Quiverful Tribe: It's 2009! (Part 1) - Page 50

[cappuccinosmom]

I love to read your posts because some of you have medical issues, etc., that make it hard for you to have babies, mine is that I don't have someone to make more babies with! Even though I want to leave it up to God as to whether or not I have more babies, I'm going to have a hard time accepting it if God tells me "NOT" - there's no more. I know being QF doesn't mean having a large family, but I've always wanted more than 3 children.

Sorry for the I need to work on being grateful for the 3 beautiful blessings I do have. Feel free to remind me of that when I whine.

Hey, I'm right there with you. 3 kids, dh gone. Although I know you have more pain due to the reason your dh is gone. Mine is just out of the country temporarily.

If I spend any time thinking about it, it hurts so much. If God blesses us the night dh returns home , my current youngest will be four years old before the new baby would arrive. He's only two now. THinking about it that way makes it seem like an eternity before there's even a possibility of having a newborn in my arms.

Gotta keep reminding myself...God is good, God is good, there's a a reason for this, I'm so blessed already...

[waldorfknitmama]

Originally Posted by cappuccinosmom

Hey, I'm right there with you. 3 kids, dh gone. Although I know you have more pain due to the reason your dh is gone. Mine is just out of the country temporarily.

If I spend any time thinking about it, it hurts so much. If God blesses us the night dh returns home , my current youngest will be four years old before the new baby would arrive. He's only two now. THinking about it that way makes it seem like an eternity before there's even a possibility of having a newborn in my arms.

Gotta keep reminding myself...God is good, God is good, there's a a reason for this, I'm so blessed already...

[waldorfknitmama]

Originally Posted by akichan

I hadn't heard that about the Duggars. I was secretly hoping they'd pick my name, Jeena (pronounced "Gina").

I hope they are doing okay. Off to google more info. I really hope the best for that family.

It's a hard time of year to be single. Or, in my case, separated, still emotionally attached and in a very adversarial relationship. I love to read your posts because some of you have medical issues, etc., that make it hard for you to have babies, mine is that I don't have someone to make more babies with! Even though I want to leave it up to God as to whether or not I have more babies, I'm going to have a hard time accepting it if God tells me "NOT" - there's no more. I know being QF doesn't mean having a large family, but I've always wanted more than 3 children.

Sorry for the I need to work on being grateful for the 3 beautiful blessings I do have. Feel free to remind me of that when I whine.

Double 's.

[waldorfknitmama]

Originally Posted by Kidzaplenty

Michelle Dugger developed gallbladder issues as well as severe pre-E. So sad that they had to take the baby early. I hear they are doing better. But, I am sure they both have a long road to travel yet.

Very interesting. I didn't know she also developed pre-E. I think pre-E is VERY dangerous right? Like you can seize, or die? Is that high blood pressure? So sad though, I have a freind that works at a nicu nurse, she says that with all the fertilit treatments/multiples ect. she frequently sees
5mo gestation babies. She says they can save them but ususally they are in the nicu for more than a YEAR!!!! Can you imagine?? A year???!!! And also she says when they come out they do not look like a baby but like a FETUS!! Sooo sad, many prayers coming their way.

What would all do in that situation? I was thinking of that the other day---say I had a million kids (or more like 18 like the duggars) and I was getting older (43 isn't that old, but it is risky IMO) and I just had this micro micro preemie and developed many scarey deadly health problems would I continue to get pg?? Would you?? They way I think of it is; that the lord wants you be to servant to others and I think that includes your own children. What would happen if you dies in cb, you wouldn't be able to serve your family. So much to think about for that family.

On another note: how's everyones Holiday shopping/preparing doing?? I'm trying not to stress, money is tight this month (as I'm sure it is for a lot of us)


AND: Congrats for all the holiday pregnancies!!!!!!! I found it easier to deliver in the spring/summer than the winter, the winter was really hard becuase I loss all the weight very quickly, + being really skinny to being with +being a COLD MN winter it was very hard to lift my shirt up to nurse ect.

[waldorfknitmama]

Originally Posted by Adamsmama

It does!

We've been holding off on purpose since September from my OBs orders. (When I was officially diagnosed as hypothyroid they told me to hold off on TTC because of the dangers to the baby, etc.) Has anyone been through this? She told me 3 months of being on the meds and getting my body back to normal...we are trying to wait it out patiently but it has been 2 full months ... I have an appt. next week with an endo to see where I stand, hopefully the blood tests will come back better.

Anyone been through something like that?

I think I def. have some Hyperthyriodism stuff going on, I am super thin (and don't gain much for baby when I'm pg, my 1st pg my weight gain was 25lbs and my baby was nearly 9lbs, and I was 100lbs pre-pg) I have trouble sleeping and putting on weight, I'm more hyper-activity, have lighter irregular periods, and my heart races. Those are the sypmtoms of th disease- though I've never been officially diagnosed--- nor do I think I would, becuase my symptoms are mild.

What I do about it is making sure I eat healthy foods (and very often at LEAST once an hour----this may be opposite your problem) and making sure I get TONS of iodine----- there is a big connection between low iodine and hypo/hyperthyroidism just throw in seaweed in all your cooking pots/get iodine salt ect.

I try not to worry about it, I may get pg or I may never get pg again, I just assume whatever happens it's God's will and he know's best. If the Lord has brought you to the path of a respected OB and you have obvious health problems, perhaps God put these people in your life to get you help and you should listen to them. From what I hear it can be dangerous when pg--- Perhaps the Lord's will is not done in your life---should you die during pg.

