Originally Posted by Graeme's Ma
Thanks, guys. I still am not sure what route to go here because I feel completely secure in my choices, but I feel like being honest to any kind of medical professional might be a bad idea. That SUCKS!!! I don't want to lie about bf'ing, vaxing, cosleeping, etc... I want to stand up for myself and tell everyone why I do things the way I do, but I don't want to be harassed about my decisions because others disagree with them. That is the main reason I have for trying to keep a distance from docs altogether. I have my beliefs and they just will not even consider that they may be valid. It's incredibly frustrating. I'm a new parent but have done my homework and feel like I'm making the right choices. Thank goodness for places like this where (if nothing else) I can get a little support from peeps who feel the same. Please cross your fingers (or pray or whatever is your thang) for us that we get through this without being unnecessarily harassed and belittled and have no unwanted CPS visits. It's really difficult to stand up to an "authority" on these matters. I have a really hard time not getting all flustered and just "losing it" when I talk to these people. I can't keep my thoughts straight because I'm so worried, panicked and just caught off-guard when I'm confronted with these kinds of things.
I printed off a bunch of stats and things of that nature just in case CPS comes to my door. I guess it'd be easier to pull out some info than to try to quote stats of the top of my head, but it's just such a bummer to have to worry about something like that. It feels like my time could be much better spent hanging out and playing with my baby than freaking out and crying over the stupid keyboard over this crap. UGH!!! What an enormous waste.
I'd put your energy into finding a lawyer familiar with the law on vacc and dealing with CPS, and briefing him/her right now on what happened, just in case.
I don't believe that any number of papers on the values of natural remedies would convince an overzealous CPS worker. Even though we know we're intelligent parents, the truth is that mainstream America would sneer at the notion of breastmilk as a remedy for pinkeye. Just think about it, most Americans die at the thought of a baby actually - gasp - drinking
breastmilk. Uisng it to cure something that you could use a drug for would make you look like a lunatic to many CPS caseworkers or judges. Sad, but true.
I'd also put energy into cleaning your house - I mean, really cleaning. And line up friends, teachers, your minister, etc, to call on if CPS were to turn up. Also, research the law on what to do if they show up. From what I've always understood, unless they have a warrant, you should send them away and ask them to make an appt, to which you will turn up with your lawyer, minister, child's teacher etc.
Once you have these safeguards in place, you will sleep much more soundly at night.