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post #61 of 172
I have to take DD with me when I run, so yeah, we pretty much needed one. I guess I could try running w/ her in a carrier, but I doubt either of us would enjoy it.

Seriously, though, if you've gone this far w/o one, you may not need it. Personally, I cannot *stand* to have the carrier & DD on me when its above 80 (and even that's tough - I am not even remotely a warm weather person), so when summer came around, I was glad to have a stroller for when we were doing outside stuff. Once it got cooler, DD went back in the Ergo & we just use the stroller for running now.
post #62 of 172
With DD1, I wore her or DH did or he would just carry her. As she got older, she sometimes would sit in the stroller, but preferred to run. So she did. We had a babytrend stroller that was very basic and we used it for things like airports or long walks. I also lived in a more car needed area than walk area.

FF to DD2 who lived in the sling everywhere. She was also a nicu graduate and I didnt want people touching her esp since she was not even 10 lbs until well over 6 mos old. She lived in my new native until she was at least 14 mos old (10 mos corrected). We wore her or carried her everywhere. Then we moved to a new neighborhood that screams walk everywhere! We could walk to the library, pool, sprinkler park, ice cream, walgreens, dry cleaner, school, coffee. Plus we walked to school each and everyday to drop off and pick up dd1. So I used a passed onto me jogging stroller for the first year at this house. It was easier since I had an active 20 mo old who could not walk to all those areas and didnt want to be worn.
post #63 of 172
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Originally Posted by Jesskathand View Post
I used the moby wrap for DS until he started sagging in it and then I got the Ergo carrier which has been awesome. (although we just moved and I can't find it and am going crazy!)

So my parents have been on my case for not using a stroller since DS was born. He is almost 10 months old. A few months ago we were going to a mother's market (kind of like a flea market for kids clothes, moms can set up a table and sell their children's clothes at a cheap price, its awesome). My mom kept saying how much better it will be if DS is in a stroller. I told her it would take up too much room and the Ergo would be so much easier. I used the Ergo and am glad I did, because it was crowded in there!

Yesterday my parents were arguing with me again about how I will NEED a stroller soon since DS will be too heavy for the Ergo. I said DS is only 18 pounds and the Ergo goes up to 40. My dad who is a know-it-all about everything, especially things he doesn't know about, said that 40 pounds would still be too heavy for me and I tried explaining how the Ergo distributes the weight but he wouldn't hear it.

I don't like carrying tons of stuff around, which is why I never used a stroller. We have gotten two hand me down strollers, which I have never used. DS has separation anxiety right now too so I doubt a stroller will make him happy.

So those of you with older children, did you NEED a stroller? Anyone never use a stroller?

Thanks!


I would love to know what your parents would say to me. I'm completely blind, and I don't feel comfortable pushing a stroller for obvious reasons. I have no children yet, but I do care for friends' kids quite frequently, and for long terms many times. And, I do not use strollers. Even if I should decide to pull a stroller from behind me while I walked forward, I'd still feel scared that someone would snatch my kid out because they were stealthy and I did not hear them coming. Not to mention, one cannot control the stroller very well from behind, which could also causing ti be dangerous to the baby, as it could topple over. I choose to use slings. Having the babies close to me makes me feel better and confident that they are safe and okay. I also don't have to worry about me using the stroller as a danger tool hurting those I run into, or injuring the baby or myself at best. This is the reason I'm against using a stroller.

Oh, concerning older children, I've carried them. If they insisted on independence, which I feel they should rightfully have, I used a child's harness or leash. From my personally experience, once the child starts walking, they no longer want confinement. They want to explore their world, and a child harness or leash will make that possible for them to do it safely and under your supervision.

I hope all goes well with your parents. Just tell them that what you are doing is working for you, and you do not want to fix what is not broken. I sometimes get irritated with parents thinking they know it all and telling you how to parent and live, though, you've made it clear you want to do things differently. I will keep you in my prayers.
post #64 of 172
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Originally Posted by Deer Hunter View Post
I would love to know what your parents would say to me. I'm completely blind, and I don't feel comfortable pushing a stroller for obvious reasons. I have no children yet, but I do care for friends' kids quite frequently, and for long terms many times. And, I do not use strollers. Even if I should decide to pull a stroller from behind me while I walked forward, I'd still feel scared that someone would snatch my kid out because they were stealthy and I did not hear them coming. Not to mention, one cannot control the stroller very well from behind, which could also causing ti be dangerous to the baby, as it could topple over. I choose to use slings. Having the babies close to me makes me feel better and confident that they are safe and okay. I also don't have to worry about me using the stroller as a danger tool hurting those I run into, or injuring the baby or myself at best. This is the reason I'm against using a stroller.

