Past Due - And Not Inducing ... - Page 2

[AutumnAir]

I know what it feels like - my DD came at 43 +1 weeks. Those last few weeks were so hard. I remember watching a nature program with DH a couple of days before she came and crying and yelling at the TV "See, even the polar bears and the lions and everyone have their babies - why can't I have mine!!"

My mom went to 42 weeks with both my brother and I, and apparently my gran went to 46 !! weeks. She was very sure of her dates too. So it looks like it just runs in the family.

I hope you're holding your baby in your arms soon. And remember, no one stays pregnant forever (even though sometimes it feels like you might!)

[Limabean1975]

You're doing great! I will be watching here for updates!

[DoomaYula]

My babies keep cooking longer with each pregnancy, so I'm loathe to have #5, I'd probably go to 44w.

I went to 41 with #4 (which doesn't sound like much compared to others) and my bff went to 43w with her second.

[jrabbit]

nope, nada, nothin', zilch

a LOT of frustration this morning, though.

[jrabbit]

well, i'm now 42w6d, and I'm officially emotionally wiped out. I think i'm losing the mucous plug. I had BPP last night, slightly low fluid, but otherwise the baby looks great. I had NST monitor last night and this morning, and baby looks great - except one huge decel that really scared us all. But that was while lying on my back, and I felt what "may" have been a contraction. Then I lay on my side for half hour, with no more decels. And nothing today. Mw will come back again this evening. We have another BPP scheduled for tomorrow morning at 7. Then, she did an exam because i had some discolored discharge last night. Soft and the cervix is in the right place, but not more than 1cm. I know that means nothing. I wasn't even going to have an exam, but I'll do anything to avoid the hospital now.

We talked and talked and talked about what to do, and of course, it made me cry. I don't want a hospital birth. I want my home, my peace, my children, my bathtub. I don't want pitocin, interventions, monitoring, or to have a baby on a bed in bright lights. I don't want to be in a car during labor. I don't want to have to take antibiotics (gbs+) or have separation from my baby. But, I want a healthy baby more than anything in the world. An emergency transfer would be worse than just "going".

But, for right now, I'm not going.
--janis

[Limabean1975]

You are doing great. Baby is doing great. All will be well. :

[Kidzaplenty]

Hoping your labor begins today!

[AutumnAir]

Hang in there mama!

[mmaramba]

Everything sounds good. You can do it!

[AmieV]

I'm sorry Janis. I don't even know how far over I am now as my midwife keeps poring over my chart and wanting to "adjust" my date some more. I am nearly positive of when we DTD...(hello, I have kids 18 months apart, it's not as though there's that much action around here!) but, baby is healthy, I am healthy, pregnancy is healthy and that is what I am trying to meditate on. To me it doesn't make sense to take healthy to the hospital but I know the doubt that comes with creeping up on certain dates.

Do you have a certain cutoff where you have to go to the hospital? do you have options other than the pitocin? Have you talked to your m/w about the real risks of your labor right now? I know it helped me to hash out what exactly the problems of a 42+w birth are and realize why certain things happen and how they would be handled. I feel a lot more relaxed about waiting now (though don't ask me in a week because I'm not sure I'll be here!! you are a rock star)

Your body is making changes, no, they're not big massive flashing "LABOR" signs but it is working in the right direction. Maybe your body is just easing into this labor slowly, just like the pregnancy has taken its sweet time.

Third babies are a trip, aren't they???

[jrabbit]

fortunately, here, we don't have too much to worry about with time-lines, but of course, it's generally frowned upon by the medical establishment to go this long. I'm officially 43 weeks tomorrow, but the 37week u/s actually gave a later date, so we 'could' use that if need be. (but I knew i was pregnant within 7 days of DTD, so there really isn't any way to be that far off) The conversation I had with my MW was one where we hashed out all the pros & cons of all the possible scenarios, and we're left with really desiring to wait it out but being fearful at the same time. The only hospital where we "might" have a chance with a respectful doctor is far away and not where we'd go in the event of an emergency transfer - but even if we went to that hospital, there are no guarantees. It would still be in the hands of the nursing staff mostly. And to make matters more scary for me, the emergency transfer hospital is just NOT where I want to be, but it's super close, and they are certainly qualified. I just don't want to be in a hospital, that's the bottom line.

I started taking a cohosh concoction this afternoon. I'm actually a wee bit sad about doing all this because i *was* content not to do any of these things, but I think I've been pushed to my limit now. I'm hoping that I have to cancel the BPP for tomorrow, but who knows.

good nite
--janis

[Kidzaplenty]

Sorry you did not get your natual start. But, hey! You could be holding your baby tonight! That is a great thing!

Labor vibes going your way!

[mom2sol]

Oh I so know what you mean! I felt like I had to push my DS out. I spent the day trying to get labor started because my waters had broken and my "med" wife gave me a 24 hour time line or hospital.
With my DD I was so determined to go into labor all on my own.
I feel your disappointment.

Hope all is well. Thinking of you.

[alegna]

Hang in there! They DO come out, I promise!

With Gregory the cohoshes did nothing. Nada. Zip. Zilch.

EPO helped encourage him out I think.

I'm not sure I'd do it again though. If all were the same again I think I would have tried to be more patient, if such a thing exists.

-Angela

[Rylins mama]

Im so sorry baby is staying in so long. I planned on doing a homebirth but there were complications and my midwife took off after about 5 days late and I live on an island with no midwives so I had to adjust to the idea of a hospital birth already nearly a week late after planning a ahomebirth for months! It was horrible and sad. I went 17 weeks overdue from one duedate and 14 from the other. It was a sunday and I knew come monday the NST would no longer be enough for the drs. and I would be pushed into induction so I took a chance with castor oil. It really sucked and I wouldnt do it again but he did come out after just 4 hours and only an hour of labor. Really stay away from it unless you have to though.

[Kidzaplenty]

Originally Posted by Rylins mama

I went 17 weeks overdue from one duedate and 14 from the other.

I REALLY, REALLY hope you meant DAYS, not WEEKS!


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[Maine Mama Doula]

2 days behind you Janis and I have been keeping track of your story - I realy hope something happens soon. As for me, we have been pretty hands-off and I'm getting a little nervous as well. I tried cohosh a week ago to no avail. I haven't SEEN my midwife since 38 weeks although we are keeping in contact via phone and email. I went for a BPP 2 days ago and it looked good according to the technician although I never actually spoke to a doctor or nurse about it. To me, it seems like nobody is really concerned that I am almost 43 weeks (except my Dad). I've been talking about castor oil, but only because I am scared. I called out of work today and I think I am going to go get a manicure, pedicure, and my hair cut (3 things I rarely ever do). Maybe it'll keep me from bawling. And I'm going out to dinner tonight with a bunch of my mom friends. This is my third child as well. I really want to have it at home this time and should be able to as long as I don't freak out.

[ShwarmaQueen]

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[cathicog]

Originally Posted by babyluvandkisses

This is my third child as well. I really want to have it at home this time and should be able to as long as I don't freak out.

I would be prepared for a fairly fast birth.My experience has been that with moms having the third, it is *usually* a short labor. Mine was longer because baby was posterior for the longest time. Fortunately I stayed home. Got on my hands and knees and baby turned and was born about an hour later... Is the baby anterior? I am sure everything is fine... Kind of a pain to have to go for BPPs often, isn't it? Thier nervousness makes the moms nervous, I think...Have a great homebirth.

[Mainstream Hippie]

She hasn't posted this morning...