Wanting But Waiting Tribe *2009* - Page 6

[Brown Lioness]

I'm still here (mostly lurking in this thread lol). We were planning to conceive later this year, but i don't think thas gonna happen.

Hubby got laid off earlier this month. We are thinking about moving down south. There is just STILL SO MUCH to be done before we feel comfortable ttcing. Sigh. But the yearning to conceive is still very strong....even hubby has been exhibiting baby pangs, lol. It's just not right to do right now though....and that kills.

But Im comforted in my faith that this won't be forever. We will eventually get to the place we need to conceive.

[Kyamo]

Originally Posted by Magelet

If eel like I've already been waiting 18 years and that's enough. and when we talk about timing, I say I want 2-3 years, he says he wants 5-6, and we end up agreeing on 5-6. what?

I was in your situation. I got married at 19 and wanted to wait a few years, DH wanted kids in a more abstract, "sometime in the future" way, lol. However, what worked for us was a "wait one year, then re-evaluate" type plan. It helped me wait because re-evaluating in a year doesn't sound so far off as TTC in 5-6, or whatever, and it helped him because he didn't have to feel so pressured. Anyways, I'm now 24 and its looking pretty concrete that early 2010 will be TTC time for us. Honestly, despite it being hard to wait, at none of those re-evaluation times did I truly feel ready to TTC immediately, for practical reasons. And while I waited (impatiently, I admit) for all those practical reasons to fall into place, he naturally became more ready and more comfortable with the idea.

[Magelet]

Thanks kyamo. I think that "re-evaluating in a year" might be too scary for him, but I'll think about it. Its definitely easier for me. We'll see. lol

[kirstenb]

Just checking in to say hi!

We may be moving our TTC date up a bit... I've started to get baby fever pretty bad the last few weeks. We've stopped trying to prevent pregnancy (I wasn't on BC so not hard at all) and are taking the wait and see what happens approach. So... we'll see what happens!

[~Kristina~]

Hey ladies, we've decided to start trying this month! :

[Magelet]

yay!

[Oliver's Mama]

I'm so glad I found this thread!! Sign me up for this spring!
Dh and I have occasionally brought up the topic, and he generally is not as eager as me, but we agreed having a baby in a year, earliest (ttc in 3 months, then..) would be good. However.. TOTAL BABY FEVER!!!! I just got my first AF after bf-ing for 18 months.. maybe it's my newfound fertility. I spend all my free time "nesting".. trying to make our tiny home accomodating for a baby (dh thinks we need to move first, but I'm slowly convincing him otherwise)

I'm just trying to figure out the timing of when to ask dh if he's ready now.. not later this year, without freaking him out and making him wanting to wait longer. I'm just so ready.

[samy23]

Congrats kristenb and kristina! Very happy for you guys!

My baby thoughts have decreased lately (thank goodness!), due to some unfortunate health issues with my dd. Hoping these will get sorted out ASAP and ttc will still go ahead as planned from August 09 -5 months time :

I really would hate to have to put off ttc for other reasons that come up in life, do you ladies feel that way? Something else always seems to go wrong or come up just when everything seems near perfect and the best time to ttc. I hate that. There really is no "perfect" time to ttc....

[MPsSweetie]

I am now one af closer to TTC! Yet, my baby fever has waned a bit, hmmm... Maybe its all the stress of moving this month... or the terrible twos that have hit our house... who knows. I guess we'll just take things as they come right? If it doesn't feel *right* come May, I guess we'll wait a bit longer.

Anybody else ever have these feelings?

[petit_bleuet]

Originally Posted by samy23

I really would hate to have to put off ttc for other reasons that come up in life, do you ladies feel that way? Something else always seems to go wrong or come up just when everything seems near perfect and the best time to ttc. I hate that. There really is no "perfect" time to ttc....

