Weekly Chat 12/29! - Page 2

[jrabbit]

42weeks: aboslutely NO signals of impending arrival here. Kids still with Grandma & Papa. House is eerily quiet.

[CAKJNH]

Well I've hit 41 weeks! This is crazy!

I wrote an email to my MW and told her I am going to call my reg OBGYN tomorrow and schedule the tests and look into hospital induction. I've got the contractions, everything else is ready to go, the contractions just don't seem to be strong enough. I don't feel - - right. If that makes sense. Being this far overdue does against everything I know about my body. MW doesn't want to hear that, she just says "oh you're fine." etc. Well I don't feel fine.

If my reg OBGYN says induction, I'm ready for it at this point. I'm in pain ( I don't think there is a muscle in my abdomen that isn't torn, pulled or at least overstretched!), I can't sleep, and today my ankles are swollen up my calves and now my hands, too. Not something I have had to worry about.

My stress levels have sky-rocketed and it can't be healthy for this little guy either. I would like to avoid any PPD, too!

O well. Yet another whine session from NH, lol! Hope everyone else is hanging in there!

[Swandira]

I'm a big advocate of "you know what's OK and what's not with your body." If it doesn't feel right, get a second opinion. So often when someone has a bad birth outcome, it turns out they were actually having those feelings and didn't act on them! You're doing the right thing to see the OB, if the midwife isn't listening to your concerns/taking them seriously.

[bmcneal]

I agree, if something isn't/doesn't feel right, you know your body better than anyone else, so get a second opinion. Still no baby for me, either. I kept hoping and hoping that the cramps/pains I'd been having last night would hav him being born late last night/early early this morning, but no such luck. DD was up running around until 2.30 this morning, so her and I just woke up about an hour ago.

I'm only 40w4d, so I've still got a ways before 42 weeks. I think I/we (DH and I) have figured out what we are going to do about the "can't go over 41 weeks" thing. We're thinking have him check me at my appointment to make sure if there is anything going on. If there is, that probably means that LO is just taking a bit longer to cook, but everything is heading in the right direction. I'm/We're going to ask about a BPP/NST, and maybe if I'm at all progressing, see if he might sweep my membranes. (Do you have to stay in the hospital after they sweep your membranes?) And agree that, come 42 weeks, we'll agree to do something a little more "drastic" (but hopefully not contradictive to a VBAC). DH isn't comfortable with me going past 42 weeks, and I think at that point, I may start to worry, which I imagine wouldn't be a good thing for anyone.

I hope we are all holding our babes soon. I'm starting to feel like he'll never come.

[CAKJNH]

Originally Posted by bmcneal

I'm only 40w4d, so I've still got a ways before 42 weeks. I think I/we (DH and I) have figured out what we are going to do about the "can't go over 41 weeks" thing. We're thinking have him check me at my appointment to make sure if there is anything going on. If there is, that probably means that LO is just taking a bit longer to cook, but everything is heading in the right direction. I'm/We're going to ask about a BPP/NST, and maybe if I'm at all progressing, see if he might sweep my membranes. (Do you have to stay in the hospital after they sweep your membranes?) And agree that, come 42 weeks, we'll agree to do something a little more "drastic" (but hopefully not contradictive to a VBAC). DH isn't comfortable with me going past 42 weeks, and I think at that point, I may start to worry, which I imagine wouldn't be a good thing for anyone.

I hope we are all holding our babes soon. I'm starting to feel like he'll never come.

Thanks everyone! I know it is best to go by my own body, I just hate feeling like I'm putting us all in an awkward situation.

Beth - I had my membranes swept once here at home already. It didn't help me this time, but we'll see at the next appt - depending on what happens tomorrow. I'm going to call OBGYN tomorrow for sure. DH and I are more comfortable with that at this point.

I'm really tired, crabby and crampy today. I just want to sleep. I had my shower and almost couldn't stand, my energy level was just that low. It picked up for awhile, but now I'm crashing again. We'll see what the rest of the day brings.

