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When are you planning your next baby?

post #1 of 45
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I'm not ready to have another baby and dh thinks we're "done," but I was wondering what others in our DDC had in mind for their families. Are you planning on having more children? If you are, will you let nature take its course and let pregnancy happen when it naturally would? Do your and your dp/dh share the same thoughts on expanding or not expanding your families?

It's really difficult for me to imagine not having more children. I have a secret plot to get pregnant. Well... It's not too secret as dh is pretty aware of it.
post #2 of 45
Well we've always talked about having 3-4 kids..... and I 'think' we both would like a 4th... and somedays I say 'at least another one' ... but other days I think I'm crazy to think I could handle another kid LOL!

But I love love love to be pregnant (even if it hurts, and is difficult, it's just such an amazing experience)... and birth is a neat thing too (ditto).. and I love the breastfeeding experience (ditta again lol).

I have a terrible time imagining EVER ending our fertility..... Sigh... I don't know what will happen. Since I tend to get PPD ... I suppose we won't keep having kids forever.. but maybe another one or two lol.....

ETA: lol I guess I didn't answer the original question. I would like to make it to three years this time between kids.... but so far I have made it 21 months, and 24 (almost 25) months lol.... so who knows if we can space them that far. We do 'try' to prevent for at least the first year or more.
post #3 of 45
IF we decide to have another, it will be in 4-5 years. I love that my girls are so close in age, but it's not easy by any means. Plus I think I'd like for them to understand the experience of pregnancy/baby a little more- dd1 was pretty much oblivious to my pregnancy, and could care less that she has a baby sister. And it would be nice to have the girls at an age where they could "help" a little more.

I've always pictured myself with three, but pregnancy and m/s is really, really hard on me. I don't know if I can put myself and my family through that again. But DH and I have decided to wait a few years and then talk about it before making any permanant fertility decisions.
post #4 of 45
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I said I only wanted one, but if we get pregnant again, I'd not be upset. We don't do much to prevent pregnancy really, so I guess it's always a possibility.

If I had been interested in becoming a parent when I was younger (I'm 35), I'd say I would ideally want a 4-5 year space between two siblings. I just wasn't in a good place to be a mother in my twenties and early thirties, though, so that sort of plan isn't likely for me now. I know having a baby at 40 is not a big deal, but I don't see myself doing it.

DH is very happy with one, but I think he'd love more; probably up to three.

I loved being pregnant, it was an easy pregnancy, had an awesome birth experience, and I'm loving being a mother, so to have more is tempting. Also, I'm very drawn to adoption. I'm just not planning on more babies. If it happens, it's meant to be and I'll be thrilled to experience it all again.

I reserve the right o change my mind!
post #5 of 45
I think I could be done, but I bet we will have 2 more in about 4 years.
post #6 of 45
Ha, ha, our PLAN...

is to have one more, when I'm done with nursing school, which would give a 3-4 year age gap.

There are so many reasons why this might not actually happen. 1) Dh is being a turd about birth control and I'm being lazy - I don't want to use anything else other than Fertility Awareness but it's hard to check my cervix when I'm going to the bathroom holding Addie and Dh hasn't pulled out when I thought he was going to; 2) I'm applying for the nursing program this spring, which if I get in, great, but the programs are so impacted that even with my 4.0 gpa there's only a very small chance I'll actually get in and then there goes our preferred age gap OR trying to deal with pg and a newborn in the middle of the program; 3) Dh has been talking about how one might just be enough.

I really don't *want* to get pregnant when the universe decides, but that may actually be the better course if I actually want to have a second. Just please, not within the next year, and preferrably could my fertility hold off for 3 years please?
post #7 of 45
we are 95% sure we are done but only time will tell for sure.
post #8 of 45
Right now I can't really get my mind around doing this again. Pregnancy and labor were so difficult for me that I think if we do have another it will be b/c DH wants to (as in, he will be the one to bring it up, not me).

