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post #21 of 31
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Originally Posted by DeannaK View Post
Thanks I was feeling for starting this thread. It's nice to know I'm okay with having the occasional eye rolling moment. Especially when I work so hard at taking good care of myself, making major adjustments in my life so that I can stay feeling as good as possible. (Like forgetting about certain gifts in order to go to the chiro).
I think it's fine to have the occasional eye-rolling moment - especially when you were so clear on your first post that you're not without sympathy for others, and that you don't let them know that you think they're being a bit melodramatic.

I think part of it too, at least for me, is eye-rolling at my younger self, you know? I mean, I wish I could go back and shake my younger self by the shoulders and say, "you have ONE baby! She actually NAPS! You have NO IDEA how good you have it!" I totally know that I used to be just as bad as the moms I roll my eyes at now. So, I'm not so much laughing at them, as laughing at me . . .

But you never know how much you can handle till you have to handle it. I think as long as you're kind-spirited about it (i.e., know that without your twin experience, you'd have no idea how comparitively easy the singleton experience is, so really, you're just as bad), a bit of secret eye-rolling can actually help get you through a hard day, just because it's nice to have a giggle in the middle of all of this: ::::: Hug::
post #22 of 31
Deanna, I can relate. I do have sympathy for others, but it was pretty funny for me to be 37w along with twins hearing my neighbor complain that she thought she might kill herself (jokingly) if she had to be pregnant a minute longer with her singleton. (she had her baby at 36 weeks.) I am fortunate to have had 2 amazingly easy pregnancies, the twin pregnancy being a bit harder physically (I went 38 weeks) than my singleton (induced at 37w).
post #23 of 31
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Originally Posted by vanauken View Post
I think part of it too, at least for me, is eye-rolling at my younger self, you know? I mean, I wish I could go back and shake my younger self by the shoulders and say, "you have ONE baby! She actually NAPS! You have NO IDEA how good you have it!" I totally know that I used to be just as bad as the moms I roll my eyes at now. So, I'm not so much laughing at them, as laughing at me . . .

post #24 of 31
I felt the exact same way, and made a blog post about it at 38 weeks pregnant, only to have some psychotic mommy blogger link to my post and got HUNDREDS of comments calling me b**ch, stupid, mean, miserable, feel sorry for my husband for having to live with such a whiner, and how I'm ungrateful for not just being happy I can have children because SOME people would give anything to be that far along.

The truth of it is, I was pretty darn happy my twin pregnancy, amazed by my body, and generally pretty excited about it all. But I still rolled my eyes when women half my size whined about how big and miserable they were.
post #25 of 31
Thread Starter 
: Note to self, "do not blog about this".

post #26 of 31
At the risk of being called mean & miserable, I'll agree with this one. I wouldn't ever say it to another pregnant mom, but I have to admit to being a bit surprised to hear them complain to me when I was hugely pregnant with twins. I'm not a "complainer" but will freely admit to feeling sorry for myself during my pregnancies. First one was complicated with PIH and bedrest, second was an 11-lber, third was a m/c, fourth was twins, and fifth was twins in the summer in GA. It seems like each time I get more miserable so I'm afraid of what might happen next! It's hard to smile and be sympathetic with a teeny pregnant mama when your 90 lbs pregnant with 15 lbs of baby in you, your pubic bone has separated so much that you can't walk, and you have heartburn that causes you to throw up in your mouth when you swallow. But maybe it's just me because I was miserable at the end of my twin pregnancies?
post #27 of 31
I love this thread cuz since I have had my twins, not only was I impatient hearing others complain while I WAS pregnant with my twins but I still honestly don't want to hear it when someone is feeling a bit "heavy". I am so grateful to have my baby girls as much as I am at having my teen and having given birth to an 11 lb baby then 6 lb twins 13 years later, I'm going with the twin pregnancy being a LOT harder on the body. I ached, I had heartburn, trouble breathing, no room left for the old lungs , no kidding and my hips buckling from a girl sitting on each one. You can't compare a singleton pregnancy to a multiple, sorry!
post #28 of 31
Oh geez Heather, I have all of that to look forward to? Sounds delightful
post #29 of 31
to all of you!!!!

Yes, those thoughts have rolled through my head. On my local moms board I see a lot of posts about "I just can't stand to be pregnant one more second" and I mentally roll my eyes and then tell them how hard it was to carry my twins to 39 weeks and be patient to let them come in their own time. No, I don't think you should induce at 37 weeks with no medical reason because you're uncomfortable. Please do not bother to post to this thread with commentary on how YOU had to induce because of x,y,z reason. I still don't think NORMAL pregnant discomfort is reason to induce.

BUT!

When friends call me to complain they almost always say in apology "who am I to complain to the mother of six with baby twins!!!" and I remind them that just because I have it hard right now doesn't make their stress any less difficult! I do have a lot of empathy for others because it's all hard. Carrying a singleton past my EDD was hard, having constant bouts of BV and contractions with my singletons was hard, having a 9 pound baby with a 15 inch head come out was hard!!!! However, don't look at me pregnant with 15 POUNDS of baby and another 5 POUNDS of fluid/placenta/ook and tell me how bad you have it with your little basketball belly!
post #30 of 31
Complaints about big I have no patience for unless you're carrying triplets.

Complaints about pregnancy discomfort don't bother me. There were aspects of carrying my 10 lb singleton that were more uncomfortable than carrying the twins. My hips hurt so much more with Ian. My transverse breech twin A kept some of the pressure of my hips that Ian's big old head caused. I swore I would never complain once about a singleton pregnancy, but I have to admit I did to my husband and Mom at the end when I couldn't sleep with hip pain.

And just taking care of one baby seems like a dream. . .
post #31 of 31
Jill I went to a funeral this week with just one twin and it was BIZARRE!!!! I just wore him the whole time. I forgot how easy it was!
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