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post #1 of 51
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One of my dd's friends (age 6) is taught by her older sister to dance like Britney Spears because she thinks that it is funny. Another one of her friends from camp last summer also likes to bump and grind when she dances. Is it normal to teach a little girl to dance like that? What is your opinion on this?
post #2 of 51
Yes, unfortunately, it's considered "normal" these days. My stepdaughter had a dance show for all the parents at her camp this summer and they danced like that. They were a group of 6, 7 and 8 year olds.
post #3 of 51
I don't know if it's normal or not, but I don't see the big deal. It's just dancing - it doesn't have any sexual meaning to a young child.
post #4 of 51
I know you don't mean this to be funny but have you ever seen Britney Spears dance? She's horrible!
post #5 of 51
It is certainly not normal in the crowd my dd hangs out with. Nor the parents.
post #6 of 51
I put DD in dance classes when she was around 4. While they were in their class, I would look in on some of the others, b/c it disrupted DD for me to be there. One class was EXACTLY what you were talking about (6-8 yos), and it disgusted me. I pulled DD out shortly after that, that is NOT what I wanted her graduating to. I think that kids today are way to oversexualized anyway, and acting like it's cute only adds to the problem.
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post #8 of 51
I think that type of dancing (Britney Spears, Pussy Cat Dolls, etc.) is rather vulgar. But I'm getting quite old fogey-ish.
post #9 of 51
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Originally Posted by kchara View Post
I think that kids today are way to over sexualized anyway, and acting like it's cute only adds to the problem.
I agree
post #10 of 51
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
It's just dancing - it doesn't have any sexual meaning to a young child.
Then why do it?
post #11 of 51
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Originally Posted by lab View Post
Then why do it?
Because dancing is fun?
post #12 of 51
Dancing is an expression. And I find that the way a college kid dances should be different than the way a child dances and every form of age-appropriate expression in between.

But maybe I'm just old ;-)

-Kolleen
post #13 of 51
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Originally Posted by kchara View Post
I put DD in dance classes when she was around 4. While they were in their class, I would look in on some of the others, b/c it disrupted DD for me to be there. One class was EXACTLY what you were talking about (6-8 yos), and it disgusted me. I pulled DD out shortly after that, that is NOT what I wanted her graduating to. I think that kids today are way to oversexualized anyway, and acting like it's cute only adds to the problem.
ITA

I used to hang out with a group of people who were mostly single without kids, but one of the guys was divorced with a 4 year old daughter. Someone had taught her to dance like a stripper, right down to balancing on a kiddie chair with one foot on the front of the seat and one foot on the top of the backrest and riding it down as it tips over, then gyrating around the chair in a very suggestive manner. No way she learned that in just a few minutes, someone spent time teaching her.

Everyone thought it was so funny except for me and one other woman, and we were both appalled. Ew. And we were the weird ones.
post #14 of 51
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Then why do it?
Any number of reasons . . . should we really be grilling our kids on their motives for inconsequential things? Dancing is fun, they're imitating teens/adults that they like (and sorry, but being a sexual being doesn't make someone a bad role model), and it's harmless. Moving, dancing, and being active are all good things!
post #15 of 51
My own daughter loves to dance, and does so frequently. She has a radio, a mirror, and occasionally friends in there having a great time. I want her to be comfortable with her body. I don't think she quite understands the sexual implications as a 9yo, but maybe I don't give her enough credit. Either way, she's having fun and moving. I've never seen her doing anything overtly sexual. Keeping in mind that women's bodies are curvy and suggestive no matter what we do, I think it could be easy to take something innocent out of context, as well as to ignore something serious. It's a fine line. As a parent you should go with your gut. I want my daughter to grow into a woman comfortable with herself, her curves, and how to move them. I just want her to do it in her own way in her own time. I have no doubt it'll become more suggestive as she enters the teen years, but isn't that the point of those years? No that it makes it ok, but I remember how I was at 15, 16, etc.I just hope I will be able to give her the honesty and guidance I was denied.
post #16 of 51
I'm sorry, but I don't see anything wrong with them dancing that way. Yes, it is perfectly normal and many young girls do dance that way and are taught to dance that way. I say let them dance however they want !
post #17 of 51
I see nothing wrong with it. I have 2 girls and they both dance like that. I am not sure where they picked it up from maybe many places and people maybe me. At first it really bothered me (my issues were the ones that needed to be addressed) but I think it's innocent behavior and I do not want to shame them for expressing their beautiful self so I have gotten use to it and just go with it. Dancing is free and thats just how it should be free from any judgements.
post #18 of 51
I have issues with it.....
post #19 of 51
Ugh, I hate it. I don't have girls but I just don't understand why people think it's cute and funny to see little ones dancing like strippers. Often to nasty, vulgar music, too.

I get that little kids don't understand that what they are doing appears sexual. That doesn't make it okay.
post #20 of 51
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Then why do it?
Because dancing is fun?
I think it's not the dancing part, but HOW they're being taught to dance. We danced when we were kids, but never in all the suggestive, oversexualized ways 6 yr old girls dance nowadays.

Kids can dance all they want, but why do they have to look like a stripper w/clothes on?
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