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by CAKJNH

I'm really tired, crabby and crampy today. I just want to sleep. I had my shower and almost couldn't stand, my energy level was just that low. It picked up for awhile, but now I'm crashing again. We'll see what the rest of the day brings.

That's me lately too. Hungry, tired, cranky, and generally unpleasant, I imagine. Maybe you can get a nice nap in, even if it's short?

[mamavegan]

CAKJNH, are you doing a hospital birth with a midwife or with an OB? It sounds like you need to get a good meal down and have a nap. That's should make you feel a litle better at least. Do you think something is seriously wrong or are you just tired of being pregnant? I'm at 41 weeks, too, but there's no way anyone could talk me into an induction.

Have you seen this thread? There are lots of mamas sharing their stories about inductions and not too many are interested in having one again.

I know these last moments of pregnancy are tough, but hang in there mama!

[CAKJNH]

Originally Posted by mamavegan

CAKJNH, are you doing a hospital birth with a midwife or with an OB? It sounds like you need to get a good meal down and have a nap. That's should make you feel a litle better at least. Do you think something is seriously wrong or are you just tired of being pregnant? I'm at 41 weeks, too, but there's no way anyone could talk me into an induction.

Have you seen this thread? There are lots of mamas sharing their stories about inductions and not too many are interested in having one again.

I know these last moments of pregnancy are tough, but hang in there mama!

Mamavegan, I feel like something just isn't right. Not so much with the baby, but with me. I've had contractions - real contractions not just the BH contractions and then they go away. Last night they lasted 13 hrs!! 5min apart they'd get stronger and longer for almost an hour at a time then fizzle out. The thought that keeps creeping into my mind is that my body is just so worn out at this point that I can't keep up enough hormones to get labor going enough. Which is why I tried the blue cohosh. I didn't get the black but maybe I'll pick it up tomorrow.

I talked to MW today and I am going to be scheduling an NST/BPP just to make sure things are ok. I also won't have a car after DH goes back to work Monday so I'm going to try to get some stuff done this weekend. I really don't know how I feel about a hospital induction.

I'm supposed to do a hb w/a mw. I've never even made my due date before, nevermind gone a week past. I am frustrated but it is just more than that. I can't explain it, really. I'll make more decisions after I have the NST and what not.

I did have a nap today - and I told DH, I'm getting chinese food. I've been wanting that for ages! Ignoring a craving is never a good idea, lol!

Thanks for all the support everyone!

Leanna

[CAKJNH]

Maybe if I just get myself into a mental state of "it's hospital time" he'll just come one his own??

[almadianna]

Originally Posted by CAKJNH

Mamavegan, I feel like something just isn't right. Not so much with the baby, but with me. I've had contractions - real contractions not just the BH contractions and then they go away. Last night they lasted 13 hrs!! 5min apart they'd get stronger and longer for almost an hour at a time then fizzle out. The thought that keeps creeping into my mind is that my body is just so worn out at this point that I can't keep up enough hormones to get labor going enough. Which is why I tried the blue cohosh. I didn't get the black but maybe I'll pick it up tomorrow.

I talked to MW today and I am going to be scheduling an NST/BPP just to make sure things are ok. I also won't have a car after DH goes back to work Monday so I'm going to try to get some stuff done this weekend. I really don't know how I feel about a hospital induction.

I'm supposed to do a hb w/a mw. I've never even made my due date before, nevermind gone a week past. I am frustrated but it is just more than that. I can't explain it, really. I'll make more decisions after I have the NST and what not.

I did have a nap today - and I told DH, I'm getting chinese food. I've been wanting that for ages! Ignoring a craving is never a good idea, lol!

Thanks for all the support everyone!

