for kids. As a parent there you aren't subjected to a life of Olive Garden or Red Robin.

I see kids in nice restaurants here. I don't see the kid-hating thing in the US that people are talking about. Maybe it's just my community. Kids are everywhere here, not just Olive Garden.

What country is it that they leave their babies outside in the stroller while the parents are inside eating? Sweden I believe...? I think that's awesome!

[choli]

When I want to bring my kids I go to a family friendly hotel. When I want a romantic adult weekend, I go to a B & B. If I arrived at the B&B and there were a lot of kids, I would cancel if policy permitted, and strike it off my list if not permitted.

I wouldn't take my kids to a spa where they would ruin the ambience either. There is a time and a place for everything.

[Twinklefae]

I just don't understand why they would say that. I've never heard of a B&B in this area that doesn't "accept" children. I know some will include a message like "We have many breakables in our home. If you have young chilren, you may find it more relaxing in alternative accomadation." That's different though, it's more a "know your kids" message.

To me, it just sounds stupid. Why would you close yourself off from that much business, unless you are in an area where you are never empty? (Which may be why it's the way it is here, since we have a long "dry spell" tourist wise every year.)

[AbbieB]

I was just thinking that even having a label of "family-friendly" implies that we, as a culture, are not.

I wonder if the the southern Europe and Latin cultures that the PP's have mentioned have a term for "family-friendly".

[karina5]

If you Google, you can find kid-free hotels and such EVERYWHERE.

Check this out.

http://www.asiarooms.com/thailand/ko...otel-room.html

Child Policy
No Kid Allowed

Others
This hotel do not accept kid.

[AbbieB]

Originally Posted by choli

When I want to bring my kids I go to a family friendly hotel. When I want a romantic adult weekend, I go to a B & B. If I arrived at the B&B and there were a lot of kids, I would cancel if policy permitted, and strike it off my list if not permitted.

I wouldn't take my kids to a spa where they would ruin the ambience either. There is a time and a place for everything.

But who is to say what the "time and place" is?

Originally Posted by Twinklefae

I just don't understand why they would say that. I've never heard of a B&B in this area that doesn't "accept" children. I know some will include a message like "We have many breakables in our home. If you have young chilren, you may find it more relaxing in alternative accomadation." That's different though, it's more a "know your kids" message.

To me, it just sounds stupid. Why would you close yourself off from that much business, unless you are in an area where you are never empty? (Which may be why it's the way it is here, since we have a long "dry spell" tourist wise every year.)

I see you are from NS.

This is the only place I have ever experienced B&B's, I guess that's why the idea of B&B's as usually an adult only kinda place takes me by surprise.

See, it is cultural.

[riverscout]

Originally Posted by karina5

What country is it that they leave their babies outside in the stroller while the parents are inside eating? Sweden I believe...? I think that's awesome!

Actually I think it's Denmark. But it's not because they don't welcome babies but more that places are too small to accommodate strollers. I think they believe the fresh air is good for them too.

[1littlebit]

Originally Posted by karina5

If you Google, you can find kid-free hotels and such EVERYWHERE.

Check this out.

http://www.asiarooms.com/thailand/ko...otel-room.html

and they put it on their website!!! like this B&B should have done.

[karina5]

Originally Posted by riverscout

Actually I think it's Denmark. But it's not because they don't welcome babies but more that places are too small to accommodate strollers. I think they believe the fresh air is good for them too.

Denmark! That's it. Yeah, I think it's awesome. ANd it's great that they feel it's so safe. OMG, I can't even imagine leaving my kid outside like that, but it's a really neat tradition.

[karina5]

Originally Posted by AbbieB

But who is to say what the "time and place" is?

the business owner.

That's why there are all types of hotels, guest houses, and b and b's. It should be up to the owner to decide.

[riverscout]

Originally Posted by karina5

I don't see the kid-hating thing in the US that people are talking about.

I don't see it as much as I read about on parenting boards of all places. Seems like most of the people who don't want kids around are parents looking to escape,

[AbbieB]

Originally Posted by karina5

I see kids in nice restaurants here. I don't see the kid-hating thing in the US that people are talking about. Maybe it's just my community. Kids are everywhere here, not just Olive Garden.

What country is it that they leave their babies outside in the stroller while the parents are inside eating? Sweden I believe...? I think that's awesome!

Am I understanding this post correctly, you think it's awesome for parents to park their child in a stroller outside and then go inside to eat?

Or are you saying that families with strollers eat outside, there is a no stroller section inside, and that's what's awesome.

[choli]

Originally Posted by AbbieB

But who is to say what the "time and place" is?

The owner of the establishment that is trying to create the ambience, of course.

[mammal_mama]

Originally Posted by Sheal

So Toys R Us discriminates against adults because they gear their business to children? It's not discrimination, it's gearing a personal business to an industry with a demand for it. Simple economics.

I don't know about where you live, but where I live Toys R Us doesn't turn away the adults at the door.

[One_Girl]

I love to go places where kids aren't allowed sometimes. Kids and adults play differently and they both need places for their kind of activity. When I a burnt out on noise and people and looking for a retreat from reality I look for places where kids will not be. I think they should have phrased their response more politely, but I don't think it is wrong of them to have a peaceful adult atmosphere for people who would like an adult holiday.

[lolar2]

Originally Posted by stickywicket67

op-

are you from Europe? i think that maybe you are used to the concept of B&B in a more European context?

i know in England it's more family oriented and less expensive to stay in a B&B. it used to be anyway...

in America B&Bs are considered chi chi foo foo expensive romantic couples getaway places.

shame though 'cause i think it's nicer the other way.

i mean who wants to get busy with the dh when right next door is the host and hostess!!?? that's just weird.

sorry they were not accepting of kids. i think it's just a cultural difference though.

i've always thought it would be nice to have a real B&B where i live. one where there is a big main room with books and puzzles and musical instruments and a fireplace and bikes to take to the beach and kids are welcome and it's a reasonably priced family friendly alternative to a boring hotel. hmmmm. maybe in my next career...

Yes, that's right.