Wanting But Waiting Tribe *2009* - Page 3

[SquishyBuggles]

Originally Posted by LindsayK

As for pre-conception vitamins, its REALLY important to get your folic acid for three months PRIOR to conception - helps your eggs be nice and healthy for when you conceive. Most all multivitamins have the 400 of folic acid necessary. DH's sister has severe mental and physical retardation as a result of a neural tube defect, which was most likely caused by insufficient folic acid in his mom's diet, so though I stink about taking vitamins regularly, I am rabid about the folic acid. Also, folic acid is really the only supplement you HAVE to take during the first trimester, so if the other vitamins are making you sick to your stomach (usually because of the iron) you can just take the folic acid for the first trimester. My mom's OB friends did this when they were pregnant...

For those TTC and already have a kid - how do you feel about having another? I am excited, yet I wonder if I could possibly love another LO as much as my daughter, and worry about balancing time between the two. DD should be close to going to pre-school part time, so at least she will have that big-girl thing to be doing.

I agree, folic acid is SO important. Iron makes me sick, too. I had to take iron supplements with my last pregnancy because I got anemic towards the end. It helped to take it with food, although they said not to because it doesn't absorb properly on a full tummy.

I was nervous about having another baby when I was pg with #2. I felt like I wouldn't be able to devote myself to dd1 in the way that I had before. I felt that she would resent her baby sister. It really wasn't bad, though! dd1 transitioned fantastically and now, at ages 2 and 4, they are BEST friends. I'm more nervous about #3, when the kids outnumber the adults you're in trouble! haha.

[Sihaya]

Originally Posted by LindsayK

I just don't eat enough, because I don't put enough priority on it. Case in point - I am working from home today, so got up, fed DD, got her settled into an activity, logged into my computer, thought about breakfast, ended up eating a ding dong that was sitting on the table, fed DD mid-morning snack, got her off to bed, got back to work, and just now realized that I hadn't really eaten anything of substance and so got a bowl of homemade chili, and some tea. We have plenty enough good food around, I just get busy, and put off eating, and end up skipping meals! I really have to be better about sitting down and eating, whether I feel like I have the time or not.

Yeah, that's a lot like my issue, only I don't just skip meals - I can go an entire day without eating a single thing other than my vitamins. I also hate cooking and kitchen chores so I have a mental block when it comes to preparing food for anyone.

Originally Posted by LindsayK

For those TTC and already have a kid - how do you feel about having another?

I'm extremely excited and not really worried about it at this point. I did order Siblings without Rivalry from PaperBackSwap yesterday and am interested in reading that, but I don't really worry about that yet, it seems so far away (2 years until the baby would even be born). We are thinking we want 6+ kids, so in that perspective, 2 or 3 doesn't seem like a lot right now.

[SquishyBuggles]

Originally Posted by Sihaya

I'm extremely excited and not really worried about it at this point. I did order Siblings without Rivalry from PaperBackSwap yesterday and am interested in reading that, but I don't really worry about that yet, it seems so far away (2 years until the baby would even be born). We are thinking we want 6+ kids, so in that perspective, 2 or 3 doesn't seem like a lot right now.

Ooh, let me know how that book is once you get it!

[luvmi2kids]

Ok I you can add me here... I am wanting but my Husband is not wanting.. So I am waiting on Gods timing.. We have two Great Children. They where both un expected But very welcomed!!!It was Gods plan. If it was up to my husband, he wanted to sdpoted prior to having any kids. But God just wanted to tell him that he is not in control.. so we will see. I am wanting but waiting!!

[kirstenb]

For those TTC and already have a kid - how do you feel about having another?

Nervous and excited! DS just starting saying "baby" and will go up to little babies and stroke their heads while saying "baby" over and over again. The adorableness of it makes my heart swell! Who knows how he will react when that baby is competing for Mama's attention though. There will be a 3-3.5 year age difference between them by the time we have a new baby so I am hoping that DS will be able to understand a little more of what is going on.

