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post #1 of 67
12/31/08 at 12:57pm
Thread Starter 
Well ladies...

If you're not holding a newborn today, you're either due or overdue. Time is ticking away at our last chance to have a baby this month, or even this year!

I have a terrible cold and am having trouble breathing without my mouth open. I really don't want to labor this way, but I might deal with it if it meant I'd have a baby this year. Otherwise, that stinker can just stay put a few days longer!

~40 w, 6 days
post #2 of 67
12/31/08 at 2:02pm
40 wks and 6 days, too. Totally awkward for me! But today's weather tells me it is NOT a good idea for LO to come. DH is out in the snow (he's a truck driver who is home every night) and it'll take him hours to get hom. I gave up on the cohosh and everything last night as I was just too tired to really do the regimen and then labor, lol. I hadn't slept much. I slept really well and decided to start the regimen for real today. I'll wait til later this afternoon, they say it can take 48 hrs to work. If not - oh well. Mama's tired of waiting for everyone else's schedule - including baby's lol. I actually like the RRLT so I'll drink that, too.

The board is so quiet lately. I keep checking back every few hours looking for adult conversations - my kids are tired of hearing the baby talk, I think.

Happy New Year everyone!
post #3 of 67
12/31/08 at 2:31pm
I am right here with you ladies. 41 weeks today. It looks like no tax deduction for this year. I am okay with that. 2008 has been a horrible year so maybe it is for the best that the babe waits until the New Year. I am tired of trying natural remedies and just want to sleep.

I have been avoiding our DDC because it is really discouraging to read about all of the births. It makes me feel like this baby is NEVER going to get here. Everybody is talking about the newborn stuff, which is great but it doesn't help me be patient.
post #4 of 67
12/31/08 at 2:31pm
I'm thinking of you ladies! It will make your new year even sweeter if your babies make an '09/late '08 entrance
post #5 of 67
12/31/08 at 2:54pm
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Originally Posted by library lady View Post
I am right here with you ladies. 41 weeks today. It looks like no tax deduction for this year. I am okay with that. 2008 has been a horrible year so maybe it is for the best that the babe waits until the New Year. I am tired of trying natural remedies and just want to sleep.

I have been avoiding our DDC because it is really discouraging to read about all of the births. It makes me feel like this baby is NEVER going to get here. Everybody is talking about the newborn stuff, which is great but it doesn't help me be patient.
I know the feeling, but I also use it to help me realize - he really can't stay in here forever!! I never thought I'd go over my due date, but here we are. At least I'm not alone!!
post #6 of 67
12/31/08 at 3:00pm
still here ... I didn't think I'd make it this long. I'll be 42 weeks tomorrow. Oh well. DD2 was 42w5d, and I just thought she was maybe waiting for the new moon, which was last week ... silly me. don't know WHAT this babe is waiting for now!

I'd rather not go too much longer since I'll start getting nervous now. I need to force myself to call and make an appt for a biophysical profile on Friday. Just to calm my nerves and make my parents less anxious. MW isn't "sincerely" concerned, just quoting statistics. We've been friends for so long, she knows all about my mom-relationship - she doesn't want mom to get bossy.

But we're ok with not getting the tax deduction, even though my dad is disappointed for us!

--janis
post #7 of 67
12/31/08 at 3:11pm
I never thought about the tax deduction until somebody else brought it up. It is kind of a pain when everybody around you is using the tax deduction angle to nag you about getting this baby here.

I went in for a US/BPP last night so now I have ammo for anybody that wants to bug me. The baby is perfect and can go another week or two without any problems. My fluid levels are down to the high end of normal. The baby is in the correct position. Lungs and everything else are functioning properly. The umbilical chord is nowhere near the cervix so if there is a gush from all the fluid it should be fine. She isn't even measuring as big as I thought she would. She is only measuring 8lbs 5 oz. I know they are probably off by about a pound because I expect her to be in the 9-10 lb range given the size of my others and the size of my enormous belly. I just have to hurry up and wait.
post #8 of 67
12/31/08 at 3:19pm
they said DD2 was 7.5# and "due" in 3 weeks ... at a bpp on 42w3d. She was born 2 days later at 8#13 ... I don't have a whole lot of faith in them, but it did help me feel better. In spite of how wrong it was on those details, I have to "trust" that it was right on the other details, and I'll do it again regardless. <sigh>
post #9 of 67
12/31/08 at 4:22pm
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Originally Posted by library lady View Post
She isn't even measuring as big as I thought she would. She is only measuring 8lbs 5 oz. I know they are probably off by about a pound because I expect her to be in the 9-10 lb range given the size of my others and the size of my enormous belly. I just have to hurry up and wait.
I had to LOL -I don't expect anything with these babies anymore!! Everytime we do, they send more surprises This baby has thrown my entire prenatal histories right out the window!
post #10 of 67
12/31/08 at 4:24pm
Janis, I love the 2.98 children in your sig!!
post #11 of 67
12/31/08 at 4:26pm
to all.

