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post #81 of 114
I just realized we had this thread over here, was wondering where everyone went!

Typing one handed.

We are doing great. Nathan is about 13lbs and 25" now. Had to move him to 3-6m clothes after just a month, he was too long for 0-3 lol. He is such a cute happy boy, I love it. Still nursing at least every 2hrs round the clock. Hope he starts sleeping mroe at night, but at least he still naps a lot during the day so I can get stuff done. My other 2 boys have done well with their new brother. I started babysitting a 6m old boy 3 days a week, so pretty busy.
post #82 of 114
Hi Ladies!! I missed all of you. I have been lurking alot on the breastfeeding forum. It has helped me TREMENDOUSLY! But I missed all the old faces...errrr.....screennames. hehe.

My house is complete and total chaos. Charlie is HUGE, 25 pounds and 3 1/2 feet tall I think. And RUNNING EVERYWHERE. I dont think the kid knows how to WALK. He adjusted well to his new little brother. Gives him hugs all the time. Matthew is a CHUNKER! I so did not expect a breastfed baby to get THIS BIG. Poor Charlie was on formula by 3 months, and still didnt grow like this. Matthew is 15 pounds and I would guess around 23 inches long. Hes only 11 weeks old!!! Hes laughing already, talking and making all sorts of different noises. Poor Charlie took months to do this stuff. Must be all the brain food.

I am all on board for making this a monthly thing. or daily, I miss you ladies. hehe.
post #83 of 114
Thanks for your prayers! I believe they'll help.:
I don't have much time right now, but here's the latest on Meadow:
We've been to Miami (and back) 4 times in the last week and a half!! I am truly sick of that drive! We just got home last night and we have to go back on Friday for another follow-up appt. The doctors think it's an infection, but it could be the beginning of a transplant rejection - they look very similar at first.

So we're giving her lots of eyedrops, and monitoring her eye carefully. It's not looking very good Right after her transplant, it was crystal clear and beautiful. Now it's hazy, cloudy, whitish and has lots of discharge. She may have to have another corneal transplant in the near future.

Next Wed. the doctors are going to look at her eye in the OR and see what they can do. We can only wait and see what they find, and go from there.

Meadow is in high spirits, though. She's so tough!! She endures all the poking and prodding by so many strangers so well, and seems to forget the discomfort as soon as it's over. She loves to lie on her back and kick, and she's started smiling when she does it. I'm so impressed by her strength, and I just love her so much!

Thanks again mamas!
post #84 of 114
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Thanks for your prayers! I believe they'll help.:
I don't have much time right now, but here's the latest on Meadow:
We've been to Miami (and back) 4 times in the last week and a half!! I am truly sick of that drive! We just got home last night and we have to go back on Friday for another follow-up appt. The doctors think it's an infection, but it could be the beginning of a transplant rejection - they look very similar at first.

So we're giving her lots of eyedrops, and monitoring her eye carefully. It's not looking very good Right after her transplant, it was crystal clear and beautiful. Now it's hazy, cloudy, whitish and has lots of discharge. She may have to have another corneal transplant in the near future.

Next Wed. the doctors are going to look at her eye in the OR and see what they can do. We can only wait and see what they find, and go from there.

Meadow is in high spirits, though. She's so tough!! She endures all the poking and prodding by so many strangers so well, and seems to forget the discomfort as soon as it's over. She loves to lie on her back and kick, and she's started smiling when she does it. I'm so impressed by her strength, and I just love her so much!

Thanks again mamas!

What a precious angel!! Godbless you for your strenth and endurace! you are one heck of a mama~!
post #85 of 114
Hey mamas!

Hope everyone is doing well...we are still living in limbo here; DH hasn't found a new job yet (though he's in the second and third round of interviews for several good positions). We really, really want to stay here in the Northeast/mid-Atlantic area where all our family and friends are (anywhere between NY and DC, really) but we're desperate enough that we're considering positions (if he is offered them) in Cleveland and in Atlanta, two places I've never even been let alone wanted to move to, so who knows. At least those are both waaaaay closer than Arizona, where we tried moving before!

Unfortunately, we are getting kicked out of my mom's house (it's a 55+ community with no kids allowed, so we knew that was coming eventually! We've been "hiding out" here for almost 6 months after all.) Someone finally caught on and complained to the association, so we have until the end of the month to find somewhere else to live. Just what we need, more stress...and possible expense when we our savings and his severence are all but gone

At the same time, the heat in my minivan broke and we have been driving around FREEZING like you wouldn't believe for two weeks!! The poor kids had to have like 10 blankets on them to drive anywhere. Thank God, a dear friend of our family is paying $500 for a new radiator for us and it's being put in as I type.