[TinyFrog]

I take Rainbow Light Prenatals. It's not the all-in-one, those were too big for me to swallow. I take the one that calls for six a day, but I only take three per the recommendation from my Naturopath. They are food based.

[MommaCrystal]

Every day that goes by my husband and I long for the next one more and more. We had hoped to make it until fall to try, then we moved it to spring, but now I'm wondering if we'll make it to next cycle! LOL!

I really should get into a better excercise routine though. It could only be a good thing.

I'm still nursing #2. I take my prenatal every day. I also take cal mag, and evening prim rose every day. I'm under weight. Nursing takes a lot and though I eat and eat it is hard to keep the lbs on.

Any suggestions for me? I was under weight when we TTC'd #2 and it didn't seem to matter so I'm not really worried about that. But I did have to give up nursing #1 because I just could NOT put pounds on and I was SO drained. #1 was almost 18 months old when we stopped nursing. #2 is 15 months right now, I'd like to nurse him longer than I did #1.

I see a lot about taking folic acid. Are you guys doing this above and beyond prenatals? What have you found works?

[samy23]

Originally Posted by LindsayK

For those TTC and already have a kid - how do you feel about having another? I am excited, yet I wonder if I could possibly love another LO as much as my daughter, and worry about balancing time between the two. DD should be close to going to pre-school part time, so at least she will have that big-girl thing to be doing.

I don't worry about this at all. That's most likely because my dd is 5 years old so she is in school mon-fri 9-3, so I will get plenty of time just me and the new baby alone together during the week days. Also dd has been asking for a baby sister/brother since she was 4 years old, and everytime I bring up the subject she gets excited about it. I expect her to show some signs of jealousy at the beginning, but that is normal. All in all im sure she will be a big help to me, and really enjoy her first sibling.

Can we share the reasons we are waiting to ttc?
I am waiting until June 2009, here's my list of reasons why:

-I am using donated sperm to conceive and the "donater" wants to wait until after his summer vacation to get started on this, which is 100% fine by me because I too am going on vacation around the same time and would rather not be pregnant until after we return.

-Between Feb and May I am hoping to get an awesome promotion at work, which will substantially increase my income. I want to make sure I get this promotion before going ahead to ttc.

-I need a few months to improve my diet and start taking pre-natal vitamins with folic acid. -im finding the diet issue difficult, I love food and admit I eat too much, have too large a portions, eat too much unhealthy foods etc. I need to tackle this.

Could you please remove the "ttc in june or july" part to just "June" please?

[Sihaya]

Originally Posted by samy23

Can we share the reasons we are waiting to ttc?

The main reason we're waiting is that having at least three years between births is important to us for a number of personal reasons.

Also, there are five things I'd like my first to be done with before the next one is born:
- learning to walk (check!)
- talking coherently
- getting his first 20 teeth (8 down, 12 to go!)
- potty learning (we have been part-time ecing since his was born)
- weaning (planning to start "Don't offer, don't refuse" when he turns 2yo)

The other reasons we're waiting:
* We need to save up for the next pg and home birth.
* We are getting a mini-farm set up on the property we just bought this fall and I want to get the garden, chickens, and rabbits started before #2 comes.
* We also need to do some repairs and renovations to our new house, which currently has only one bedroom.

Originally Posted by samy23

Could you please remove the "ttc in june or july" part to just "June" please?

Done!

[OJazzy1]

Hey, my LO is 7 1/2 months old... AF arrived 6 weeks pp even though I am EBFing. DH and I would like to wait until he is a year old...
I won't do hormones (I would be TERRIBLE on hormones) I am allergic to latex and I get a UTI with spermicides,lol. DH and I are doing the whole "withdrawl" thing and lets just say I hope that it works and we can wait a year but I will not be totally disappointed if it doesn't.

[Oztok5]

Thank you for the advice about the vitamins. I think I'm going to go with the New Chapter ones. I had seen them before, but the price put me off. The 50% off from Vitaglo makes them much more reasonable!

Originally Posted by samy23

Can we share the reasons we are waiting to ttc?
please?

We're waiting until June/July because:

1) My DH and I are actually currently living in two different states... He moved to VA in October to take a job. I will be moving there the last weekend of February.