[happiehart]

Originally Posted by naturalmamaof1

On another note: how's everyones Holiday shopping/preparing doing?? I'm trying not to stress, money is tight this month (as I'm sure it is for a lot of us)

Money is definently tight this year. We've just decided not to do gifts this year and put anything extra towards paying off debt. It is just to emotional and stressful to live like this anymore. Hopefully by next year we will be able to think more about family time, than bills and how on earth God will provide for the next month. He always does but I still always stress

[Adamsmama]

Originally Posted by naturalmamaof1

I think I def. have some Hyperthyriodism stuff going on, I am super thin (and don't gain much for baby when I'm pg, my 1st pg my weight gain was 25lbs and my baby was nearly 9lbs, and I was 100lbs pre-pg) I have trouble sleeping and putting on weight, I'm more hyper-activity, have lighter irregular periods, and my heart races. Those are the sypmtoms of th disease- though I've never been officially diagnosed--- nor do I think I would, becuase my symptoms are mild.

What I do about it is making sure I eat healthy foods (and very often at LEAST once an hour----this may be opposite your problem) and making sure I get TONS of iodine----- there is a big connection between low iodine and hypo/hyperthyroidism just throw in seaweed in all your cooking pots/get iodine salt ect.

I try not to worry about it, I may get pg or I may never get pg again, I just assume whatever happens it's God's will and he know's best. If the Lord has brought you to the path of a respected OB and you have obvious health problems, perhaps God put these people in your life to get you help and you should listen to them. From what I hear it can be dangerous when pg--- Perhaps the Lord's will is not done in your life---should you die during pg.

I saw my endo yesterday and they did a blood test, I'll get the results back pretty soon. Apparently with hypo (not sure about hyper) the risk of miscarriage is much higher than normal but also the risk of a baby having brain damage. My oldest son is low functioning/global delays, etc. We don't know if that was the cause but because I'm comitted to helping him do the best he can do (through doctors and therapists), I don't want to jump ahead of my dr. because it is possibly that my hypo had a direct affect on my son. My thyroid seemed to get a lot better during post-partum and breastfeeding. My dr. showed me yesterday how that is possible. Apparently some people with hyper or normal can actually go hypo post-partum...but mine fluxed the other way. I have another appt. in 2 months so if these results don't go well ... we'll only have to wait a few more months (with upped meds, etc.). I do feel it was the Lord speaking to us back in September -- this has been a lesson in patience in my opinion and in waiting on God.

[cappuccinosmom]

What would all do in that situation? I was thinking of that the other day---say I had a million kids (or more like 18 like the duggars) and I was getting older (43 isn't that old, but it is risky IMO) and I just had this micro micro preemie and developed many scarey deadly health problems would I continue to get pg?? Would you??

If all my pregnancies had been as traumatic as this one was for the Duggar's, I'd certainly struggle with maintaining QF beliefs. Although, I do know a QF family--the first time I'd met them they'd had 8 miscarriages, and had only 5 living children. That's 13 pregnancies, and over half of them involved suffering for mom and the loss of the baby. So there are people who do maintain that belief no matter what.

I doubt the Duggar's will shift beliefs. For me, a one-time bad event wouldn't make me reconsider my convictions on this. I'd certainly be worried and praying daily if there was a subsequent pregnancy. But I wouldn't suddenly not trust God to do his thing, yk? We live in a fallen world and crappy stuff happens. But when it does, I believe God works it for good for all involved.

[100%mom]

As far as Holiday shopping for the family I only spent around $70 for my 3 kids plus my husband. I shopped last years after Christmas sales, garage sales and thrift stores. We are also trying to get debt free and I don't think my kids really need more toys. Too much clutter in the house just makes a stressed out Mom.

I don't know if anything would change my QF belief. God says that he won't give us more then we can handle. After my second miscarriage I was told that my body wouldn't be able to handle another pg until it had time to heal. I was told to wait 6 months before trying again. Well, 2 months later I was pg with my first living child.

[triscuitsmom]

Originally Posted by naturalmamaof1

What would all do in that situation? I was thinking of that the other day---say I had a million kids (or more like 18 like the duggars) and I was getting older (43 isn't that old, but it is risky IMO) and I just had this micro micro preemie and developed many scarey deadly health problems would I continue to get pg?? Would you?? They way I think of it is; that the lord wants you be to servant to others and I think that includes your own children. What would happen if you dies in cb, you wouldn't be able to serve your family. So much to think about for that family.

For me I don't number of kids has anything to do with it... if I were to die in my next pregnancy I wouldn't be able to raise the children I currently have, and I've only got two and am only 23 years old.

I have continued to get pregnant despite not carrying to term. Although I have no preemies, mine have all be early enough that they were not viable when I've delivered. But at this point I've had 9 pregnancies, 2 living children (both high risk pregnancies for their own reasons), and lost 8 babies (my fourth pregnancy I was pregnant with twins).

It is not always easy to trust that everything happens for a reason. And yet, I can't imagine not being open to whatever children I was meant to have in my life, forever long or short a time.

[waldorfknitmama]

I'm sorry for all of your losses. Good points.

[fruitfulmomma]

Do we have a new thread for this year?

And congrats to Jenny on the new baby! He's adorable.

[naturalmama09]

had period but still feel preggo

Hi ladies, quick question for you. DD 2 is now 8 months old. I thought it was strange that not only have I not gotten pregnant yet, but that I hadn't even gotten my period back yet. (By the time DD 1 was 4 months old, I was preggo with DD 2.) However, two weeks ago (a few days to a week after being with hubby a couple times, I got my first postpartum "period". But, why do I feel pregnant? I know there is a such thing as implantation bleeding, but this was a five day period (or maybe I don't remember what a period's like its been so long) Anyway, could I be pregnant? Or am I just being crazy here? Could I have conceived then has a period anyway? Or could it have been implant. bleeding that was heavy or something? Any experience with this? Thanks girls!