Does stress/depression make you want to make drastic changes to your hair? LOL. It always does for me. Last time I made a major change was right after we lost my dad pretty suddenly in '06. I went from light blond to bright red. Now I'm thinking of chopping off my very long hair to a chin-length style or something. Maybe I'm losing my mind. I'm also an emotional eater, so forget losing the baby weight - every time we get more bad news, I eat more and more. Ugh, gotta stop that and get back to exercising.

Well, speaking of those you actually WANT to be chubby, it sounds like all the November babes are growing so well! Isabelle is doing great - she'll be 11 weeks tomorrow, and she's close to 15 pounds and 25 inches, which is pretty much where all my kids have been at this point. She is tooooo cute, I have to get some new pics of her I'm getting a pic taken with a JCPenney coupon I have - a whole bunch of portraits for $7.99! - it's going to be all 4 kids for the first time, in their Valentine's outfits (matching heart dresses for the girls, and a "Heartbreaker" shirt for my little man!) Who wants to call odds on getting 4 kids 6 and under to all smile simultaneously?!?

So....Birdie, thanks for the update on Meadow, I'm so sorry she's facing some complications with her eye after the transplant but glad everything else is going well. I hope things improve with her eye soon!! She is one brave little girl (and you are one strong mama!)

Teff, I hear you on the oversupply. I have major oversupply that has only gotten worse with each of my kids. I regularly have to pull over during the day and hand-express for a couple of minutes into my empty coffee cup or whatever I have in the car, just to be comfortable and allow Izzy to latch on properly! I wish I could donate - I looked into the milk banks, but the rules state that you can't donate if you've ever traveled to certain countries, one of which is Nigeria, where I worked for several months (it was a long time ago, but still, they don't want my extra milk because of it! ) I am too dogmatic I guess, but I refuse to use a paci, so it's hard for her to comfort suck but she's finally finding her thumb with some regularity, so that's good. I mean, not that good, I don't really want a thumb-sucker any more than a paci-addict like my first DD was (which is why I won't use one again - it was hell trying to get her off of it!) but at least she can comfort herself a little when she's too full to nurse anymore. The spitting up is improving a lot, too, so maybe things are starting to even out.

Oh, and Teff, if you're looking for an LB Superstar (it is a great bag - very stuffable but lightweight), they come up fairly frequently on that BabyBags board I told you about before! Did you ever join, or if you don't want to, do you want me to ask if anyone has one FS on there? I would be happy to look around for you, let me know! I'm a bag addict who can't afford to indulge myself right now so I might as well enable someone else, LOL!

Sorry, I wanted to reply to others but have to go, BBL!
post #86 of 114
Bundle,

As a woman whose hormones have been all over the place for the last two years, and has chopped her hair, and changed its color TWICE during that time, and regretted each time, I will advise you to think LONG AND HARD before chopping yours. I told my mother and my hair dresser, if I ever start talking about changing my hair again, its just hormones, so HOGTIE ME!!!!
post #87 of 114
To play the devil's advocate... it's just hair! It will grow back!!

One thing I really liked about breastfeeding even if I had low supply last time: suppressed menstruation. Got my period yesterday I didn't get it back with my first until he was over a year old.
post #88 of 114
Thats what I always said right before I hacked it off too. But one thing I never thought about was how much i HATE having hair in my face. So unless I am shaving it off, I have to have it long enough to pull back from my face. I am still in an in between stage, and its driving me NUTS!!!! Especially on a windy day like today.
post #89 of 114
Hey mamas!

Just checking in. Nora's got a cold - the lovely ILs prolly gave it to her. Gah I really dislike them. After a visit, the kids have colds and Imy supply went crazy - prolly because of being near the triplets.



I'll post more later.
post #90 of 114
Hey everyone!
We have been super busy lately but I have a couple of minutes to post.
DH is having issues at work which isn't good for him. However, it means they need him back over here to slove the problems. Hes coming home Tuesday!! Almost 3 weeks early : Im happy he will be back even if it means that he will be putting in a lot of hours at work.
The girls are doing really well. I think if possible Lexi actually grown more over the last week or so. I can barely snap her 3-6 month onsies if she doesn't have a diaper on (I tired to see if it was the diapers). With a cloth diaper on we definetly have to use 6-9 onesies. She has short stubby legs though so pants shes still in 3-6.
I don't know why but I decided since John was gone I would clean and redecorate our house. I was going to have a ton of time to but now i have to get it done today and Monday.
To Birdie and Bundle Im sorry you both are having such a hard time.
post #91 of 114
I am still having terrible pain in my right breast, right behind the nipple. The supply seems to have slowed down to reasonable again. I'm trying to convince hubby that we need to wean her from the paci ASAP, but he wants to wait until we figure out what the heck is wrong on the one side. I think it's reasonable, but K is a paci addict and I'd like to avoid it with Nora.