2) I want to have a little more time just the two of us. We've been married just over a year and a half. Our two year anniversary is in May, and I think after that would be a good time to start!

3) I want to lose another 10 lbs or so, and I wouldn't say no to a losing a couple more. I also want my exercise routine to be more stabilized.

4) I obviously want a few months of taking prenatals before we TTC. I should be starting those in a week or two.

[Virginia884]

DH and I have been talking about ttc a LOT recently. We' were looking at oct/nov of this year, but then realized that we're taking a big trip in july 2010 and I don't want to be way pregnant for that. So our new start date is Jan 2010. This gives us extra time to pay off debt and save, too. (Can you change that on the list? Thanks!)

For those of you on hormonal bc, when are you planning on stopping? One month before ttc? Three? Why?

Vitamns... someone educate me. What is 'food based'?

[kirstenb]

Originally Posted by samy23

Can we share the reasons we are waiting to ttc?

The main reason we are waiting until the fall is so we can save up some money and hopefully payoff one of our vehicles. I work FT right now and we can afford two car payments but if I were to quit it would be too tight. Plus, daycare for two kids would be just about my entire take home pay so I want to be able to SAH.

I also want to get rid of this baby weight from DS before I get pregnant. It's hard to find time to workout so I need a good chunk of time to work on it!

The last reason is that I'm not ready yet, and DH isn't either.

[MommaCrystal]

We are waiting for three reasons.

#1 We need to save a bit more for all the medical expenses we will have to face between the pregnancy and c-section delivery.

#2 With DS2 I was HUGE. I mean HHHUUUGGGEEEE! As in, should have had twins huge. I looked near full term at 20ish weeks. Two months before he was born I got SHOCKED expressions when I corrected people who thought I was surely due any minute. Shocked as in so shocked they couldn't contain the rudeness. Soo.... I want DS#2 to be more independent. Like, able to climb stairs etc.

#3 I just want some more time for my body to heal before I jump in again.

Ok, I thought of one more... I just started a new part-time position this past fall. I'd like a bit more time with it before I have to deal with that, two young boys, a house, my husband, AND being pregnant!

[fadedgirl]

I am very concerned about how having another child is going to affect my current DD who will be 6 in May. I'm afraid it just might ruin her life!! We currently homeschool, and I'm unsure as to how that will fly once a baby enters into the picture. Also, there is just *so much* cool stuff I can do with her now that its just her and I, that we will be precluded from doing when an infant is on board. Or a toddler, or .... ad infinitum. Its really going to change our lives forever. So much so that it is the one thing that could, and might, stop us from TTC at all. I'm really trying to take this time to ascertain whether our desires to have another child should outweigh our existing child's quality of life and future. My DH is military, so I'm a single parent 75% of the time. Otherwise, it would not make such a dramatic difference, imo.

[SquishyBuggles]

We've been waiting for a few reasons. We wanted our youngest to be a little bit older (she's 26 months now) because she requires a LOT of attention. I have a surgery that is scheduled for next month that I wanted to get done before TTC. H was injured at work and has been out of work for a year. He just got that all done and taken care of and just got an AWESOME new job. So really the only thing we're waiting on right now is the surgery.

[hollytheteacher]

Hello

Hi!

My ds is almost 17 months and we want to wait until he is 2.5 - 3 years before TTC number 2.

Well, that was the logical plan for us, but lately, i've been very much baby lusting! A lot of people around me are gearing up to have babies in the next few months and i've been feeling the babies and kick and all that jazz.

Also, ds is at an age now where he picks up baby dolls and sings "rock bye baby" and rocks them back and forth and gives kisses OMG TOO CUTE!

*SIGH*

Dh is very set on waiting until he is at least two. Probably because I MYSELF have convinced him to make me wait because i very much want him to have AT LEAST two years of mama milk without any worries of supply dippage or uncomfortableness for me during nursing.

I also can't imagine taking care of him while being preggo. Last time i was SO SO SO SO tired and pretty sick in the beginning. I hope that doesn't happen again this time.

