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[missgranger]

It sounds like we have the same kids.

I have noticed that things are much more manageable when we do have some structure and routine, especially with my youngest who is like your toddler ... not satisfied with imitation and wanting what I have and throwing a fit if it doesn't happen.

My friend's oldest is sort of a high-need/intense kid, too, and she introduced a gluten-free/dairy free diet and there has been a remarkable change in their interactions.

Good luck. No real advice, but letting you know you are not alone.

[TinkerBelle]

Originally Posted by AngieB

Please, no one flame me to badly for this but.....

I think it's time to start standing up for yourself! AP parenting does not = slave to children. If you are busy doing something do not drop everything and rush to them whenever they call. If they are school age then they are old enough to learn some patience and respect for you. Even the toddler should be able to wait a few minutes before you get to him. If you do have to drop something because of a fight then put them in their rooms or a two different areas of the house and then go finish what you where doing and then come back and handle the issue. A schedule sounds like a very good idea. Schedule in chores and a quiet time when you are making dinner. Or have the two older kids play with the toddler while you are cooking.

I once went to a Waldorf sponsored parenting class and the speaker said that your home is your Castle and you are the queen. Your children are the people in the castle and village that you care for. Would a queen allow herself to be treated the way you are allowing yourself to be treated? You can be a kind and loving queen, but still there should be order and respect in your kingdom.

I totally agree. Children need to learn that they don't always get to be first in everything and in every situation. They need to learn that Mama has needs too.

You can be AP/GD/Whatever without allowing your children to run your entire existence and home.