We went to our local playgroup today and I really realized that I'm just NOT like the majority of the groups. Some of it is religious, but a lot of it is just ridiculous. I actually listened to another mama (who had her child through IVF with 9 frozen embryos) berate the mama with the octuplets. She and another mama were saying the doctor should be charged and the mama's money taken away. I was just so sad that she thought it was ok for her to use fertility treatments and not someone else just because the mama is on assistance. I finally said that I think all babies are a gift from God, and no one should have the right to tell you how many children you can have. When she started with the "but.." I asked her how exactly one picks which kids to get rid of. I wsn't trying to be argumentative, but seriously, what did she think would be said at a playgroup at a Catholic church?!? I don't know, I just can't stand the whole mommy wars thing.

On to another point, I am thinking about homeschooling more and more. Hubby is against sending K to public schools any time in the next four years (or beyond, heaven forbid), so we need to think about funding private Catholic school or homeschooling. Some friends are putting together a homeschool coop, and we're invited for sure, but I'm wondering if I should give K the option of trying private school. There are some serious duds in the area, but there's also a very good very small school that is preK-12. I'm not sure what to do- try him in private school or go directly to HS? As a former PS teacher, I lean towards trying private school, but I don't know if that's just the teacher in me. Any input?

So hubby's heart was broken again the other day. When we went to visit the ILs (only the 2nd time we've gone), BIL/SIL with triplets came by. It was really a peace offering on their part, so it was cool. I might not agree with their parenting (meat fed to 7 month olds, CIO, etc), but I can be civil and I love to hold babies. Anyway, when BIL came in, MIL literally handed Nora back to hubby to pick up one of the trips (wasn't crying or fussing). The whole rest of the visit was similar -our kids disappeared despite the fact that they only see them once a month. I was seriously : and hubby and I had it out later. I don't want my children growing up to believe they are any less important than other kids/cousins, and I won't stand for it. Kids are incredibly perceptive and it won't take them long to notice they are second fiddle. He agreed completely and was more upset than I was. Between the cold shoulder and my breast getting engorged from so many babies, I think I can look forward to skipping any more visits for a while. Hubby is terribly upset though, and I have no idea what to say. I do believe that "your family sucks" is true, but wrong...
post #92 of 114
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I am still having terrible pain in my right breast, right behind the nipple. The supply seems to have slowed down to reasonable again. I'm trying to convince hubby that we need to wean her from the paci ASAP, but he wants to wait until we figure out what the heck is wrong on the one side. I think it's reasonable, but K is a paci addict and I'd like to avoid it with Nora.
Teff, maybe it is from using the paci? When does the pain occur? before/after nursing? Perhaps try a different nursing position? It is let down or even a forceful let down?

Birdie- sorry to hear about the complications with Meadow. My thoughts are with you.

BFM- I can't believe you have to move again. That really sucks! How is your thyroid doing? My TSH was 2.91 the other day and I am feeling a bit underactive. I know "technically" it is in normal range, but I feel best when I am around a 1. I think I am going to call to get a higher dosage of Levothyroxine. Right after Christmas, I chopped my hair off. It was driving me nuts, Anders kept grabbing it, it was getting spit up in it.... It was really long and in many ways I like it long, but I think I look better with it short. I told DH to only cut 3 " off but he did way more like above my shoulders. Oh well, it is just hair and it will grow back.

Anders is doing fabulous. 19lbs and 26" long. As soon as Anna's Frontier comes, which should be this week, he is getting her Marathon. He is putting his hands in his mouth a lot and I am praying it is not a sign of teeth coming. A little drool, not much. So far, no ppd. Although, if teeth erupt soon, I might loose it. He is soooo big and I will feel like I don't have a little baby anymore, kwim? I love the gummy smile. Anna's first tooth didn't come until 7 months and from what I read family history comes into play. So it is highly unlikely it is teeth. He is prolly exploring, babies are very oral anyway.