I also think financially it is better to have a bigger age gap BUT i also really want them to be close in age so they can play together.

ughhhh it's such a touch decision!!!!!! lol I am sure this makes no sense and sorry for rambling.

HI everyone

*sorry wanted to add a little more:

Another factor in all of this is that our ds was born with a heart defect. We now have double the chance of having another with a heat defect. (everyone has a 7 in 1000 chance of having a baby with a CHD but now our chance would be 14 in a 1000).

My dh worries about if our new child would have any health issues he wants to make sure he is able to take off enough time from work for dr appts and such.

He was very available to me during my first pregnancy. Took time off to come to EVERY apt. Still take time off to go to EVERY well baby check up, dr. apt etc. Which i LOVE about him. And of course he wants to be able to do that with our second child too which is why he wants to space them a little farther.

[hollytheteacher]

Originally Posted by funfunkyfantastic

I just had a baby back in September, so I definitely need to wait a bit! lol. I was thinking I wanted to get pregnant in July of this year, but really thinking about it, I don't think i'll be ready then. Also, DH deploys mid 2010 for 6 months and I don't want to be stuck home with two kids! So, I was thinking more of either TTC right before he leaves, or TTC right when he returns in early 2011 (although that would make DD 3 around the time of #2's birth! So hopefully i'll get pregnant on the first try like I did last time.) I for sure want DH around for the birth this time. He was deployed last time, and it was SO hard.

I was just looking at your birth pics. I LOVE the ones of your little sweet newborn nursing! None of my birth pics came out that great and I really wish I had some of when ds was first nursing!!!

[leila1213]

Hi! I think I belong here. I would like to wait till DD is 3 to conceive (sort of random)...but mainly for my body to be ready, although I'm not yet doing all the things I want to to be ready. Our limiting factor is DH's age though. He's, uh, 50-ish. (Is there a tribe for mama's with much older hubbies? I'll have to check on that.) So far what I am doing to get ready is taking fermented CLO, zinc, mag, and folate/B's/probiotics/enzymes in the form of green kombucha. Eating lots of yellow butter, adding water filters, bone broths. I need to progress into organ meats, azomite, nutritional yeast, and a host of other measures. A lot of this comes from "Healing Our Children" by Rami Nagel. Fabulous book.

For DD to be ready, we are working on setting some limits on nursing, which may progress into nightweaning. Or I may let it play out with pregnancy. Not sure. But we do need to work on our sleeping situation before we actually get to the point of adding another body into the mix. I've been babysitting and trying to project a good attitude about having another baby around, but I have a hard time with that. I am really into "The Continuum Concept" and want to set up a good tribal system, not be so child-centered, etc. Makes me realize how much we have to do. :

[Brown Lioness]

Originally Posted by samy23

Can we share the reasons we are waiting to ttc?

Well, here goes:

Reason number 1) is purely financial...we want to be a wahm family. Hubby and I need to get our respective businesses started before we feel comfortable having kids....raising children WHILE working an 8 to 5 for someone else outside the home just doesn't align with our goals anymore.

Number 2) We want to be in a house, desperately. We are SO tired of living in apartments and we think, for us, having a baby in one would just compound that feeling.

Number 3) We are in the process of getting our heath in order....hubby wants to lose weight and put on muscle and I want to put on muscle and regain flexibility. I can't see us being as out of shape and tired all the time as we are and then running after a baby, lol. I have already begun the overhaul of our eating habits and have started us eating whole, nutrient dense traditional foods (I am patiently waiting on the "Mother's and Babies" book by Nina Planck at the end of March lol).

Number 4) We'd really like to vacation in Jamaica....it's just something we've always wanted to do, just us, before kids.

Number 5) I would like to finish my degree (I have 2 classes left)

Will all of this get done in time for us to start TTC in 2009? Maybe, tho not entirely likely. If we start (later) this year, thas cool. If we wait until 2010, thas even better. However, I'm really hoping we can get at least reasons 1-3 done this year (as I would be comfortable ttcing if at least those are done), lol.