That's great about the good news, Darshani! Yah! What a relief to know the baby will be ok. I remember passing that point, too.
This has been a very interesting thread - I was going to post the biggest thing I've learned, but I think you're realizing it - that discipline issues are pretty much a change in your OWN thinking and responses. Of course, we're going to have moods, and we're going to be inconsistent, but most often it's not our child's behaviour, but our response to it. If we have a plan ahead of time about how to deal with a situation it is much more likely to go well. Now, wouldn't we like to prevent all behavioural problems? Sure! But our goal is to teach acceptable alternatives, and it's not always going to prevent the probs, although it does often minimize them.
I liked Dar's suggestion of finding alternatives - I do this ALL the time with dd. Sometimes it's hard for me, who is still holding onto some punitive-minded things from my upbringing, b/c I feel like "she's getting away with stuff" and not directly obeying. I'm glad you've found that helpful, to give alternatives or two choices. It does become frustrating when my dd is indecisive, though, LOL!
As an example of alternatives - dd always needs cream on her bum (either b/c of a rash or b/c she wants it). This is fine, the part that drives me nuts is when she sticks her whole hand in it and wipes it everywhere, making my life more difficult. I tried warning her it was cold, I tried asking her to keep her hands up, etc. etc. - you know what worked? Her standing up, bending down and LOOKING at it before the dipe goes up - LOL! I think she just wanted to make sure it was there...end of power struggle (only took me about 9 mos. to figure that one out!!)
I'm also of the "get up off your butt" philosophy to get things done. When I find myself repeatedly asking her to stop something I realize that *I* need to make that happen, i.e., if she's banging the glass stereo doors open and shut I have to go over there and help her stop, sometimes physically moving her hands (not roughly, just helping her) while explaining what I need. Sometimes dangerous things, medicines and whatnot do need to be immediately removed, and she will be unhappy about that. We are not always going to be able to make our child happy, and that's something I've had to realize - just b/c my child is unhappy doesn't mean I'm punishing her. She may feel upset and angry, and that's ok! We have a screaming pillow to help mommy's ears.
The other thing I wanted to comment on is be sure to expect changes in your ability and tolerance - my parenting is directly influenced by how much sleep I've had the night before! Seriously. Also the time of the month, etc. In those situations, realize your patience is low and you may not be able to parent as ideally as you'd like. As you've already done, realize that you've made changes and improvements, and be able to move on.
I don't think the question has been answered, but TCS is a parenting philosophy called Taking Children Seriously. It is non-coercive. I don't know a whole lot about it except for a few people online whom I've met and a couple articles I've read. I parent non-punitively, which means I don't (or ideally don't) use punishments, shaming, yelling etc., but instead a lot of prevention, teaching acceptable alternatives, giving of limited choices, some experiencing of natural consequences (not for an infant/baby, though), etc. For those who are interested, see the yahoogroup PositiveParenting-Discipline. I, too, am constantly learning, but have found, like I said at the beginning, that the biggest change has been in ME. :P