~*Biblical Marriage with Wifely Submission #13 2009*~ - Page 15

[Tjej]

Thank you for your thoughts/examples, sbrinton. I think that writing things out would be a really good idea. It is a way that my DH tends to process things himself, and he would probably really appreciate that.

With the circ thing I did talk to a few people I know and trust around us, and the few I did had really not chewed on the idea, they'd just circ'd to look like Daddy, so that didn't help me. Well, it did move me even more towards possibly allowing it inspite of my beliefs, but I just could not get there. But that's the thing - if I were doing this right I would let it go and let DH be responsible for the outcome. I obviously am not there, though. Hmm...

Lots of thinking/praying to do.

Tjej

[Moonprysm]

Ok, here's my 2 cents on the circ thing. Yes, we are to submit to our husbands. HOWEVER we are not to do so if it causes us to sin. *I* believe that circumcision is a sin. It is morally inconceivable to me to harm one of God's precious children - moreso if it is one's own child (because, as a parent, it is your job to keep your children safe). So, for me, that one is non-negotiable. I would continue to pray about it and explain to my husband how much it hurts to have to go against him (because it would), but that Heavenly Father gave me this precious life and I have a duty to protect it, even from its own father.

I feel somewhat similar on the bc issue, although I do have a different set of circumstances in that my DH is not Christian and therefore has different moral beliefs than I do. I feel that hormonal bc and non-hormonal IUDs have a function of abortion. He does not consider it a life at that point - I do. I have a moral obligation to protect that life. Were he a believer and I could trust that he had prayed about it and gotten an answer from Heavenly Father, I would be more inclinded to take his lead, knowing that he would be taking into account the safety of those lives as well. (And I'm not saying that if he were a Christian he would agree with me - there may very well be some reason I'm not aware of that God wants me on BC at some point, but I feel I can't allow my husband to make that decision because of our different beliefs in when life starts).

I don't know if that was any help to you or not. Just my situation. *hugs*

[Carter'sMummy]

hey ladies, sorry for interjecting, i need some opinions...but its not about circ-ing.


So, i come in and out of this thread, I really enjoy learning about the concept. I just finished reading the proper care and feeding of a marriage and the husband one as well. And, i suppose its funny because as you can see by my signature, Im a single mom. Needless to say, me and my son's father are on this amazing road of recovery for our relationship and to become BOTH active in the baby's life. I throughly enjoyed the books and my eyes are wide open to the possibilities in the growth of our family, and i cant believe now, all the negative images of marriage and the wife and husband relationship. My son's father suggests saying our vows in the next 5 years, and to have more children before that. I feel strongly about not using birth control, i know i know ive gotten my self into trouble now because of it, but it feels wrong as well as i feel strongly againest the chemicals etc, in birth control. My son's father doesnt like me having a iud, he doesnt want to have to use condoms with his "wife" (me either) so i mean whats left? What your sucess rate with the natural family planning method? Im breastfeeding so i can only use that one type of the pill, but its not as effective. Bottom line is that i neeeeeeed to finish college before i have more children, he wants them sooner and suggests part-time schooling or something. I just want to have a career i can pop in and out of need be, i need college for that and i want to go to learn as well. please, i know you all arent the type, but please dont judge me for my decisions to date, i am working hard to repair and bring our family together and want to start making smarter more traditional decisions. but what do you reccommend as a course of action? what would you do?