If it makes you feel any better, the tax deduction thing is not such a great deal. My MW has an 18-year old DD that she can't claim this year because of the DD's December birthday. So if you claim them in the beginning (like with a December 2008 birthday), you can't claim 'em the year they turn 18 (2026). It all evens out in the end.
post #12 of 67
12/31/08 at 4:44pm
The $1000 deduction ends in 2010 - as it stands now goes back to $600 so I'll take what I can get back. LOL

DH said that this LO and DD3 (dob 1/5) owe him $1000 each - DD3 tells him she's gonna give it to him in hugs (she'll be 4 next week)
post #13 of 67
12/31/08 at 4:49pm
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I had to LOL -I don't expect anything with these babies anymore!! Everytime we do, they send more surprises This baby has thrown my entire prenatal histories right out the window!
I should have learned that by now. I am always so textbook about everything that I don't know how to handle it when things are off.
post #14 of 67
12/31/08 at 4:52pm
The tax deduction is really irrelevant to me. It is all of the people around me that keep bringing it up. It is slowly becoming one of those things that I don't want to talk about. You know, right up there with the phone calls asking, "Have you had that baby yet?"

I so badly want to tell people, "She is a baby not a friggin' tax deduction!"
post #15 of 67
12/31/08 at 5:01pm
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Originally Posted by library lady View Post
I have been avoiding our DDC because it is really discouraging to read about all of the births. It makes me feel like this baby is NEVER going to get here. Everybody is talking about the newborn stuff, which is great but it doesn't help me be patient.
I totally understand. I'm happy and excited for all the mamas who are holding their babies, but at the same time, it makes me sad that I'm *not*.

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I never thought about the tax deduction until somebody else brought it up. It is kind of a pain when everybody around you is using the tax deduction angle to nag you about getting this baby here.
Yeah. Every.single.time. I talk to my mom, she's like "You better hurry up and have the baby or you'll miss out on the deduction!" The lady at the health food store asked me when I was due, and I said the 28th, so I am past my EDD. I told her I would like him to come before the New Year, and she was like "Yeah, you want that deduction, huh?" No, I just don't want to have to argue/fight with my OB about induction, and factories with jobs are going to be opening back up after New Year's, so he'll probably have a job, and we don't need him to start a job just to tell them he can't come in on the second/third day because his wife is having a baby. I don't care about the tax deduction, we never got it with/for DD, we won't *get* the money anyway, so it really doesn't matter to me. I want LO to be born because I'm so uncomfortable and I think it would be better for him to be born without me having to stress out so much. Why is it so crazy that I want babe to be born when he and I are both ready and when it's *time* rather than be born just to get some money? Sorry, that just really irks my nerves.
post #16 of 67
12/31/08 at 5:25pm
Well, I just found out why my parents are so damn eager for me to have the baby! They changed their plans and are going home on MONDAY. They were supposed to stay through Jan 10 !! I'm pissed. I don't know what to think anymore. It doesn't change anything, but now, they've added an element of pressure that I wasn't expecting. I wanted them to take the kids to spend a night or two at their hotel, but if I haven't had the baby, I don't want to risk them not being here for the birth.

I feel like my kids have been cheated this year. The inlaws spent all summer promising to spend time with them, and they kept backing out because of stuff (I can't be too mad, FIL's mother was terminally ill and died a month ago). So they just kept getting empty promises. Then, we didn't get to go to Wisconsin for snow & vacation with grandparents this season - and now, grandparents' visit is getting cut short.

And then there is the matter of baptism ... I thought we'd have plenty of time to do it before they leave, but now I don't see how.

I'm frustrated. Time for a nap, I guess.

Leanna: my sig said 2.5 kids before - I felt like that wasn't accurate anymore!

--janis
post #17 of 67
12/31/08 at 5:53pm
Thread Starter 
I'm sorry, Janis. That really sucks.

Is there any way you can channel the energy from your anger and frustration down through your uterus?

Did I mention that my midwife has plans to leave the country on the 7th?!? That's next Wednesday! She's being flexible about it, but at the latest would need to leave on the following Saturday, the 10th. I might have to borrow your midwife at some point...
post #18 of 67
12/31/08 at 6:00pm
Ouch, that sucks Janis. There is nothing worse than having people put pressure on you to have your baby on their schedule.
post #19 of 67
12/31/08 at 9:42pm
Im still here too at 40 wks, 2 days. I've ignored 5 calls since yesterday asking whether or not I've had the baby from people who we'd obviously call or at least text or make sure someone else calls. My sister had her baby--she was due 12/28--on 12/29, which was my due date, so now it's all eyes on me.
post #20 of 67
12/31/08 at 10:14pm
I'm so sorry, Janis. i can totally relate to people putting pressure. I've decided that it's just not worth getting upset over it anymore. And my family lives only 1/2 an hr away! I decided that the only people who are coming to this birth are DH, my girls and the MW and her assistant. I'm not dealing with any other drama until after this LO comes!

I agree w/MamaVegan ... push all those vibes DOWN, lol. It seems that it might be the only way to work on these babies!

Lots of hugs and calming vibes! ::
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