Support and Well Wishes to Those Still Waiting for Their Babies - Page 3

[library lady]

Yep, I am very tired and super stressed. My mother is driving me nuts. My niece (who is 5 months pregnant) got a fireworks stand to run for New Year's. I got stuck helping them on New Year's Eve. Then I went to hang out with my sister and my dad only to have my sister and her teenage daughter get into it and spout off a bunch of ugly stuff. Then, on New Year's day, my mother calls me to go check on my niece since everyone supposedly abandoned her. I get there only to have her verbally assault me, cuss me out, and threaten me. She was left alone because she had told everybody else to leave and in the words of her boyfriend, "She went crazy." I called the cops/EMT's and had them go do a well person check on her because she locked herself in and wouldn't let anybody in to make sure that she wasn't hurting herself since she has a history of cutting and suicide attempts. When she started spewing crap in front of me and my kids, we promptly left. I forgot to mention that my mother calls me later and makes excuses for my niece. She is 5 months pregnant and the baby apparently got on a nerve so she was in pain and that is what set her off. OKAY, um, I am 10 months pregnant with a baby that is close to 9 pounds. DON'T tell me about pain in pregnancy. I have to work just to get in the car these days so dropping everything, loading up the kids, and going to check on her is no small feat. I bust my butt in my *condition* only to be verbally assaulted. I feel like somebody should be taking my pain and frustration into account. My mother will not be called when I go into labor. She is so annoying that she admitted to driving by a few times to make sure that the MW wasn't here.

Since it is the weekend, I was hoping that I could get some good family time with DH and the kids and pretty much take life at my pace. My mother has called me for the last 2 days wanting me to come over and shoot off fireworks with them. She has gotten my oldest on the phone and pumped her up so that she would bug me too. I finally gave in and went over for about half an hour. I was pissed because she called me while we were trying to get ready for dinner. She invited herself over to my house. I told her to do what she wanted and hung up on her. She calls me back later to tell me when they are coming over. I am glad I asked who the heck she intended on bringing over with her because she was going to bring my niece and all the drama with her. I said nope. I would meet them all at my dad's place. We stayed about half an hour because I was queasy, my back hurt, and I was fuming. Plus, my 20 mo was freaking out about the noise and wanted to climb me. Urgggg.....stop the world, I want off!

[mamavegan]

library lady!

[bmcneal]

library lady

Wish me luck! My appointment is today, and my OB wants to talk induction, I know I'm going to tell him I'm not willing to consider induction until 42 weeks, but I'm hoping he doesn't object too much. DH has already said he's going to be cranky today, so I don't know how much of a help he's going to be when I/we object to what the OB wants to do. I'm trying to figure out exactly what to say, and how to say it, where maybe if he (OB) isn't happy, maybe he won't be so upset and refuse the increased monitering I'm willing to accept. I've never objected to something a Dr has said before, but I know I need to this time, and I'm kind of nervous.

[CAKJNH]

Originally Posted by bmcneal

library lady

Wish me luck! My appointment is today, and my OB wants to talk induction, I know I'm going to tell him I'm not willing to consider induction until 42 weeks, but I'm hoping he doesn't object too much. DH has already said he's going to be cranky today, so I don't know how much of a help he's going to be when I/we object to what the OB wants to do. I'm trying to figure out exactly what to say, and how to say it, where maybe if he (OB) isn't happy, maybe he won't be so upset and refuse the increased monitering I'm willing to accept. I've never objected to something a Dr has said before, but I know I need to this time, and I'm kind of nervous.

Beth, you'll do great! Just remember this is about your LO, not the dr or policy, and you've got a HUGE army of support here! Even if your dh isn't up o saying much. :

I'll be waiting to hear what happens!

[jrabbit]

Baby still in utero. 42w4d.

[Maine Mama Doula]

Wwyd?

Just spoke with my midwife. I am 42W1d and she feels that I need to have the baby by Wednesday. She says that the risk of stillborn goes up now. I see other mothers on here going really late and I am hopeful that my body will do it on its own, but I'm a little nervous. She can't order tests so I would need to contact my OB for a consult and NST by Wednesday if nothing has happened. She also is encouraging me to reconsider cator oil. I just don't know what to do...I really feel that I should let nature take its course. I really want our HB. But I don't want to risk losing my baby.

[Bloomingstar]

41 weeks

babyluvandkisses I'm not sure what I would do--I say go with your gut--and maybe consider the castor oil? I really don't know. I might be having this conversation with you in a week!

I have a biophysical profile scheduled for Wednesday. Anyone had one of those? How was it? My 20 week ultrasound bothered me so much I really didn't want to have to go back but...yeah.

[jrabbit]

I'm sorry that you're getting pressured. Yes, the risk of stillbirth does go up. But the risk is still really small. We are ok with the risk. We are doing daily NST and kick-counts - and keeping super hydrated.

Don't quote me on these numbers, but they are something like this: 1 in 3000 for normal, 2 in 3000 after 42 weeks, 6 in 3000 after 43 weeks. Yes, it's always scary to hear risk factors. But it is also important that you take charge of your own decision, and you need to KNOW what you're risking.

My baby has been super slow in the mornings for 2 weeks. I freak out every morning waiting for it to wake up. But, of course, it always does in 3-4 hours. Before that, it was super active in the morning - within the first 15 minutes. Now, its schedule seems to have changed, and it's insanely active in the afternoon and into the night - settling down about midnight. But it's consistent, and that's the important thing.

I'm not willing to do castor oil. Just not willing. Now, would I do pitocin in a hospital instead? I'm not sure. But since DD2 was born at 42w5d, I have a couple more days before I get that worried. There was nothing off about her placenta or her appearance, so my babies just need longer to cook!

best wishes
--janis

[jrabbit]

Bloomingstar: BPP is not significantly different from a standard u/s. What "bothered" you about your u/s?

