Originally Posted by ~Mom2thhts~
How common is it to not have the sucking reflex? Without the sucking reflex how could they suck the bottle but not your breast?
Not sure how common it is, but I was told by numerous people that preterm boy's sucking reflex tends to be weaker than preterm girls. Also, apparently if they are white, their sucking tends to be weaker. My twins are white boys. So, they had both.
It is not that they could not suck, but they their suck was weak. Too weak to get much milk from the breast. It is harder work for them to get milk frmo the breast than from the bottle. In the NICU, I would weigh them, then nurse them, then weigh them again to see how much they got. Then I would bottle feed them enough of my milk to make up the difference. Then I went to pump. It was quite the experience. I worked with a lactation consultant (who rocked, by the way!
) and she showed me how I could tell how good their suck was by watching their cheeks. When they sucked poorly, it looked like they were chomping.
They were 4 weeks early (they induced me) and the amazing thing is that when they hit their 40 week due date, they figured it out, and we said goodbye to bottles and pumping.
That being said, you may not have to do this. Mind you, I was induced, and should not have been, so they had these issues because they were too early. Now they are walking around and eating gobs of food and nursing like champs and are quite smart (in my motherly opinion!
). Everything worked out, thankfully. But don't worry about what might happen. I really don't think that there is anyway to prepare for the unknown except by just being ready to go with the flow and being ready to do whatever you need to do to take care of your babes. I spent a few weeks freaking out when I was pregnant because I went to a MOMs meeting and they all told me I was going to have a c-section and go straight to the NICU and be separated from my babies and bottle feed them formula, and on and on.....They all came from a fear based way of thinking and I started to worry. Turned out I delivered them vaginally, they were in the NICU for 10 days, but I was with them, and my the rest of my family stayed in the Ronald McDonald house across the street, adn it worked out fine. So, it was a bit of a balance, but you just do what you need to do.
I'll keep you in my prayers.