It's impossible for me to do anything without 16 mo dd quite literally attached to my leg and screaming! Specifically, I joined a gym (thinking I'm doing something great, get in shape, build my cardio, etc etc)--and she's absolutely miserable being left in the playroom with the sitter. The two times I've actually tried it instead of walking out in utter frustration, she screamed the entire time despite the sitter's constant attention and attempts at distraction. I also tried having my teenage dd babysit, and it was slightly less earth-shattering but she still fussed and snuffled the entire time. I can't help thinking that my being a SAHM and constantly with the baby has "created a monster," so to speak, and I'll never be able to do anything without her, even if I'm only in the next room. Do I keep plugging on, hoping she'll get used to being in the playroom, or give it up and stay flabby??? To put it in another context, where's the line between taking care of my own needs and being a horrible selfish mother?
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4/11/02 at 9:30pm