Oh, concerning older children, I've carried them. If they insisted on independence, which I feel they should rightfully have, I used a child's harness or leash. From my personally experience, once the child starts walking, they no longer want confinement. They want to explore their world, and a child harness or leash will make that possible for them to do it safely and under your supervision.

I hope all goes well with your parents. Just tell them that what you are doing is working for you, and you do not want to fix what is not broken. I sometimes get irritated with parents thinking they know it all and telling you how to parent and live, though, you've made it clear you want to do things differently. I will keep you in my prayers.
Thanks! My parents mean well but it does get annoying. When DS was first born, they kept complaining about us holding him so much. I told them that this works for us, and we are happy with it and thats all that matters. They acepted that.

We just moved to a neighborhood where I can walk everywhere so putting DS in the Ergo and using the stroller to carry stuff sounds like a great idea!

I am reading all comments, sorry I cannot reply to each one but I appreciate everyone's input!
post #65 of 172
I started putting DS in the stroller more often when he started pulling my hair from the Ergo. (I don't have long hair. He is tall.) He started to really like the stroller when he started to walk-- I think his legs get tired.
post #66 of 172
We bought a stroller and tried to use it a few times, but dd started screaming after about five minutes in it, so I gave up. I carried her in a Mei Tei until she was about 2, then one day she decided she didn't want to be carried anymore.

Now that she's a little over three, I use the stroller once in a blue moon--sometimes dd gets in the mood for a stroll so we'll go for a walk with it. But that is something recent for her and happens pretty rarely (maybe once a month or so), so a stroller is definitely something I could have done without entirely.

Ironically, despite the fact that she hated the stroller as an infant/toddler, she LOVES pushing her dolls in a doll stroller (her favorite Christmas present this year--the one she begged for for months).
post #67 of 172
I used a Baby Bjorn, then a Moby and I still use an Ergo for my 2.5 year old, but I can't live without my stroller.

I loved the idea of picking up a sleeping baby in the bucket and connecting it to the stroller without him waking. My DS did not nap at home, but he would snooze for 2 to 3 hours if we were out and about.

I would carry him if he were awake or of he fell asleep while in a carrier, but I would never wake my child from a nap to wear him if I knew that I would have to put him back into the stroller. DS was accustomed to being near me, so having to sit in the stroller while awake as an infant was not always pleasant for him,

I could not shop for clothing with my son if it weren't for the stroller. Sometimes I wanted to go out without DH and I enjoyed having a place to rest DS if I needed to put him down.

Now I use the stroller to confine him if he decides that he wants to run around the shopping center. Not wander, but run as if he is in a race. Chasing a 2 year old through a crowded shopping area is not my idea of a good time.

I don't enjoy a 35 pound tot engaging in a tantrum while strapped to me in the Ergo.:
post #68 of 172
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They're expensive, they're cumbersome, and I don't like the fact that he could get hurt so much easier since he's far away from me!
I dont care if someone wants to use a stroller, a cloth carrier, neither or both...whatever works....but i dont really "get" the quote above. I use an umbrella stroller with my 11 month old...it was less than $10 at toys r us, i cant imagine how he could "get hurt" in it (certainly it would be safer, for example, for him to be in the stroller while i drank or ate something hot, than strapped to my chest, though i think babywearing is pretty safe too), it folds and unfolds very quickly and easily, is lightweight and takes up very little room in our van. And i personally feel so much more comfortable being able to *see* him and attend to his needs, than the very few times i tried to wear him on my back in the babyhawk...while i certainly support babywearing and think the idea of wearing him on my back sounds comfortable and convenient...it seems so odd to me to not be able to see him, or touch him or interact with him (other than craning my neck over my shoulder or trying to touch his feet or something.) And he didnt seem to happy to be smooshed up against my back rather than having the ability to interact with things around him (at least in the stroller he has a pretty clear view)....maybe we just werent babywearing "properly" or something, but he sure seemed to hate it.

Now, if you are talking about a big huge stroller, we have one of those too (it lives in our front hallway and the cat sleeps in it)...and yes, that takes up alot of room and is pretty cumbersome! An umbrella stroller....not really.


