Well, it's not actually MY dd but my sister's, so my niece. I love her dearly but she is reaching the "preteen" stage and I'm concerned.
The story:
She's had allergies all her life and my sister finally took her in to get tested for food allergies. She came up with a gluten, dairy and egg allergy. So my sister cut out all that stuff back about 2-3 months ago. It's rather expensive to buy stuff for this diet and my (single mother) sister tries really hard to make yummy, "cool" lunches for her dd.
So yesterday, she had gotten a call from the school lunch people saying that her dd had a negative balance on her lunch card. My sister asked her about it and her dd said she had gotten juice once or twice or something like that. No biggie. So then sister calls the lunch people today and they say that dd has been buying lunch almost everyday. She brings $5 or $20 to put on the card. WHAT? First of all, my niece has no money so where is she getting that? Second, is she eating or throwing away the food that sister is getting her?
My sister is livid. Her dd has never been known to lie before but she's reached this stage where her friends are way more important to her. She comes home and just sits in her room listening to music. She has a super attitude, just rude and snotty most of the time. They moved to a new town last year so she's been at her school for 1.5 school years now. Before that she was in two other schools.
Anyway, thanks for reading that, I just wanted to get some opinions on what you would do? My suggestion was to sit down and have a serious talk with her, not getting upset and find out why she's doing these things. Obviously stealing money is pretty serious, but if the girl wants to eat those foods that she's allergic too and wants to pay the consequence of getting sick (which she did last night) I say that's her choice.
Any advice?
The story:
She's had allergies all her life and my sister finally took her in to get tested for food allergies. She came up with a gluten, dairy and egg allergy. So my sister cut out all that stuff back about 2-3 months ago. It's rather expensive to buy stuff for this diet and my (single mother) sister tries really hard to make yummy, "cool" lunches for her dd.
So yesterday, she had gotten a call from the school lunch people saying that her dd had a negative balance on her lunch card. My sister asked her about it and her dd said she had gotten juice once or twice or something like that. No biggie. So then sister calls the lunch people today and they say that dd has been buying lunch almost everyday. She brings $5 or $20 to put on the card. WHAT? First of all, my niece has no money so where is she getting that? Second, is she eating or throwing away the food that sister is getting her?
My sister is livid. Her dd has never been known to lie before but she's reached this stage where her friends are way more important to her. She comes home and just sits in her room listening to music. She has a super attitude, just rude and snotty most of the time. They moved to a new town last year so she's been at her school for 1.5 school years now. Before that she was in two other schools.
Anyway, thanks for reading that, I just wanted to get some opinions on what you would do? My suggestion was to sit down and have a serious talk with her, not getting upset and find out why she's doing these things. Obviously stealing money is pretty serious, but if the girl wants to eat those foods that she's allergic too and wants to pay the consequence of getting sick (which she did last night) I say that's her choice.
Any advice?
