son wants me to take him to the doc, is it necessary? - Page 2

[kimiij]

I think you should find a foreskin-friendly doc as previously suggested by pp so that they can tell your son "it looks fine." If it's not fine, then that's a different story..but it sounds normal.

In the meantime, you can still talk to your son about what is normal at this age, can you even print out very simple resources to show him - two or three pages of pictures/text to explain why this might be normal. Also talk to him about the advantages/benefits and normalcy of a foreskin.

[latinalonestar]

Unless you can find a truly foreskin friendly doctor I wouldn't see anyone just quite yet. Problem is that many doctors don't understand the normal developmental process of the foreskin, even some that are against circ are not up to speed on the normal separation processes. I'd see if talking to D.O.C. will answer his questions and tame his insecurities first.

[hakunangovi]

If your son's description of his "problem" is accurate, then it has nothing to do with his foreskin being tight and needing treatment with a cream such as Betamethasone. As you know , virtualy all infant foreskins are bonded to the glans with synechia. Over time, hormones and erections release this bond, but the age at which it takes place is hugely variable.

I have a nephew who had exactly the same situation. His foreskin was loose enough, and had released from the glans in all but one small area. Then at about the age of 16 the remaining synecchia suddenly released and he was fully retractable.

I think you just need to reassure him that he is normal, and explain the function of his foreskin to him. You might want to go to www.cirp.org where there is a wealth of really great information. It would probably be good for him to research on his own too.

Good luck and please post how you make out or if we can help further.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by TCMoulton

Since he is asking to go to a doctor could you at least take him for a consult with someone so that he can at least ask his questions and then take it from there? He's definitely old enough to have some say in his medical decisions and a consult is pretty harmless, especially if it makes him feel better about his body.

I would agree but what if the Dr. says something to him about the only way to fix it is to circ? Unless the Dr. was completly foreskin friendly and wouldnt dream of mentioning circ taking him to the Dr. could cause even more problems.