Intimacy?

[tomsTXmom]

Am I the only one still finding "it" fun and enjoyable at this point?

I think my midwives think I'm weird!

Tracy

[JosieAK]

Um, no. We got to escape for our anniversary, and it was almost like having a honeymoon all over again!

[kssinca]

DH and I would like to.... but he's been so stressed out and I just can't find a comfortable position! I tried to duplicate some suggested positions with pillows but I got tired getting things lined up!

[starling&diesel]

Our last time, which was about a week ago, was a hilarious demonstration in ornate and complicated pillow arrangements and oft switched up positions.
Much hilarity ensued.

And then I got a UTI ... but up until that, we've been having a blast!

[JosieAK]

Okay, since someone was brave enough to bring this topic up, I'll ask a question that probably seems really dumb. I've seen "DTD" used many times on this board and have to assume that it means sexual intimacy by it's context, but I have NO idea what it stands for. Anyone want to enlighten me?

[starling&diesel]

Do The Deed aka Have sex

[BathrobeGoddess]

good gravy...sooooo not feeling it at this point...sure wish I was for dh sake though

[clovermom]

Originally Posted by BathrobeGoddess

good gravy...sooooo not feeling it at this point...sure wish I was for dh sake though

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Poor DH. I just DO NOT FEEL LIKE IT. I think the hormones of pregnancy/nursing really affect my libido. I struggled a lot with this while nursing the twins (obviously I had double the hormones supressing my fertility then, lol). I would try to be in the mood and it just ended up being pretty awkward and unsatisfying for both of us. So I resolved to not do it unless I truly feel like it. Unfortunately for DH I haven't felt like it in a while. Now, Im holding off to avoid any possibility of bringing on labor before 37 wks when my mw can deliver me. After 37 wks I have a feeling I'll be more open to the idea. Then, of course, there is the 6 wks. post-partum. I really do feel bad for DH, he's very understanding but I know he's desperately horny

[Jenivere]

I don't have as much desire but I definitely still enjoy it.

[dooney]

Neither of us wants it very much :/ too tired, too fat feeling.

[JosieAK]

Originally Posted by starling&diesel

Do The Deed aka Have sex

Oh, I'd kinda hoped it was something more romantic like "Do the Dance."

Yeah, I've wondered how it's going to feel post partum and what my hormones will do to me. I guess it will all probably eventually balance.

[Larissa]

I am always feeling "it" while pregnant . . .even when largely pregnant.

It's after baby is born and I am breastfeeding that I lose all desire. It does all come back, though when the baby is a little older.

[Queen of my Castle]

You're not alone! We still enjoy it often- helps me sleep!

[mominsnj]

up until about a week ago when I got *gasp* hemorroids from the baby punching me in the butt, I still enjoyed it as long as no one was too tired, and it could get pretty hilarious, which sorta killed it but thats okay. Now, umm, I probably would enjoy it but I cant get past my butt and what it could look like. I am starting to feel pretty bad for my honey! thank God he is so understanding!

[Mal85]

I totally wish I was there with you mamas! The last time I actually wanted to do it was my husband's birthday... 3 months ago. I was finally starting to appear pregnant at that time, and finding a comfortable position was utterly impossible. I haven't felt sexy since.

[KayTeeJay]

Originally Posted by BathrobeGoddess

good gravy...sooooo not feeling it at this point...sure wish I was for dh sake though

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But if this babe doesn't show closer to my due date, you can bet I'll take one for the team and DTD to see if we can get things rolling!

[clovermom]

Originally Posted by KayTeeJay

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But if this babe doesn't show closer to my due date, you can bet I'll take one for the team and DTD to see if we can get things rolling!

Me too!

[applebean]

We've definitely dropped down in frequency (2 x week max, but usually just once), but luckily it is still enjoyable for me and my husband has had zero qualms about it. Oddly enough me on top was never that great for me pre-PG, but these days it has been quite nice (although some times it's amusing getting there).

I heard one doctor say on a podcast that each time you do it in the last 6 weeks you shave 10 minutes of your labor time, so whether that's true or not we joke that it's time to "shave 10 minutes." The only downside is now it seems to be keeping me awake afterward rather than helping me sleep.

[ewolthuis]

We've slowed down a little, just tired, colds, etc. BUT, I now realize after having had one child already, how much more interested I am right now than I will be for probably about a year after baby. So, I am trying to take advantage of the hormones, and relatively normal breasts, of pregnancy, cause the breastfeeding hormone set-up is NOT a sexy feeling time for me.

[cagnew]

I have not felt like dtd for the last 7 months (with a few isolated exceptions). Poor dh.... I make an effort to try to get in the mood and surprise him, and sometimes I am able to pull off a quickie, but that's about it.
TMI- My back hurts, my labia and the whole area down there are terribly swollen for some reason, and any nipple stimulation gives me awful bh contrax. Sex is not pleasant for me anymore
BUT... after 38 weeks, I will gladly dtd every night even if it hurts a bit. Anything to help this baby come out (short of actual induction, of course). So, DH doesn't have much longer to wait.
LOL... then after the baby comes he'll have to wait some more....