Don't be nervous, but drink a TON of water the day you do it. Your fluid level is variable, but it's one of the things they are most concerned about. If you are sufficiently hydrated, then you will be more likely to escape their concern. You don't want anyone to try to scare you into "doing" something that you may not need to do. We're going to wait a few more days to schedule one because of $$ and general disgruntlement with the process last time, but it can be a valuable test, especially if you sense that something is "off".

--janis

[Maine Mama Doula]

Thanks Janis - I was just trying to find some numbers on risk. I guess that I need to call my OB for a consult. I'm just afraid that once I get in there for a non-stress test that the pressure for induction is going to be heavy. Won't know until I call and go I guess.

[Bloomingstar]

Originally Posted by jrabbit

Bloomingstar: BPP is not significantly different from a standard u/s. What "bothered" you about your u/s?

Don't be nervous, but drink a TON of water the day you do it. Your fluid level is variable, but it's one of the things they are most concerned about. If you are sufficiently hydrated, then you will be more likely to escape their concern. You don't want anyone to try to scare you into "doing" something that you may not need to do. We're going to wait a few more days to schedule one because of $$ and general disgruntlement with the process last time, but it can be a valuable test, especially if you sense that something is "off".

--janis

oh, I thought the US tech was a total jerk and she eventually gave up on me and sent me to the Dr. who had to do it all over again so it was an almost 4 hour ordeal between waiting and having the actual US done--baby wasn't cooperating and turning. I imagine that'll be less of a problem this time Thanks for the tip about being hydrated I feel like things are ok. Baby has settled down a tiny bit but is definitely still very active

[bmcneal]

I have a quick question. If LO moves a lot at one specific time, only a little other times, and hardly at all other times, should I worry? He's usually *really* active when I first wake up, like at least the first hour, sometimes longer, but then only sporadically active during the rest of the day, and hardly ever at night. Is that something to be concerned about? Thanks!

[jrabbit]

Beth - it's not so much "when" or "how active" your baby is but whether it is consistent. Kick-counts are done to get a baseline at about 36 weeks, for comparing with NOW, when we're late. Starting at 36 weeks, you want to know how long it takes for YOUR baby to make 12 movements. My baby always did that within 15 minutes or less. Then, suddenly 2 weeks ago, it slowed down. Some mornings, if I wake up really early, I'll catch 12 movements and then go back to sleep. Some mornings, it took 3 hours to get 12 movements (like today). But by keeping track of it daily, I'm comforted because I think that it's simply changed it schedule. I'm sleeping later, is part of the reason. Generally, you want to experience 12 movements within less than 6 hours - some conservative doctors will say 10-12 hours is ok. NST is also helpful in understanding your baby's movements.

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by jrabbit

Beth - it's not so much "when" or "how active" your baby is but whether it is consistent. Kick-counts are done to get a baseline at about 36 weeks, for comparing with NOW, when we're late. Starting at 36 weeks, you want to know how long it takes for YOUR baby to make 12 movements. My baby always did that within 15 minutes or less. Then, suddenly 2 weeks ago, it slowed down. Some mornings, if I wake up really early, I'll catch 12 movements and then go back to sleep. Some mornings, it took 3 hours to get 12 movements (like today). But by keeping track of it daily, I'm comforted because I think that it's simply changed it schedule. I'm sleeping later, is part of the reason. Generally, you want to experience 12 movements within less than 6 hours - some conservative doctors will say 10-12 hours is ok. NST is also helpful in understanding your baby's movements.

Alright, thank you! It seems like whenever I tried to look up information, it was always saying different things. It's pretty consistant, so I guess we're good to go. Thanks again!

[library lady]

Today was the day! My baby girl was born at 7 AM weighing in at 9lbs 12 oz and 22 inches long.

[jrabbit]

hooray!!!

you'll have to pardon me for being a teensy weensy bit jealous, though

[Lemon Juice]

Originally Posted by library lady

Today was the day! My baby girl was born at 7 AM weighing in at 9lbs 12 oz and 22 inches long.

: Congrats, library lady! : She is so long and a great size! Welcome baby! I can't wait to hear your story and see pics

[Leningradka]

Congrats library lady!!! I am jealous though... can't help it, I want my babe

Im almost 41 wks, and went in for OB appt today - I have to say, I love my OB. SHe is so non pushy. My BPP and NST were all normal on Fri. She is very well aware of all our natural wishes, and is very respectful of them. Not pushy, but I did agree to a cervical gel on wed (1/7) if things are not moving by then - I have accupuncure appt tomm, and this lady says everyone goes into labor within 48 hours of her session. I am wondering if I am being selfish for agreeing to artificial augmentation, but I am only fingertip dilated despite having many ctx over the past several days. I want him here so I can enjoy him before I have to go back to work, and since I stopped working, I feel like I am wasting precious time with him instead of just doing nada at home, ykwim?

SO what happens to a DDC after everyone has their babes? do we have to find a different tribe and become extinct as a DDC?

[mom2annika]

Congrats library_lady! : You had a big'un too. Someone said these babies were fattening up for winter. Maybe they were right.

[Lemon Juice]

Originally Posted by Leningradka

SO what happens to a DDC after everyone has their babes? do we have to find a different tribe and become extinct as a DDC?

We get a few months before the ddc gets the boot to make room for new ones. After a DDC closes most move over to "Life With a Babe" and create threads to chat on there and some make yahoo groups to keep in touch. That will be so weird...this ddc closing. Seems like the other day I found out I was pregnant