It won't be any sooner than 3 years down the line though, preferably in 5 years. DH and I are definitely on the same page as far as waiting that long for the next one, but I think he wants 3 kids and I'm not even sure I want 2. Only time will tell (and we aren't using NFP so the decision will definitely be a deliberate one).
post #9 of 45
Dh wants no more.. he didn't want a second Right now I don't want anymore, but I don't know how much of that is just stress about our current situation (and yet another newborn period spent alone). IF there's another, it'll probably no be planned, and I'm sure I'd be happy, but I hope IF that happens, it's in like 4-5yrs when dh is out of the Navy and ds and dd are a older. If, if, if!
post #10 of 45
The one I'm cradling in my leg right now is supposed to be our last, but until the vasectomy is complete, I suppose nothing is permanent. Although I guess since there is no action here, we don't really have to worry.

I've always wanted three, but DH seems a little indifferent to this baby, just as he was with DD, but he now adores her, so now we have him. DH wants another girl, but I think he wants me back too. I'm 36, so my fertility may be fleeting too, since my grandmotherwho I'm physically similar to, went through menopause @35, & my period was super irreg. prior to this preg.

That said,I'd love to go through labor & delivery again, & most of pregnancy.
post #11 of 45
Well, we were going to start 'trying' again when Calli turned 2 BUT, DH pulled a surprise move....or didn't pull, I should say. I haven't got my first PP period yet but I have had high temps, cravings for shrimp and yesterday after carrying Calli in her carseat I had some light pink spotting on the TP once when I wiped. Last night I had brown tinged mucous. ALL of these things happened when I was pregnant with Calli soooooo. Our plan may just be screwed up LOL.
post #12 of 45
we would like another and i am 38 now so hopefully, i will be pregnant again in a year!
ps excuse my lower caps as i am bf-ing and only hv one hand.
post #13 of 45
LOL, no one cares about your lowercase OrchideZ, we've all been there!

I am one of those people who don't plan. We are completely (as we almost always have been) about letting things be and knowing God is in charge. I would love have more kids, but I also realize that this may be my last.
post #14 of 45
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Originally Posted by trimestersdoula View Post
Well, we were going to start 'trying' again when Calli turned 2 BUT, DH pulled a surprise move....or didn't pull, I should say. I haven't got my first PP period yet but I have had high temps, cravings for shrimp and yesterday after carrying Calli in her carseat I had some light pink spotting on the TP once when I wiped. Last night I had brown tinged mucous. ALL of these things happened when I was pregnant with Calli soooooo. Our plan may just be screwed up LOL.
Ooooh! That'd be so exciting! (at least for me )

Thanks for replying ladies. I'm really sad dh doesn't want another. I don't think I can say I'm done. I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want another baby. My ideal time to start trying would be when Hazel is 2, but since I'm trying to foil dh anytime will do

We're "using" condoms. I've put the responsibility all on dh. Even said "If you don't put one on, I might get pregnant." He has yet to put one on and we've DTD every night since we started up again Probably the LAM will protect us for awhile.
post #15 of 45
I am soooo nervous right now. I would love to have another baby, whether it be now or later but I am nervous because I would have to have another c/s. That scares the heck out of me.
post #16 of 45
We will be preventing (condoms and FA) for now and will start trying again in 2-3 years. I used to didn't think it would be a big deal if we happened to get pregnant soon after the first, but I know now that it would be best for my sanity to wait a couple of years.
post #17 of 45
Nevah!!!!! So done. Soooooooo done.
post #18 of 45
As far as hubby is concerned "WE'RE DONE! NO MORE!" But I'm like "We'll see..." I'm not 100% sure that I don't want another, but 2 seems like a good number to me right now. I'm not going to rule out anything quite yet.
post #19 of 45
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Originally Posted by Changed View Post
Nevah!!!!! So done. Soooooooo done.


My main reason for not wanting to get preggo before 2 years is I REALLY want Hazel to have an opportunity to nurse without outside interferences that long.
post #20 of 45
ASAP. But it took us 6 years to get pregant this time. We really want 4-5 kids but will probably adopt a couple.
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