I exist, all of a sudden

[Artemnesia]

I'm trying to chill and not get ahead of myself but others are making it really hard. People are popping out of the woodwork to call, text, and email to ask me if the baby is here yet or if I know when he is coming. Nope, sorry people, I'm not currently in labor and I'm not psychic!!! I'm 39 weeks so it could be 2-3 weeks possibly, and I think I'm likely to go past the guess date since DD was born at 41w. Besides, what do they want to hear about, my mucus plug???? No smoke signals are shooting from my nether-regions so anyone's guess is good. Don't call me, I'll call you.

Maybe I feel a little b!tchy about it...but really! Do people not know it's hard enough to wait without people breathing down your neck every day??

Sorry just had to vent about that. Otherwise enjoying the last weeks of my pregnancy with no significant complaints.

[jr'smom]

I know what you mean! And if my dad asks "How's Jacqueline doing?" one more time I'm going to stop talking to him all together! (This is his idea to name the baby--I have no idea where it came from.)

THIS BABY"S NAME WILL NOT BE JACQUELINE! I will never use that name. Now I hate that name and I hate the tone in his voice when he says it. I think I might even instinctlively scowl at anyone with this name now. So sad! And before he started being obnoxious, I'm sure I would have thought Jacqeline was a fine name--just not for this baby.

Not hormonal at all here!

[Artemnesia]

Your father should hang out with my FIL. He always asks how "we" are doing (meaning me and the baby) in this insanely condescending way as if it's the cleverest thing anyone ever said. And mispronounces his name every time. Wants to know if the kicks are "good strong kicks." Uh, they're normal. I'm sorry but there's really nothing to tell. Asks me over and over how I am feeling-- almost like he's digging for details and WANTS to hear that I am uncomfortable or something. I'm fine, the kid is fine, it's all fine, it's gonna be a while so CHILL ALREADY!!!! SCREAM!!!!

[Mrs.Oz]

Originally Posted by Artemnesia

People are popping out of the woodwork to call, text, and email to ask me if the baby is here yet or if I know when he is coming.

This reminds me of my MIL asking me after I gave birth to DS if I knew when my milk was going to come in. "Uh, well, the UPS tracking code I received indicates delivery in two days???"

[jenniet]

I totally understand! I am six days past due now and I don't like people at the moment. I am sick of the phone calls and I just want to be left alone. At the same time I am so bored. My midwife thought for sure this baby was coming early so I have been ready for weeks. There is nothing left to do except wait and try to find the patience to deal with my two year old.

[quietserena]

people are crazy

with my first (born at 42w) it was insane. i stopped answering the phone.

[Super~Single~Mama]

I know how you feel, my phone is off most of the time now! My boyfriends buddies are just as bad - they are always calling - and his dad's office has a pool going since baby is past due. Ugh...I wish they knew that I want baby to come too, and that I won't forget to tell them!

[MeadowAndColtsMama]

The 'cutest' thing my mom says after EVERY ob appt is "Good strong heartbeat?" No, I heard the heartbeat, and the baby is moving like crazy. Is that not enough? HOW STRONG IS THE HEARTBEAT? What? Every time she says that I just grit my teeth!

[jr'smom]

All of this makes me laugh in some sort of insane way. I totally get the frustraton! At least hearing that these things irritate everyone else as much as they irritate me--makes me laugh and feel a little better!

BTW-feeling so sorry for the "over due" mamas! I'm already going insane waiting and I've still got 5 days 'til my EDD and have traditionally been a couple of days "late."

[mamasthree]

Originally Posted by Artemnesia

No smoke signals are shooting from my nether-regions so anyone's guess is good.

laughup

[mamajody]

My FIL, who NEVER calls, actually called last night to find out how things were going. Ummm, did you think we would have the baby and NOT TELL YOU? For crying out loud my EDD is still 2 days away. Leave. Me. Alone.

[quietserena]

I remembered my favorite response to these sort of calls: "I had the baby and you're the only one we didn't tell."

I didn't have the heart to tell anyone though...

[ambrosia77]

I love this thread, it perfectly captures the hormonal grumpiness I am indulging in this week.

I really don't understand people's surprise that I haven't had the baby yet (today is my EDD). Have they never heard of first babies being late, or at least not early? It's weird.

My latest strategy is just not to answer the phone or emails. I love the fact that I can so easily freak everyone out (and probably convince them that I AM in labor) just by not responding.

[Jojo F.]

Ug, add me to the list.

