I can remember 3 things, the first two said by the bonehead who delivered my son at 30 weeks and the last by the neonatologist.
1) My son has just been delivered by c-section at 30 weeks. I'm still laying on the table in the OR and the doctor said something about how I'd have to have a c-section again if I have any more children. I mumble something about that I don't think I'm having any more. He then asks me if I want him to tie my tubes since he's in there anyway. Um, isn't that something I might like to think about longer than 15 seconds?? I've tried rationalizing this as maybe he thought I was planning on having a tubal or something but wouldn't I have brought it up if I was??
2) Dr. Bonehead comes into my room and says "The baby is doing good. You know, when I was a resident, we didn't even *try* to save babies born at 30 weeks." Again, I try to rationalize it as he must have been thinking how it's so great more babies have a chance now but I still think it was rude how he said it.
3) Neonatologist is concerned about my son's ability to hold up his head. Says "He could have any one of a number of neurological diseases from a list as long as my arm, none of which are treatable." DS had not been examined by a neurologist at this point, so I think this comment was premature and uncalled for. Neurologist ends up "diagnosing" DS with a big head...thankfully no problems at all. Neonatologist actually wrote me a letter to apologize for his comment.
My preemie is going to be 9 in May and I still remember each of these comments clear as a bell. People just don't realize the impact their words can have.