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if i were you, i would stay home, especially if your lo is small. Dh and i had that talk last night, and we are in a massive amount of debt, w/o insurance and things are just not improving. We have both agreed since dh will be able to stay with ds 2 days during the work week, and since he is older (2 1/2) and no longer bf'ing, that me working is practically our only option for us to get out of debt. I know what you mean about the debt repayment. i have tried to convince dh that the fastest way to get out of debt would be for me to work the night shift, and ds goes w/o daycare, but he is not interested in my going out at late hours of the night working. So we will take things slower, but in all honesty, he said that he wanted me to work for just a year, which would pay off about 14000 of our 19000 cc/debt, but if things are going well and working out w/the job i find, i will more than likely stay for 2 to 2 1/2 years and finish up all our debt except mortgage. Good luck in your decision, it is hard to choose. I have delayed going to work as long as possible and i think that we are near the breaking point. As long as you are diligent with sticking to budget i think you shouldn't have any problems staying home on just your dh's income.
post #42 of 44
I'd SAH for sure :
post #43 of 44
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Originally Posted by Crunchy*VT*Mom View Post
That is too much work.

Your mother would be raising your baby.

She got her chance when she had you, now its your turn.
No, the OP would still be raising her baby just as much as her partner is also raising their child, even though he works 2 jobs and goes to school. Mothers who have assistance caring for their children are STILL raising them.

But in the OPs case it is clear that she really wants to stay home and I encourage her to do so.
post #44 of 44
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Originally Posted by Ellien C View Post
No, the OP would still be raising her baby just as much as her partner is also raising their child, even though he works 2 jobs and goes to school. Mothers who have assistance caring for their children are STILL raising them.

But in the OPs case it is clear that she really wants to stay home and I encourage her to do so.
maybe neither parent would be raising the baby, then?

I mean, if you are with your child less than 1 waking hour a day, is that really raising him or her?
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