Katherine
post #69 of 172
I never used a stroller until I had two kids.
post #70 of 172
my dd is almost two and has never used a stroller. we got one as a shower present. but she has been raised in every sort of wrap imaginable. any time we ever tried to put her in the stroller she would scream for me to carry her and honestly, i missed the interaction with her (even though she would stay in the stroller a maximum of two seconds!). my parents always say i need one, but nahh
post #71 of 172
I mostly wore my DD for her 1st year, around that time she refused to be worn anymore and we switched to the stroller. I have a pouch, a mei tai and a beco, but she didn't want a part of any of those. I use it much less now, and most of the time it just carries all of our stuff. Honestly, I don't know how people go on all day outings without one. I could never get the hang of carrying a baby and a bag, I could do one or the other but not both. I love having a stroller to cart around our coats, toys, bags and purchases, I'll be sad when we outgrow the stroller age for that reason.
I also don't get the time factor, I can get my stroller out of the trunk and set up and get DD in it in less time then it would take me to strap her on my back in a mei tai......

Also for things like clothes and shoe shopping, doctor's offices, peeing in a public restroom with some carriers, etc. especially with a small baby it has been invaluable. How exactly do you try on a shirt in a dressing room if you are wearing the baby??

It is a tool and a good one if you ask me, but to each their own.
post #72 of 172
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Originally Posted by soxthecatrules View Post
What am I missing here? I feel that my children are every bit "attached" as any of your children. I don't feel that my children are psychologically harmed b/c of my stroller use (something that my BIL brought up over the weekend).
The only "issue" with strollers is the interaction when they are facing away from you. I am NOT saying you are bad mama - but there are moms out there who put their kid in a stroller and walk around for hours never interacting with their kids. There was a study out of England that showed this may cause developmental delays. Here is the link: http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/famil...ies/index.html

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What do you all do if and when you go jogging or fitness walking?
I go hiking ALL the time. Its one of my favourite passtimes. Its a GREAT workout doing those hills, or steep stairs with a baby on my back in a wrap. And because the wrap isnt as cumbersome as those frame carriers I still have all my mobility. I dont think you *can* jog with a carrier - but I love my hikes

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Originally Posted by *Aimee* View Post
I wanted to get an ergo but I'm too fat, even for their extender belt things,
If you want to wear your baby still there is plenty of time left! Rather than an ergo there are woven wraps that come in lengths as long as 5.7m that you basically use to tie the baby to you. You dont feel the weight of baby at all. Ive never met a women who was too large for a woven wrap.

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Originally Posted by snoopy5386 View Post
Also for things like clothes and shoe shopping, doctor's offices, peeing in a public restroom with some carriers, etc. especially with a small baby it has been invaluable. How exactly do you try on a shirt in a dressing room if you are wearing the baby??
I use primarily wraps - but slings once my daughter got older (walking) as well. I dont go shopping that often, but when I did when she was younger I just wouldnt buy shirts with her with me. I have easily tried on shoes, jackets, pants with her tied to me. In a wrap the baby is secure to you, you can jump and twist and bend with no problems.
As for peeing...I never thought this gave some women troubles...lol..I just sit down...do my business, and stand up...lol
post #73 of 172
I didn't use a stroller to often with DD1 until DD2 came along. Now its useful for walks or for when we want to keep DD1 from running off. She picked out her stroller and loves it (she will sit in it at home and eat her snacks).
post #74 of 172
At the risk of sound mean to the poster who likes her $10 umbrella stroller....I refuse to put my children in one of those. I consider them as unsafe as strollers come. When working retail years ago I saw a child fall backwards in one and bust her head on the floor. But, its also about parent attentiveness and if my memory serves me right mom wasn't paying attention. If you're really into babywearing and truly don't use a stroller often I guess a $10 stroller would be a good investment....just watch them really really close!!

With the exception of my jogging stroller (couldn't afford a BOB Revolution) I personally do not buy low end strollers. If you decide you need to use one on a regular basis spend a little more (Chicco, Peg Perego, Maclaren) and you'll probably be more satisfied. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, my Peg strollers in the same manner some of you all LOVE your baby carriers. And, I do keep the babies facing me until they're 8 or 9 months old.
post #75 of 172
We have a stroller that someone gave to us second hand after I refused it half a dozen times. It sits in our livingroom where occassionally I put him to nap but mainly the cat sleeps there.

