Wanting But Waiting Tribe *2009* - Page 7

[Jennifer3141]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama

Actually, the first time around we waited til August for the same reason, but didn't get pregnant til early November, which meant being very pregnant in summer, and I was two weeks late into the heat of mid-August!!

It's a tiny part of why I'm waiting until August-ish! We don't have central air and most summers we don't need it but if we end up with another freakish 100 plus summer, I think I'd just throw myself in the lake and wait for labor to come at some point.

My first 10 pounds are gone. 40ish to go.

And Sihaya, thank you for adding me to the roster. It makes it seem more "real" to see my name up there.

[MPsSweetie]

I am. I have a spring baby and a fall baby, now I want a winter baby, preferable February. Then I want a summer baby, maybe August/September.

[SilvanaRose]

Originally Posted by kirstenb

Just checking in to say hi!

We may be moving our TTC date up a bit... I've started to get baby fever pretty bad the last few weeks. We've stopped trying to prevent pregnancy (I wasn't on BC so not hard at all) and are taking the wait and see what happens approach. So... we'll see what happens!

We are not being very careful either. The baby fever has been really bad for me the past couple months. We both really want kids but he wants to wait a bit for a number of reasons. Im not a citizen yet, we need to get married, and it would be nice for me to get a job so I can save a little (no work visa).

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama

Is anyone waiting to ttc because of the time of year the baby would be born? I'd love to have a baby in the spring, though that would mean waiting longer than I'd like to start ttc. But then maybe that's just silly alltogether, because who knows how long it will take? I hate the idea of having a baby in the frigidness of winter, but I spose it would be a small price to pay if dh agrees to start trying soon! :

I really dont want a christmas baby! I think thats the worst time of year for the poor kid lol. Everyone is too busy with holidays and they get ripped off in attention lol. I really want a february or spring baby as well but that means we have to be careful for a couple more months. I can totally relate to wanting to wait and be able to time the birth according to time of year.

Put me on the list for at least attempting to wait it out haha.

[sleepingbeauty]

Can I move to "a little longer"?

OH said we could *discuss* it in August. Not that we'd be trying. (we talked again last night)

[Susuwatari]

Can I join? We're waiting to start ttc our second in April 2010.

We're hoping for a Spring baby aswell, even though APril would give us a Christmas baby. We started ttc ds in April and he was conceived in July and born the following April.
Having him in spring was just so perfect, having just gone through winter I wonder how I would have coped if he had been newborn during that time. I would have found it so much more difficult.
I'll take what we're given though, if I'm due in winter I'll still be delighted.

[samy23]

Yeah I'm not too worried about which month the baby is born. November, December and January would probably be less preferable because it being so close to christmas and new years holidays.

Do you all know if you want any more children after this next one? and how long you will wait for the next one? I'm undecided if I'll have anymore after my second.

[Sihaya]

Originally Posted by SilvanaRose

I really dont want a christmas baby! I think thats the worst time of year for the poor kid lol. Everyone is too busy with holidays and they get ripped off in attention lol. I really want a february or spring baby as well but that means we have to be careful for a couple more months. I can totally relate to wanting to wait and be able to time the birth according to time of year.

I really wanted DS to be a March baby and said over and over 'Any month but December!,' but in the end our baby lust won out over time of the year preference and he was born Dec 22nd. So far, the only thing that bothers me about having his birthday so close to Christmas is all of the negative comments and assumptions from others.

Originally Posted by samy23

Do you all know if you want any more children after this next one? and how long you will wait for the next one? I'm undecided if I'll have anymore after my second.

While we've agreed to take it one pg at a time, we want a total of six at this point, and plan on spacing them all about 3 years apart.

[SilvanaRose]

Originally Posted by Sihaya

I really wanted DS to be a March baby and said over and over 'Any month but December!,' but in the end our baby lust won out over time of the year preference and he was born Dec 22nd. So far, the only thing that bothers me about having his birthday so close to Christmas is all of the negative comments and assumptions from others.

Aww, Im sorry if my comment came off wrong. I was not meaning to be offensive. I hear you though, just for saying I dont want my baby to be born near Christmas it will probably be a Christmas baby!

[Sihaya]

Originally Posted by SilvanaRose

Aww, Im sorry if my comment came off wrong. I was not meaning to be offensive.

Please, don't worry about it! The part that is annoying is that it's ALL I ever hear when people ask when he was born. I know you didn't mean to be rude at all.

[TinyFrog]

Steph, what are the negative assumptions and comments? Are you saying that people think you are aiming for a Christmas baby?




