So sad...they circed him

[rik8144]

I tried soooo hard to convince my SIL and BIL to leave their baby boy intact. My DH and my BIL are intact, why would they do this? Well, I just changed his diaper and he is circed. BIL claims he was picked on in high school. No matter what I said about new circ rates or anything would convince them apparently. I am so angry and sad.

[Ms. Mom]

I know it's hard when someone makes a choice like this despite having the right information

[Dabble]

Ugh... I too have suffered the heartbreak of having people make that choice. Poor little baby.

[Night_Nurse]

You did the right thing by trying. I'm so sorry they did it anyway but at least you tried. The thing about teasing is that some kids just get picked on. It's part of life. I wonder what they'll do if their son ever needs to get glasses or braces or if he's too short or too tall? All of those things can lead to other kids teasing. The thing is they'd probably arm their child with some self esteem and clever come-backs to deal. And all those issues would be seen every day in school, you can't hide your height or braces, but people will hardly ever see his genitals. You'd think they could have dealt with the "teasing" issue (not that I belief that'll happen much or at all even) by sitting down and talking to him just like they would for teasing over being called a "four eyes" or something.

[Fyrestorm]

It looks like DD might need glasses or at least an eye patch for a bit...maybe I should just let her have trouble reading and bumping into things so she doesn't have to suffer the teasing that might possibly happen because of the glasses or patch?

[kldliam]

I applaud your efforts Rikki. I know it hurts. i know how it feels. But you were the only one who tried to protect that baby. You deserve a medal as far as I am concerned!!

Keep on fighting, there's another baby boy out there who needs your voice and good judgement.

[rik8144]

Thanks all. My other SIL (DHs sister, this is also DHs brother we are talking about) couldn't believe it either. I just can't look at them the same way. He had to go to the NICU, then was readmitted a day later for high bili, she quit breastfeeding on the advice of the pedi (another thread..). After all of that how could she hand over her baby to be tortured?

That night, after the left, I was changing DS. I scooped his naked self up and hugged him tight. I told him how perfect I though he was and I told him I would never remove a part of his body. It brought tears to my eyes. Like SIL & BIL didn't think their son was perfect enough just the way he was.

Did that make any sense?