I did try it out once but honestly between the hills & the terrible roads/lack of sidewalks here they are incredibly impractical. Plus I always find the handles on strollers are too short & so I either have to try to push it one-handed & walk beside it or take really short steps to avoid stepping on the wheels when I walk - but this is probably just because I am taller.

We are loving our sling right now - in fact last night I wore him for 5 hours at a party - the longest session for us so far (I don't general wear him around the house) & felt great.

Who knows if we may one day use the stroller more - but at this point I doubt it.
post #76 of 172
3 years old today and never used one with him. baby has never been in one either.
post #77 of 172
We got a stroller against our wishes at our baby shower. DD hated it the few times we tried to put her in it. Granted, she also hated every cloth baby carrier there was, as well, so we just held her in our arms all the time. Strollers are such a pain, imo. We also live on the 3rd floor of an apt. building so they just weren't practical even if dd had been accomodating. DD is nearing 40 lbs now at 3 yrs. and I think she would be too heavy for me to carry in a cloth carrier, especially since I know she wouldn't ride on my back willingly. I'm considering getting an umbrella stroller or a pullable wagon for places like the zoo and such but I haven't yet. Usually I just take dh with me in situations where I know she will need to be carried a lot. I don't view not ever using a stroller as a crunchy badge of honor or anything but rather as something that was just impractical for us.
post #78 of 172
As for peeing...I never thought this gave some women troubles...lol..I just sit down...do my business, and stand up...lol[/QUOTE]

I can pee just fine with a sling or a bjorn, but I cannot with a mei tai or a beco, the carrier rests over the waistband of my pants and there is no way to unbuckle them. Really annoying when you have to go. Stroller comes in very handy in this situation in public restrooms.
post #79 of 172
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Originally Posted by snoopy5386 View Post
As for peeing...I never thought this gave some women troubles...lol..I just sit down...do my business, and stand up...lol
I can pee just fine with a sling or a bjorn, but I cannot with a mei tai or a beco, the carrier rests over the waistband of my pants and there is no way to unbuckle them. Really annoying when you have to go. Stroller comes in very handy in this situation in public restrooms.[/QUOTE]

I can urinate using the Ergo, but there are some things that i don't like to do with an almost 3 year old on my back. He remarks about WHAT he sees in the potty to all who pass.

The stroller helps to keep his hands away from the toilet, and everything else that he likes to touch just before he touches his pacifier,

but then again he will flush the potty for me when he is in the Ergo before I finish my business.

I think that what works best for parents has a lot to do with the child's personality. Many parents speak of walking down the street hand in hand with their child. My son is VERY strong, and if I have anything in my other hand it is not safe for me to allow him to walk.

I do not like the Mall, but they are safer for us than outdoor shopping areas. I can allow him to walk free in indoor areas, and some outdoor areas, but nothing near the street or the railway.

I have friends whose 2 year old children follow their parents and don't seem to ever consider running. If I had a child like that I might not need a stroller as much now.

Lifestyle and area of living also makes a difference in deciding if one needs a stroller or not. A PP mentioned not wanting to babywear during the warm months and i agree. We lived in Atlanta and now Houston(hell on earth type weather) and It is uncomfortable to wear my DS on a 99 degree day with 99% humidity. The Ergo was comfortable in Atlanta in the summer, but the Moby was reserved for indoor use, but I could not carry a purse when I used the moby or a diaper bag. If I went out alone I still had to bring a stroller to hold my bags.

We lived about 40 minutes from Atlanta when my DS was a baby so when we left the house we were gone all day. The stroller /bucket came in handy.

I can understand how parents who don't spend 4 to 8 hours a day out of the home when leaving to run errands might not need a stroller. I never used mine when strolling the downtown are of my small city or running errands close by that allowed me the ease of returning home quickly if I needed to.
post #80 of 172
DS is 4.5 and we never had a stroller. Went from sling to Ergo to walking. I LOVE that because he is used to it, he can walk long distances and we don't have to schlep some contraption when going to town, sight seeing, on vacation, etc.

He hiked 3.5 miles at age 4 in Hawaii at the volcano, straight down a mountain and then up again. No carrying, no complaints!

I think for older kids (3+) it's important for them to get used to using their own people power. Not enough kids in America (in my opinion) are used to walking normal distances or exercising. A mile and a half in to town at an easy pace should not be a big deal for a normal, healthy preschooler. I think when they get used to being pushed around like a sedentary piece of luggage that's doing them a disservice.

Ok, throw tomatoes now.
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