Leanna

not in your DDC but two of my friends are so I was looking here to see how they were doing.

anyways... i dont know why you feel like your body is too worn out to go into labor... is there a reason? Is it just because you are tired of being pregnant? If so you have more than enough reason to be sick of being pregnant... you have a reason and then some!!

but trust your body...

what you are experiencing is normal, "false" labor is annoying and lasts forever for some women...me included.. i had contractions that were real for around 3 weeks and i made it past 42 weeks with both of my kids.

All pregnancies are different so this one being different doesnt mean anything is wrong per se, just different.

Inductions are brutal and I know that you know the side effects of the pitocin/etc. and the risks associated so I wont go into them.

I just wanted to say that I have been there... both of my children were late. Quite late and I really thought more than once that my body had betrayed me, especially after my marathon 50+ hour labors... but all my body needed was patience.... and I gave it what it needed. It thanked me with two beautiful kids after what seemed like torture. I wouldnt do things any differently because the elation I felt afterwards and the peace of being at home staring at their beautiful faces without worrying about having them taken away for tests or anything else was worth every pain all over again.

you can do it mama. You truly can. You are strong and you have made it this far. Pregnancy doesnt last forever. I promise.

[CAKJNH]

Originally Posted by almadianna

not in your DDC but two of my friends are so I was looking here to see how they were doing.

anyways... i dont know why you feel like your body is too worn out to go into labor... is there a reason? Is it just because you are tired of being pregnant? If so you have more than enough reason to be sick of being pregnant... you have a reason and then some!!

but trust your body...

what you are experiencing is normal, "false" labor is annoying and lasts forever for some women...me included.. i had contractions that were real for around 3 weeks and i made it past 42 weeks with both of my kids.

All pregnancies are different so this one being different doesnt mean anything is wrong per se, just different.

Inductions are brutal and I know that you know the side effects of the pitocin/etc. and the risks associated so I wont go into them.

I just wanted to say that I have been there... both of my children were late. Quite late and I really thought more than once that my body had betrayed me, especially after my marathon 50+ hour labors... but all my body needed was patience.... and I gave it what it needed. It thanked me with two beautiful kids after what seemed like torture. I wouldnt do things any differently because the elation I felt afterwards and the peace of being at home staring at their beautiful faces without worrying about having them taken away for tests or anything else was worth every pain all over again.

you can do it mama. You truly can. You are strong and you have made it this far. Pregnancy doesnt last forever. I promise.

This is pregnancy #6 in 7 years and baby #4. I've got more than just pregnancy issues with pain etc. But really it's not just being frustrated. I was frustrated with DD3, lol. This one I was on bedrest for 2.5 mos trying to keep contractions at bay and to stop the dilation. Now, a month after I've been off bedrest, he's still not here.: I get contractions constantly.

I want to clear this part though - I would consider the induction, but that is not my reason for going to the OBGYN. I want the testing to make sure that LO is ok, that I am ok. Something is telling me this is the right thing for us. I've been putting it off for weeks, hoping he'd just come and show me he's ok-but he's not doing that.

I didn't mean to cause such a stir about inductions! I really meant to just say that something isn't feeling right - with me more so than the baby - and that I'm torn between calling the OBGYN and not.

Thanks for all the advice & encouragement. I know I can't stay pregnant forever, and this is our last one so I'm trying to enjoy it. I just have this nagging feeling - it's time to make the call.

MY OBGYN is not a regular just "jump in and induce" type of dr either. He won't just do it if I wanted him to anyway, lol. He doesn't induce just for schedules or anything. He will do the tests, though. He was my dr for DD3 after we moved here and I really liked him. He was the one who had me on EPO - when the first dr I went to for DDs 1 & 2 wanted to induce at 40 wks. I trust this dr's judgement. I should have been more clear about that earlier!

My other concerns are DD1 has Tourette's and DD2 is autistic. So when things start nagging me about my kids, I really want to know as much as I can before I make any decision. Anytime something shows differently that what I am used to, it seems like we come across harder issues (like the TS and ASD) later on. Different scares me.

Thank you again for the encouragement!!