Morning, everyone -- how are you doing today? Anyone have any appts., etc? I have acupuncture later on this morning, and just began adding all those new supplements into my routine today -- I feel like a walking medicine chest now, ugh!
Originally Posted by wild~blossom
I've been seeing different doctors for almost a year now. I've kind of diagnosed myself as having some sort of thyroid or adrenal insufficiency and maybe PCOS. Nothing's official yet, as I'm still waiting for test results.
My last cycle was when I conceived my 2 yr old DD, which was almost 3 years ago. I recently had a Provera-induced period that ended almost 2 weeks ago. It's highly unlikely that I will have another on my own, so my doctor has given me a year's worth of Provera to take every few months to clean me out.
I don't know what will happen next.
Hugs to you, mama. I hope you get some answers soon. Sometimes I feel like I'm just randomly shooting in the dark, with all the things I'm trying. I don't really know if any of it will work, but it feels better than doing nothing, yk? I'm too much of a control freak to just sit back and hope things will improve on their own.
Originally Posted by Dea
I'm here too. I am TTC #2 and I have been avoiding the general infertility board for the same reasons as Guinevere, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but 2ndary is hard too!
Guinevere, it sounds like we have kinda similar stories.
I had my daughter Feb, via emergency c-section. (I so wanted a home birth...) then I had a surgery to remove a blockage from my left fallopian tube, then 2 surgeries to remove a bunch of polyps and scar tissue from my uterus (likey from the c-section) and then I had my gall bladder removed a month ago. That makes 5 surgeries in '08!
AND my fertility issues aren't my messy uterus they are my crazy ovaries! So now I am on metformin and it's kicking my ass again (I forgot how much I hated it!) on provera to start another cycle and then I will start menopur with an IUI when a cycle starts. So that's my story.
Does anyone remember why high fat dairy is good when you are TTC? I'll ask the main board too.
Hey there, Dea -- yep, you officially beat me in surgery count for 08
, although if I'd had Sophie this past year, that would have brought me up to 3. Which would be 3 more surgeries than I'd ever had before in my whole life.
Do you feel that the c-section changed things in your body? B/c I'm increasingly feeling that way. For example, I never used to get pain during O, but since the c/s, I do. And basically all my health issues arose after Sophie's birth, although that may have more to do with my body simply having had "enough" after 5 difficult pg's. It's so hard to know what caused what, yk?
I am sadly uninformed about high-fat dairy, although, like you, I dimly recall hearing the same thing somewhere. Hopefully someone else has the scoop on that.
Originally Posted by nummies
Hi ladies. I'm here as well, although my story is a tad different because we have infertility period. No secondary about it.
Nice to meet you all!
Oh and Dea, I know what you mean, when I was TTC #1, I used to get so upset when people brought their children into our fertility office, especially if they were under 2. But now that I have a child, I understand that it is hard to find childcare! I still don't bring him in there (even though he is proof that their office is awesome!) but it is hard to arrange childcare sometimes.
I think the whole issue of other children/babies around women experiencing infertility is simply a delicate line to walk. And for me at least, it depends so much, too, on where I am emotionally on any given day.
I've had many, many relatives and close friends have babies over the past year while I've been struggling to conceive and sustain another pg. And while I'm still able to be happy for them, it's also a tangible and painful reminder of what I don't have. I don't avoid them, but, for example, I couldn't manage to attend my BFF's baby shower for her latest addition -- it was just too much. Instead we celebrated on our own, in a smaller, less baby-baby-baby-focused setting, which I *could* handle.
I confess that when I hear about someone getting pg, right now it doesn't serve to give me hope, it just feels like, "oh, another one who isn't me." These are not pretty emotions and I'm not proud to feel them, but there it is, the unvarnished truth. And I also know it says far more about me and where I am right now than about them. I need to cope better. I'm working on it, truly.
Originally Posted by Kristin0105
Thanks for starting (or reviving) this thread. I just turned (gulp) 43 Monday and we have been trying for #2 for over a year. I have a beautiful, brilliant, wonderful, greatest child ever 3 year old daughter who I love more than anything else in the world. I really, really, really want to have another baby. She really, really, really wants us to have a baby. But it just does not look possible at this point. I would consider IVF in a heart beat and would even do donor eggs if need be. Yesterday, I even looked up IVFvacations.com
But my husband is against interventions. He is unwilling to spend the money. I feel like every month that goes by my chances of having one more little lovey gets a lot less likely. It's so hard. I wish I hadn't waited so long to have my little sweetie. I'm mad that he would put a price tag on something so priceless. And I'm so sad for my dd who asks me every week when are we going to have a baby. I'd consider adoption but dh was just laid off so I think (I am just guessing here) that we will have to wait a year from the time he gets back to work before they would consider us. Sorry to be such a downer. I've been feeling a little blue the last 2 days it's totally unlike me. But I think it's a sign AF is on her way soon that and all the other stressors. Okay, pity party over lets get back to work..
I hope everyone's stay here is short and 2009 brings peace to all of us.
Welcome, Kristin! (that's my real name, too
) I'm sorry that you and your DH aren't on the same page with regards to interventions. That is really hard. There's a small part of me that is resentful of my DH b/c it took me until my youngest was 2 to persuade him that having another child would be a good idea for our family. But by that time, I had developed all these health issues which have made that goal very difficult. So even though it's not fair and possibly not even true, part of me feels that if I had tried to get pg earlier, I wouldn't have run into all these problems. Sigh. There just seems to be so much guilt and self-doubt that comes along with infertility. I hate it!