That was us... I suspected I'd be losing my job (non-standardized test subject teacher in a bad economic time) and I was informed last week that I was right. DH and I had to figure out whether we still go for it or not. We're still going to try, primarily because we don't want the age gap to get bigger between DS and any future kidlet and because I'm not getting younger (I'll be 35 this year).

Not a perfect time, for sure, but since we should be able to get by financially and the above factors, we're still going for it.

[Magelet]

Originally Posted by samy23

There really is no "perfect" time to ttc....

No, there isn't. there are, however better times I'm realizing that as much as I want kids now, its a good thing that fdh isn't ready. Because the truth is, we aren't ready. I'm not a big beleiver that you need to be in the perfect situation for having kids, but right now, with both of us living in our parents houses, and neither of us having a job, nor much job experience, is not the time.

Of course, knowing this doesn't make me want kids any less, or want them now any less. I just know that for a little while, my head needs to prevail over my heart.

[samy23]

Originally Posted by MPsSweetie

I am now one af closer to TTC! Yet, my baby fever has waned a bit, hmmm... Maybe its all the stress of moving this month... or the terrible twos that have hit our house... who knows. I guess we'll just take things as they come right? If it doesn't feel *right* come May, I guess we'll wait a bit longer.

Anybody else ever have these feelings?

Yes, as I said before, I am feeling this way too lately. It has only been the past few days because my dd may have some underlying health problems we are going to have to address and deal with. Being so pre-occupied and stressed/worried about this has really taken my focus off wanting to ttc. She is feeling better today, and now my baby yearning thoughts are coming back full force. It seems when there are periods of time we go through that are stressful like you said the stress of moving home really takes our mind off wanting to ttc and kind of makes us think maybe now isn't the right time.

petit_bleuet I feel the same way about still going ahead with ttc as soon as I'm ready because I too am conscious of the age gap between my kids -my dd will be 7 once the baby arrives. -Maybe even 8 depending how long it takes to conceive. Im pretty sure I will get this job promotion in May, but if for some reason I don't, then I know really I shouldn't go ahead with ttc because I will be struggling more than I want to financially.

[MPsSweetie]

Sorry, I read your post, but was so wrapped up in my own little world...

Its just so hard to know when its really the *right* time! I hope your dd gets to feeling better soon lately. We have been sick non-stop since December, but nothing serious, thankfully.

[Sihaya]

Sorry for the lag in updating the roster, I was unexpectedly away from the computer for a few days. I think I updated everything correctly. Please let me know here or by PM if I didn't add or remove you the way you wanted.

[sleepingbeauty]

Can I join in? I didn't even know there was a WTT section on MDC

OH and I are waiting until Aug. 2010. ^-^

[Oliver's Mama]

Is anyone waiting to ttc because of the time of year the baby would be born? I'd love to have a baby in the spring, though that would mean waiting longer than I'd like to start ttc. But then maybe that's just silly alltogether, because who knows how long it will take? I hate the idea of having a baby in the frigidness of winter, but I spose it would be a small price to pay if dh agrees to start trying soon! :

[sleepingbeauty]

I am, actually. The thought of battling throguh the hot summer months with a huge belly sounds really crappy, so we're going to TTC in August and hopefully miss the summer all together

[Oliver's Mama]

Actually, the first time around we waited til August for the same reason, but didn't get pregnant til early November, which meant being very pregnant in summer, and I was two weeks late into the heat of mid-August!!

[Sihaya]

I'd like the next one born in Feb-May, so we're waiting until May '10 even though the spacing would be right a few months before then. Ideally, I'd like the next one to be born in February. We got pg with DS on the first try and my family is notoriously fertile, so we'll see...

[sleepingbeauty]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama

Actually, the first time around we waited til August for the same reason, but didn't get pregnant til early November, which meant being very pregnant in summer, and I was two weeks late into the heat of mid-August!!

well, if t happens, hooray. If not, that's why God invented garden hoses and $20 swimming pools hahaha