Need advice

[MW1229]

I am 41w4d today. I went in for a Biophysical yesterday. Everything looked great except the tech didn't see the baby take a practice breath. I think she waited about 10 minutes (i didn't know they were supposed to give it 30 min.), then she told me I needed to induced. I started sobbing and one of my midwives walked in. She was very insensitive and matter a fact about the situation. She then explained that they usually wait 30 min. on the biophysical and they probably would have seen the baby take a breath had they waited, but since the baby is measuring 8 lb. 14 oz. they need to induce. I felt completely bullied and terrified. She said I needed to go to the hospital at 8pm for Cervidil. She checked my cervix and said she couldn't reach it (last week I was 1cm. and 70% effaced last week). I left the office completely devastated. I ended up talking to another midwife in the practice later in the day and she asked me if I wanted to wait a few more days and if I would be willing to do the Cervidil on Sunday or Monday. I was so relieved that I said yes. So here's my question: I'm going back in tomorrow for another biophysical. This time I will make sure the tech waits the 30 min. (if necessary). A nurse friend of mine said that if the baby doesn't take a practice breath in the 30 min., I can ask for a non-stress test. Does anyone have any experience with this? I don't want to get bullied again!

I'm also hoping the midwife is able to sweep my membranes and I'm considering doing castor oil or blue/black cohosh tomorrow. I had acupuncture and reflexology today and I've been cramping all day.

TIA!!!

[CAKJNH]

I only have a quick second to respond, but wanted to say stay strong and do what you feel is right. I've never had to have those tests done, so I can't say I relate in that manner.

I've been bullied for lots of things in the past - especially since finding out or middle DD is autistic. So I can say this : it's your body, your baby.

Maybe you can call your nurse friend to go with you for support? She can tell you what really needs to be done. If not, don't be afraid to stick up for what you feel is right. I would complain about that MW, too. Remember, these people are supposed to support YOU not the other way around!

HTH,

Take care and good luck. Have to run, lo swears it's lunch time - again!

[mom2annika]

Just be very matter-of-fact and tell them you want 30 minutes. The non-stress test is easy; my MW was very laid-back about it. We couldn't've "seen" the baby take a practice breath because she didn't use the U/S, but she was watching the heart rate tracings.

My L&D nurse friend told me nothing is more effective at dilating the cervix than umm...well, DTD with your hubby. Maybe that's an option for you?

and GL! Hope you're holding that baby soon!

[MW1229]

Thank you all for responding. I appreciate your support. My biophysical went great today. 8 out of 8

My midwife was able to sweep my membranes and she said I'm close to 3 cm. and 60% effaced. She thinks I will go into labor tonight or tomorrow. I hope she's right!!

I went to acupuncture again and I'm going to start taking blue and black cohosh (my midwife suggested it).

Thanks again!!

[annanicole]

Here's hoping there's not an update due to you being in labor!!!!