This whole thing started with ds, 12 1/2. He's been diagnosed with both "borderline add" and dyslexia. I've always known this wasn't correct but couldn't put my finger on it. I had looked into Asperger's in the past but it never went very far. (the ex and I can't seem to agree on any of this. He's got a negative opinion of diagnoses.)
I recently decided I'd had enough of ds not succeeding in school so I decided to pick up where I left off. DS has just about every characteristic of Asperger's, even the coordination piece. He can't ride a bike to save his life. Poor little man lol I just wanna hug him. He's a walking definition of Aspies.
Anyway, dd recently started acting differently. She almost seems to have woken up one day and decided to make me insane. She isn't missing empathic feelings and she seems to be quite coordinated but not every child with Asperger's has every characteristic, right?
DD has recently:
*become increasing sensitive to sound and light
*isn't sleeping well - she's been waking between 4am and 6am and no more naps
*she has a habit of lining things up
*she began speaking in full sentences over night
*she has a hard time using language socially - lack of eye contact
*pragmatic use of language but she's also deaf with coclear implants so the language piece could be the hearing loss
*she seems generally "on edge" most of the time
*she's very resitant to change
*sometimes dd seems to just not "hear" me - this could also be the hearing loss but it's as if this has changed over the past several months. She wasn't like this a year ago.
*dd seems to have a high tolerance for pain - she never took any pain meds (not even tylenol or the like)after surgeries or after breaking her arm
*dd is often startled by the littlest things - I cannot walk up behind her without making some kind of noise so she knows I'm coming. If I even walk briskly from one room to another to grab a ringing phone, dd will jump and run and hide.
Also, this all started quite recently. The behaviors listed above initially led me to this forum but I'm beginning to wonder if there isn't more there, especially considering ds seems to be
OK, now that I've said all of this I'm really looking for thoughts and ideas. I've got a couple of phone calls to make to a local university psych dept (got their info from hoagies) but I'm still not sure about dd's age and how she may or may not be accurately diagnosed, after reading some other posts.
Off topic: Somone tell me why
dd takes everything
apart but never puts it back together
She has, while I was writing this post, removed every book from the shelves...again...dumped every block on the floor, put all the dvds on the floor, removed the burners from her stove, and dumped her magnet letters and numbers in the laundry basket she stole from my bedroom.