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post #1 of 8
12/22/08 at 10:53pm
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My DD is mature, she may be 2, but she's really not like many 2 year old's. She seems more mature to me, PL'd, drawing, vastly many other things that most 2 year ol's just don't do...Plus I look at many toddler problems(issues) and she is beyond those things. So do I make the move? stay on the fence? I just would like to get a little advice.

Thanks.
post #2 of 8
12/22/08 at 11:47pm
It might depend on the issue. I had a two year old who was spoke, and often acted, like a much older child, but she was still very much 2 emotionally--tantrums and meltdowns galore! So if I were wanting to talk about games or books or "talking about death with a child"--the child forum would be best. But if I were talking about "meltdowns in target" or "how to get dd to leave and get in the carseat" or "pants for a PL 2 yo" the toddler forum was best.

Now ds is 2, and is very, very 2, lol. It does simplify things!
post #3 of 8
12/22/08 at 11:49pm
this forum is appropriate as she is a child!
post #4 of 8
12/23/08 at 1:36am
I might be in the minority, but I think you're more apt to get good advice in the toddler forum. There is a HUGE difference between a 2.5yo and a 9yo. I know that when I see posts from moms of 2 and 3yos in this forum, I sometimes comment, but I never know if I should. My youngest is 5, and at this point in time it's hard for me to remember the difference between a 2.5yo and a 3yo. Whereas, other people currently parenting toddlers might have better ideas about what is and isn't appropriate for a 2.5yo. People currently parenting a 2.5yo can tell you what works for them on a day-to-day basis, whereas people who haven't parented a 2.5yo for several years may only be able to give you more general advice.

Of course, you're more than welcome here. And I know it can be tremendously helpful to read the threads that pertain to older children to give you an idea about what might be coming in the future. But as the mother of a few 'advanced' kids, I can tell you that IMO, academic and social maturity don't neccesarily develop at the same rate, and it's more often the social maturity issues that create the most problems.
post #5 of 8
12/23/08 at 4:37am
DS is 2 3/4 yo and I split my time between the toddlers and childhood forum, but don''t really fit either. DS really doesn't act much like a toddler. He has talked in full sentences, potty learned, goes to preschool, uses the potty, yada-yada for quite a while now.

We had a discussion related to this a while back in the toddler subforum here http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=942618

This is what I said...
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Originally Posted by eepster View Post
I see it as there are fuzzy gray areas between newborn, infant, baby, toddler, preschooler, child, tween, preteen, teenager, adolesent, adult, grownup, middle age, mature adult, old age and finally "wow I can't believe you're still kicking around" ancientness. All these stages of life over lap. Some people are precocious and reach some stage early, and other people are late bloomers and take longer to get there.

Toddlers: toddle, wear diapers, need mommy to translate what they say for others, need help with even basic tasks, have little or no self control, are ruled by emotion, etc

Preschoolers: Are reasonably well coordinated, use the bathroom, can do stuff independently, at least try to behave appropriately, can use reason and negotiate, etc.

Most humans spend at least some time with some preschooler traits and some toddler traits, we are not butterflys who can be easily seperated into the caterpillar, pupae, and adult life stages, we blend and blur into a complex spectrum.
post #6 of 8
12/23/08 at 4:46am
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Originally Posted by annethcz View Post
There is a HUGE difference between a 2.5yo and a 9yo.
My 2 3/4 yo has much more in common with the 4 and 5 yo at his preschool than he does with most 13 mo though.
post #7 of 8
12/23/08 at 1:48pm
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Originally Posted by rainbowmoon View Post
this forum is appropriate as she is a child!
Exactly-I find that while yes she still does act in some ways like a 2 y/o most of the time she doesn't. She speaks very well and most of the questions I am finding in the toddler forum are geared toward eating(why they won't), PL-ing, and developmental stuff that DD is way beyond. I do have the occasional need for tantruming based info, but it's more general needs kids games, toys, things that are a little more developmentally appropriate.

I get that there is a huge difference between a 2y/o and a 9y/o-obviously there is a difference, but a 9y/o was once a2y/o so maybe there is some insight that someone could give on older child developmental things. That's what I was wanting.
post #8 of 8
12/23/08 at 2:28pm
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Originally Posted by Norasmomma View Post

I get that there is a huge difference between a 2y/o and a 9y/o-obviously there is a difference, but a 9y/o was once a2y/o so maybe there is some insight that someone could give on older child developmental things. That's what I was wanting.
exactly! the moms on here have already BTDT is my theory!
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