Thanks for starting (or reviving) this thread. I just turned (gulp) 43 Monday and we have been trying for #2 for over a year. I have a beautiful, brilliant, wonderful, greatest child ever 3 year old daughter who I love more than anything else in the world. I really, really, really want to have another baby. She really, really, really wants us to have a baby. But it just does not look possible at this point. I had some blood tests done in May and my FSH was 12.? so a little high and the fertility specialist was all doom and gloom. I immediately set up an appointment with an acupuncturist/TCM doctor and began treatment and a bunch of supplements. By October my FSH was down to 7.1 but alas here it is January and I am still not pregnant. With my dd I got pregnant as soon as I said lets have a baby. And I think that makes it soooo much harder. Because I went into the lets get pregnant thinking this could take months, I'm 38 years old maybe I can't get pregnant. 6 weeks later I found out I was pregnant. So this time it's been a real shock that it's just not happening and might not ever happen. I would consider IVF in a heart beat and would even do donor eggs if need be. Yesterday, I even looked up IVFvacations.com But my husband is against interventions. He is unwilling to spend the money. I feel like every month that goes by my chances of having one more little lovey gets a lot less likely. It's so hard. I wish I hadn't waited so long to have my little sweetie. I'm mad that he would put a price tag on something so priceless. And I'm so sad for my dd who asks me every week when are we going to have a baby. I'd consider adoption but dh was just laid off so I think (I am just guessing here) that we will have to wait a year from the time he gets back to work before they would consider us. Sorry to be such a downer. I've been feeling a little blue the last 2 days it's totally unlike me. But I think it's a sign AF is on her way soon that and all the other stressors. Okay, pity party over lets get back to work..
I hope everyone's stay here is short and 2009 brings peace to all of us.
I agree! It's not fair to put a pricetag on something so wonderful, but on the other hand... it's even more not fair that I have to pay so much money to have a child... but that's another rant.
I'll join in. I have PCOS and don't ovulate at all. DD took 18 months of trying and one miracle month of clomid. No period since her birth. I didn't respond to clomid when trying for #2, so we had to do ivf. IVF#1 resulted in twins, lost at 12 weeks. IVF #2 should be this february.
I've found everyone here to be so supportive of me. I try not to mention my dd much when posting in this section, because I know how hard it was when we were trying to conceive her.
I concur with not posting in ttc after a loss. It is so different with infertility and it takes much more time.
I also don't post much in ttc. I think I'm kinda boring since I don't measure time in 2 weeks. Without ovulation, my time is "wait for RE appt, wait for approval, wait for drugs, go thru procedures, wait for result". It generally takes much longer that a month and I really don't have much influence over it.
My dd asked for a "little baby" for Christmas...she then always adds that she wants a "BBBIIIGGG baby for Mommy" as well. It's so sweet, but now it makes me almost want to cry and she hasn't stopped saying it, even though Christmas is over. If only Santa would have listened to her...
Oh, and I too am stuck with bringing dd to my appointments. I try and keep her as quiet as possible and stand in the back corner when other ladies are there. I also make sure I don't scold her because I don't want to upset the other ladies anymore than I already do.
Morning, everyone -- how are you doing today? Anyone have any appts., etc? I have acupuncture later on this morning, and just began adding all those new supplements into my routine today -- I feel like a walking medicine chest now, ugh!
Hugs to you, mama. I hope you get some answers soon. Sometimes I feel like I'm just randomly shooting in the dark, with all the things I'm trying. I don't really know if any of it will work, but it feels better than doing nothing, yk? I'm too much of a control freak to just sit back and hope things will improve on their own.
Hey there, Dea -- yep, you officially beat me in surgery count for 08 , although if I'd had Sophie this past year, that would have brought me up to 3. Which would be 3 more surgeries than I'd ever had before in my whole life.
Do you feel that the c-section changed things in your body? B/c I'm increasingly feeling that way. For example, I never used to get pain during O, but since the c/s, I do. And basically all my health issues arose after Sophie's birth, although that may have more to do with my body simply having had "enough" after 5 difficult pg's. It's so hard to know what caused what, yk?
I am sadly uninformed about high-fat dairy, although, like you, I dimly recall hearing the same thing somewhere. Hopefully someone else has the scoop on that.
I think the whole issue of other children/babies around women experiencing infertility is simply a delicate line to walk. And for me at least, it depends so much, too, on where I am emotionally on any given day.
I've had many, many relatives and close friends have babies over the past year while I've been struggling to conceive and sustain another pg. And while I'm still able to be happy for them, it's also a tangible and painful reminder of what I don't have. I don't avoid them, but, for example, I couldn't manage to attend my BFF's baby shower for her latest addition -- it was just too much. Instead we celebrated on our own, in a smaller, less baby-baby-baby-focused setting, which I *could* handle.
I confess that when I hear about someone getting pg, right now it doesn't serve to give me hope, it just feels like, "oh, another one who isn't me." These are not pretty emotions and I'm not proud to feel them, but there it is, the unvarnished truth. And I also know it says far more about me and where I am right now than about them. I need to cope better. I'm working on it, truly.
Welcome, Kristin! (that's my real name, too ) I'm sorry that you and your DH aren't on the same page with regards to interventions. That is really hard. There's a small part of me that is resentful of my DH b/c it took me until my youngest was 2 to persuade him that having another child would be a good idea for our family. But by that time, I had developed all these health issues which have made that goal very difficult. So even though it's not fair and possibly not even true, part of me feels that if I had tried to get pg earlier, I wouldn't have run into all these problems. Sigh. There just seems to be so much guilt and self-doubt that comes along with infertility. I hate it! :