EVery day when my MIL gets home she proceeds to tell me- "It doesn't look like the baby has dropped!" "She still looks very high."

No sh*t Sherlock!!!

Finally, last night I told her I didn't want to talk about it or hear about how high she still is. She got all offended "What, we can't even discuss it?" NO!!!!! I don't want to hear about it!!! What part of it did you not understand?!

Lets say she started a weight loss program that lasts roughly 9 months. During the last 2 weeks I proceed to tell her that it doesn't look like she has lost 1 pound, she's still fat as ever!! And then, what in the world?, she doesn't want to hear that or discuss it?! Something must be wrong with her and how dare she tell me how that makes her feel! I want to strangle her sometimes.

Than I have her mother and sister callng every single night asking how I am, how far along am I, any progress?

Today I have resolved to not talk about it to anyone unless I start the converstaion. I will ignore your questions, pretend you don't exist. And then yes, I will not tell you I had the baby.

[Moonprysm]

My mom called today (we like, rarely ever talk) because she had a dream last night that she called and I had the baby last week and just didn't tell her. Haha. Sometimes I imagine doing just that. Of course, I wouldn't. But DH and I DO want some time after the baby gets here to just be our family. She probably won't be happy that she won't be allowed to come over the second I go into labor (or the second I have the baby) but she'll get over it. MIL called to give me some updated info for her work (numbers I'd have to call and people to talk to in order to get ahold of her) and god forbid I mentioned I was having some contrax. this morning. She told me I should call my SIL (who is an hour away) and have her come and hang out with me, because MIL was nervous about me being here by myself. Um, DH works 3 miles away. Seriously. And she said something about what if I couldn't handle taking care of DS, and again, if it's that bad, I'm in labor and my husband will be here a lot quicker than SIL could be. Sheesh.

And I'm just flat out ignoring any text messages I get asking if the baby has come. I'm having a hard enough time dealing with still being pregnant, and I really don't need the constant reminder. I'm starting to go into denial that I'll ever have this baby. I'm just going to be pregnant forever.

[racidoodle]

oh, i hear you guys. i was going to keep going to work until the baby's born, but I CANNOT STAND ONE MORE DAY of, "you're STILL here?" "you're HUGE!" "WHEN are you due again?" "how many babies are IN there?" "you look so much bigger/smaller/better/more tired than last time." "are you ready?" and so on. i know they all mean well. i know they're just showing interest and probably trying to be supportive, but i've had ENOUGH! there's no point in going to work anymore. no one leaves me alone long enough to do any actual work!
i took a little spill this morning (fell off my shoe and tipped over), and you would have thought the world ended. it's nice that people care, but i was getting pestered about it so much i just went home.

[CookAMH]

Not in your DDC, but reminds me of how my bradley instructor recently said to not give a specific due date....too late for that for me, so I will be in your shoes.

[_betsy_]

My EDD was Dec. 27/Jan. 2/Jan. 4. Starting mid December, people started getting obnxoxious. I started answering the phone with "No baby yet."

[Keeper at Home]

Ha, I can so identify with this thread. People who rarely check in with me are now suddenly VERY interested in daily baby updates. It's like now I'm suddenly someone important.

And then there's my mom, who today started making accusations that DH and I were going to try to keep this birth a secret and not call when I go into labor. Nevermind that it's been planned for months now that she and my dad need to come over ASAP once labor begins to watch our DD while we head to the birth center. :

[laurelg]

Haha... I'm definitely getting this. Today my SIL (who, granted, is 18 and and probably doesn't fully 'get it') IMed me to ask if I'm "Getting anxious?" Well, no, but since you worded it that way - do you want me to be!?

I've been getting some of the didn't-we-last-talk-in-approximately-2003? phone calls, too. Now, I can understand them thinking I may have had the baby and not yet told them, SINCE WE NEVER TALK, but you'd think the ones who found out I was pregnant in the first place via MySpace/Facebook/etc. could just WAIT for the status update!

Speaking of which, I just changed my MySpace status to "Yes, I'm due tomorrow... don't get too excited, it's a due date, not an expiration date."

And I realize most of the people I talk to with regularity are just being "funny" when they ask - "Did you have that kid yet?" or "So when are you having that baby?" but I don't think they realize I get that in every conversation with every person at this point, so it's really not that clever. It reminds me of when I moved to Idaho back in '03 and every last person I knew thought they were just hilarious for making a potato and/or "no, you da ho!" joke.

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