Past Due - And Not Inducing ... - Page 3

[jrabbit]

<sigh> Still here.

The cohosh "might" have been responsible for something. I slept like crap last night - very crampy and nauseous and now I have a full-blown migraine. I made DH stop twice on the way to BPP to puke out the car door. lovely. Afterward, I went back to bed. Just now getting online. BPP showed fluid levels up to normal, baby active - so that's a relief. Midwife will be coming in an hour for another NST monitoring. For some reason, that just makes me feel better.

I think I'll go take a shower ... Babyluv - I might even attempt to get a haircut today. That's what I do when I'm depressed, so maybe I should ....

--janis

[Maine Mama Doula]

Originally Posted by cathicog

I would be prepared for a fairly fast birth.My experience has been that with moms having the third, it is *usually* a short labor. Mine was longer because baby was posterior for the longest time. Fortunately I stayed home. Got on my hands and knees and baby turned and was born about an hour later... Is the baby anterior? I am sure everything is fine... Kind of a pain to have to go for BPPs often, isn't it? Thier nervousness makes the moms nervous, I think...Have a great homebirth.

I actually called and scheduled the BPP for myself - my MW is from far away and can't schedule hospital tests so I did it through my OB and we feel better. I'm pretty sure the baby is anterior as he/she is head down and on my left side. It rotated back to my belly during the BPP and then back to the left. I hope labor is fast after al this waiting!

[Maine Mama Doula]

I think I'll go take a shower ... Babyluv - I might even attempt to get a haircut today. That's what I do when I'm depressed, so maybe I should ....

--janis

I'm glad to hear that you're still OK. Keep hanging in there - I'm waiting on you! I did get my nails done and my hair cut - that was nice. The baby moved a lot for me during this, pushing on my cervix it feels like so that is reassuring.

[Romana]

Janis, I really hope you're holding your baby soon. So sorry you've been waiting so, so long. My first was born at 38 weeks and my second at 40 - not the same thing, but the *expectation* of giving birth around 38 weeks and having to wait two whole more interminable weeks was really hard.

Originally Posted by AutumnAir

I know what it feels like - my DD came at 43 +1 weeks. Those last few weeks were so hard. I remember watching a nature program with DH a couple of days before she came and crying and yelling at the TV "See, even the polar bears and the lions and everyone have their babies - why can't I have mine!!"

: That is SOOOOO something a desperate, emotional pregnant lady says! I can totally hear myself saying that and crying!

[Full Heart]

Originally Posted by jrabbit

<sigh> Still here.

The cohosh "might" have been responsible for something. I slept like crap last night - very crampy and nauseous and now I have a full-blown migraine. I made DH stop twice on the way to BPP to puke out the car door. lovely. Afterward, I went back to bed. Just now getting online. BPP showed fluid levels up to normal, baby active - so that's a relief. Midwife will be coming in an hour for another NST monitoring. For some reason, that just makes me feel better.

I think I'll go take a shower ... Babyluv - I might even attempt to get a haircut today. That's what I do when I'm depressed, so maybe I should ....

--janis

Are you doing the cohoshes in tincture form or homeopathic form? Neither did anything for me but the homeopathic form is much easier to handle. Although when I did both types the tinctures always made me have bloody show. Which just drove me nuts, all that for nothing! I had a friend who found some in tea form and that put her into labor. I can't imagine what it tasted like though lol.

Crampy and Nauseous is a good thing! Hopefully you will be in labor today!

[triplembride]

i've been following your story hang in there mama

[alegna]

Sorry! I must have sneezed on you sometime and passed on the slow babies germs!

Hang in there!

-Angela

[jrabbit]

I'm so very sad right now. I have to go to the hospital. I can't believe I'm typing these words. I know it's the only choice we have - the baby has been showing decels after contractions, and I'm not even in hard labor.

*Anyone reading this needs to know that home birth is supposed to work this way. Hospitals are here for a reason - they are the back-up plan for emergencies, just like this. I know it doesn't mean that we've failed or that home birth was wrong. It's just the way it is - we don't get to control some things in life - and some things are just not worth the risk. I'm sad, I'm devastated, but we just have to do this.*

MW is on her way now to help us get what we need and get to the hospital. We'll be able to birth with an OB who respects home birth - which has always been my biggest fear about a hb transfer. Our kids will be able to be in the room. My mother is coming with us.

I'll have a baby in my arms tomorrow, and that's what it's all about. Pray for us - that we get through the night without being induced or pressured too much.

