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post #21 of 29
Are you kidding me?? Bless your heart OP, that this is even a dilemma. It would not be for me at all. It would be, a big, fat no way in hell I would be attending a function where people treat me in the manner you've described.

As for my husband, I would leave it up to him whether he goes or not and if he asked my opinion I would just express to him that of course I will still love him if he goes (like, I wouldn't divorce over it!) but that I would imagine he would not feel too good if I spent my time with people who treated him like such trash (parents or otherwise). So, I mean he wouldn't exactly have my blessing but I wouldn't forbid it or anything like that.

Tara
post #22 of 29
I would just have DH tell them that you guys won't be attending because of the way they treated you at the Christmas dinner.
post #23 of 29
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Originally Posted by neetling View Post
Or just send them a card that says "suck it"

Oh God, sorry, that was hilarious. Is it wrong that I silently read that in my voice...?

Anyhoo, I wouldn't go either. Why even put yourself out for that type of abuse? Your DH definitely needs to tell them you won't be going, and exactly why.
post #24 of 29
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update in op
post #25 of 29
I'm so sorry you're feeling abandoned. Is counseling an option for the two of you? Honestly, without some sort of counseling, I don't know how the two of you are going to be able to move past this together.

post #26 of 29
I am so sorry that that was the solution he chose. That is not very supportive of you or your children.
I suggest counselling, or asking your self 'What do I want?' 'Is this what I want?'
post #27 of 29
Dh is choosing to support his pweshus mommy and daddy instead of his wife and children. This is NOT acceptable in any way, shape, or form!!!

You don't have an IL problem, you have a dh problem! I would honestly say that him going is a BETRAYAL to you and your marriage.

I would suggest counseling pronto. If he doesn't want to go, then you go by yourself (if you can afford it.)

This isn't a marriage dear. He's already married to his mommy and his daddy. You're there for the sex and to be a womb donor for the family.
post #28 of 29
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Originally Posted by captain crunchy View Post
Are you kidding me?? Bless your heart OP, that this is even a dilemma. It would not be for me at all. It would be, a big, fat no way in hell I would be attending a function where people treat me in the manner you've described.

As for my husband, I would leave it up to him whether he goes or not and if he asked my opinion I would just express to him that of course I will still love him if he goes (like, I wouldn't divorce over it!) but that I would imagine he would not feel too good if I spent my time with people who treated him like such trash (parents or otherwise). So, I mean he wouldn't exactly have my blessing but I wouldn't forbid it or anything like that.

Tara


Good luck.
post #29 of 29
I am so sorry. I would be very angry at DH if he did this and I could not trust him. Actually, we have been there before, but we got through it. Things are much different now.

I hope they get better for you soon.

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