I will probably be happy to eventually have one I think.

[samy23]

Originally Posted by Sihaya

Please, don't worry about it! The part that is annoying is that it's ALL I ever hear when people ask when he was born. I know you didn't mean to be rude at all.

Well basically people are just stating a fact, it isn't meant offensively to you. It's a fact that people who have a birthday close to christmas have it overshadowed by the festivities etc. I'm sure it would get tiring hearing people say that, but surely you agree with it too? I think you just have to accept it really, it doesn't mean you're a bad parent for having a baby during that time....their birthday is one day a year in their life. It's a small thing in the grand scheme of things.

eta -im sure there are some positives about having a birthday around that time also!

[mamacatsbaby]

Oh, can I join! We're waiting 'til around October 2009 to stop CTA. I want another baby soooooooo bad but we just can't right now . Hell, this might just be worse than the first time around. Gotta run, but hopefully I can come back and catch up on this thread. Nice to 'meet' you all . PM'ing to be added...

[Sihaya]

Originally Posted by wateraddict

Steph, what are the negative assumptions and comments? Are you saying that people think you are aiming for a Christmas baby?

It's the assumptions that it is impossible to make a birthday special if it falls around Christmas and ALL babies born around that time get "jipped" (the word used most often). I get the feeling that people are saying I am not capable of giving my child an appropriate birthday experience because of when they were born, which is just ridiculous to me. If I heard this from a few people here and there, I'd ignore it, but it's on the list of the top three things said to me about my child.

Originally Posted by samy23

Well basically people are just stating a fact, it isn't meant offensively to you. It's a fact that people who have a birthday close to christmas have it overshadowed by the festivities etc.

Since we don't celebrate Christmas or birthdays the way most people do, I do not consider it a fact. And people aren't simply talking about the event being overshadowed when they use words like "jipped" "ripped off" "cheated" and "unfair." My child is not a "poor baby" just because of when his birthday fell on the calendar.

Originally Posted by samy23

I'm sure it would get tiring hearing people say that, but surely you agree with it too?

Nope. I was born two days before a different holiday and I just don't agree with the premise of the argument at all. My husband was born Dec 19 and he doesn't agree with it either.

Originally Posted by samy23

I think you just have to accept it really, it doesn't mean you're a bad parent for having a baby during that time....their birthday is one day a year in their life. It's a small thing in the grand scheme of things.

Accept what exactly? That people say stupid things and assume everyone else thinks/feels/believes/behaves the same way they do? Accepted. Doesn't mean I can't feel annoyed by the comments. I don't remember saying I felt like a bad parent.

[Mulvah]

Originally Posted by samy23

Well basically people are just stating a fact, it isn't meant offensively to you. It's a fact that people who have a birthday close to christmas have it overshadowed by the festivities etc. I'm sure it would get tiring hearing people say that, but surely you agree with it too? I think you just have to accept it really, it doesn't mean you're a bad parent for having a baby during that time....their birthday is one day a year in their life. It's a small thing in the grand scheme of things.

eta -im sure there are some positives about having a birthday around that time also!

Eek! Speaking from experience, it is not always this way for every family. Is there a potential for it? Absolutely! Does it have to be that way? Absolutely not!

[kirstenb]

I wanted to let you all know that I will be leaving your tribe (though I am sure I'll still lurk), as the "see what happens" approach has led to a BFP test and a little one coming early in November! I wish you all the best of luck!

[SilvanaRose]

Originally Posted by kirstenb

I wanted to let you all know that I will be leaving your tribe (though I am sure I'll still lurk), as the "see what happens" approach has led to a BFP test and a little one coming early in November! I wish you all the best of luck!

Congratulations!! Wishing you a great pregnancy!

Something tells me I might not be far behind lol. That approach is something else isnt it?

[Sihaya]

Congrats, kirstenb! :

[Oztok5]

Congratulations! That's amazing news! :

[nicolelynn]

I haven't been on here in awhile. We moved back our possible TTC to likely Jan 2010. Finances keep getting worse, then suddenly 6 months ago I came down with digestive problems so I need to take care of my health first.

We are also considering adopting as well. My baby fever has became "I want to be a Mother" fever and I would be happy becoming a Mother to a child. DH is totally for adoption, but seems to know me better than myself though and is convinced my baby fever won't go away adopting..that I'll want to birth my own one day.

So we'll see. Man is the wait hard, I feel trapped in a way. I am trying to just enjoy life with my wonderful DH right now, get healthy, and hopefully make some headway on finances.

[Jennifer3141]

Congratulations Kirsten! Have a wonderful babymoon.