--janis

[Luv2bemommy]

{{{{huuggss}}}}} Janis!! No one is blaming you for going to the hospital. We all want a healthy baby and sometimes the hospital is necessary. I hope you have a great birth hun. I know what it's like to be disappointed in your birth, I was a transfer with my last home birth and delivered in the hospital.

We will all be waiting to hear about the newest addition to your family.

[Mainstream Hippie]

Originally Posted by jrabbit

*Anyone reading this needs to know that home birth is supposed to work this way. Hospitals are here for a reason - they are the back-up plan for emergencies, just like this. I know it doesn't mean that we've failed or that home birth was wrong. It's just the way it is - we don't get to control some things in life - and some things are just not worth the risk. I'm sad, I'm devastated, but we just have to do this.*

Thinking good thoughts for you for a smooth labor and the arrival of a healthy baby.

[alegna]

((hugs)))

Happy birthing Janis!

I assume you tried some different positions? Ds was quite picky about positions when I was in labor.

-Angela

[madiesmommy]

Hugs!! I hope your labor and birth go wonderful, even with the change of scenery!!

[mom2sol]

My thoughts are with you. I hope all has gone/ is going well!!!!

[knitted_in_the_wom]

Originally Posted by jrabbit

Anyway, I want to share this story that came out a dinner last night: my mom swears that I was 3.5 weeks late. I've known this story for a long time, but I took it with a grain of salt because I was born 42 years ago, and how **sure** is she of her dates?? Also, she could easily have done a little fudging because my parents weren't married at the time ... Anyway, I smile and nod when she tells me her story.

Ummm..if she was going to "fudge" because of embarrassment about pre-marital pregnancy, don't you think she would be saying that you had been born prematurely, not late?

I do regret that I never asked my grandmother what happened with my father...who was 10 lbs when he was born barely 8 months after my grandparents got married. She told me that her parents and her in-laws both had "2 month pregnancies" if you catch my drift, that my grandfather struggled with E.D. that she wished he would get help for (TMI Grandma, really!), but he refused to admit it to his Dr., and what birth control had failed for 3 out of 4 of their other kids (apparently only my Aunt C was planned...Uncle J and Aunts J & E were "oops"), so you would think I would had eventually gotten up the guts to ask her about that, but I didn't.

Jenn

[NaturalMindedMomma]

Aw Janis! I'm sorry. It is really heart-breaking to have something like this happen. On the upside, you have respected babies timeline and you are going to be (or may already be) holding your beautiful babe soon! Birth is never a failure..

(((BIG BIG HUGS)))

[Romana]

I hope you're holding a lovely happy newborn right now!

Kudos to you and to homebirth in general for knowing when to say when. I hope the birth went well and that you felt respected. It's okay to mourn the loss of the birth you'd hoped for.

[jennert]

i've been watching your situation in different threads, though i haven't posted till now. so i feel rather like i know you. you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

[mamavegan]

Originally Posted by Romana9+2

Kudos to you and to homebirth in general for knowing when to say when. I hope the birth went well and that you felt respected. It's okay to mourn the loss of the birth you'd hoped for.

Exactly this. you guys made the right decision and though birth may not have ended up how you wanted/planned, you are still an amazing and powerful woman. You planned your HB in part because of the knowledge that you have about birth and doing what's best for you and your family. Going to the hospital sucks, for sure, but you did what was best for all of you in your situation. I'm sure I'm not getting all my thoughts out the most eloquently, but I want you to know that I've been and will continue to keep you in my thoughts.

[Kidzaplenty]

I am so sorry that you did not get your HB. I know exactly how you feel. And I agree, that is what a hospital is there for, the complications that can not be taken care of at home.

I hope by now you have your little one in your arms, finally!

[jrabbit]

i wanted to update y'all, and i hope you realize how important this thread was to me last week. the story took a difficult twist thursday night, and i ended up having an emergency c/s less than 4 hours after arriving at the hospital. there were no interventions or bullying to blame. it was simply an example of how life is unfair and sometimes we don't get what we want, even though it may seem like the best thing possible. we are grateful that we live in a place where we have access to modern medicine and skilled surgeons. our daughter will forever remind us of that.

i've been writing my story in bits and pieces, through tears. i had to read these messages to remind myself what i was thinking and feeing those days. we didn't do anything wrong. we followed our gut, and there was only one thing we could have done. it was an awful experience. i lost so much. but at the same time, it renewed our faith in birth. i would choose home birth again without reservation.

thank you
--janis & zoe liora (1/9/09)