Okay, I just talked to DH. He does want to catch the baby, but is afraid of hurting her and hurting me. It has nothing to do about his reservations with my body (he says doesn't have any
). I'm not surprised by this. He's been to all my prenatal appointments—including ones that involve vaginal and breast exams. I think his mom just totally misread his hesitation. Like I said, his folks are very traditional...his father was at the hospital, but wasn't even in the room when he was born.
I think it's really helped we've been watching Youtube videos and birthing DVDs in our birthing class.
His main concern is whether or not how he is supposed to guide the baby out. On Youtube it looks like people just catch them. On one of the DVDs we saw, the nurse pulled the baby out (it was a hospital birth). We're going through a birthing center so I think the awesome midwives will help advise him if he catches her.
It's funny. There is so much focus on first-time moms and their confidence as parents that I think birthing partners sometimes get left on the sidelines.