I really want to keep sending Anna to the Waldorf school(dh doesn't quite agree, grrrr). She has absolutely blossomed there. I am so scared of sending her to ps. She will be a very young 5 yo if she goes next sy. I think she will do fine if she goes, but I pray they do not give out homework(I am so against it), hope she gets good outdoor time everyday and it is loving & nuturing. The economy scares the crap out of me. And that is one reason why we would send her to ps. What if dh lost his job, etc. I have always thought of hs, but know I don't know if I could do it. I emailed the principal of the elementary school she would go to, but still not reply. I need to call to set up a meeting. I just keep reminding myself, whatever happens will happen and things will work out fine.

I have been feeling a bit overwhelmed this week and not liking it. I am a SAHM(I worked part time when Anna was a babe) and still can not understand why I can not get more achieved in a day. I feel like I don't know what to do with Anders. He is ok in the swing and I only like putting him in there to make meals. Bouncy seat is gone, never liked it as it reclines him too much. He doesn't really like the activity gym either. I brought out the high chair, it is a Peg Perego and reclines and that has been great. Especially when we are eating. We have him at the table with us when one of us doesn't want to hold him. I can wheel him around in the kitchen while making meals, cleaning, etc. Generally speaking, I really do not like using all of those things. He likes to be upright. I would wear him more, but he is so stinking heavy. I am hoping that will change when he has more muscle strength in his torso and it will be easier for me to wear him on my back. The new native is ok for a few minutes. I love the moby, but hate wearing it when he is not in it. I keep the maya wrap in the car. Don't get me wrong, I hold him a lot and have great one on one time, but in some ways, I am looking forward to when he can sit up and "play" with more things. I don't know if any of this makes sense.

Getting an itching for warmer weather. It has been a fairly cold winter here in VT. I love winter, but with a little one I am getting some cabin fever and want to exercise. I have gone mall walking a couple times. I went snowshoeing with Anders in the Moby. That was great, but I think he has a little frost nip on his cheek from one of the many times from being outside.

I love this thread...been lurking a lot. It is great to keep in touch and I enjoy reading about everyone and our babies.
post #93 of 114
: Happy Valentine's Day Mamas! :

I hope you all have a lovely day/evening with friends/family and babes

Julie-I hear you about the cabin fever. We've had a run of 30+ degree weather and have been trying to get outside. Most of the snow is gone, but we've been still inside mostly. We have walked a couple times this week which has helped.
Mostly it's been gloomy which is almost worse than the cold.
post #94 of 114
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To play the devil's advocate... it's just hair! It will grow back!!

One thing I really liked about breastfeeding even if I had low supply last time: suppressed menstruation. Got my period yesterday I didn't get it back with my first until he was over a year old.
: BUNDLE - I say go for it. I chopped my long hair (mid-back length) to my chin. Actually, I had a pro do it. Made me feel like a million bucks. I had her leave it chin length in the front (so I can clip it back) and stack it really short in the back. I literally wash it and go, soooo much better than taking ten minutes to condition my hair, and it is still falling out like crazy anyway.

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[...] I am thinking about homeschooling more and more. Any input?
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So hubby's heart was broken again the other day. When we went to visit the ILs (only the 2nd time we've gone), BIL/SIL with triplets came by. It was really a peace offering on their part, so it was cool. I might not agree with their parenting (meat fed to 7 month olds, CIO, etc), but I can be civil and I love to hold babies. Anyway, when BIL came in, MIL literally handed Nora back to hubby to pick up one of the trips (wasn't crying or fussing). The whole rest of the visit was similar -our kids disappeared despite the fact that they only see them once a month. I was seriously : and hubby and I had it out later. I don't want my children growing up to believe they are any less important than other kids/cousins, and I won't stand for it. Kids are incredibly perceptive and it won't take them long to notice they are second fiddle. He agreed completely and was more upset than I was. Between the cold shoulder and my breast getting engorged from so many babies, I think I can look forward to skipping any more visits for a while. Hubby is terribly upset though, and I have no idea what to say. I do believe that "your family sucks" is true, but wrong...
Point one: I was homeschooled k-12 and I LOVED it. No, I didn't love every moment, but it was the best thing for me. When I was 17 I started full-time at the community college in their "duel-enrollment" program, and finished half my AA&S before I graduated HS. I have some good memories of co-op classes, disections at the kitchen table, and math in my PJs. Plus it gave me such a head start on college. I moved at my own pace, and was not pressured to move on to another concept until I had fully mastered the ones before it.

Point two: Have you spoken to your ILs about their behavior? Maybe your MIL doesn't realize how her actions are percieved?

I went to the PX yesterday and got a few tops, so now I have somtehing besides oversized tshirts to wear in public. I love the PX. I got a polo for $10, a few knit shirts for $8 each. And the commissary has milk for $1.68/gal. Being a military wife has some perks, for sure.

PJ is growing like a weed, and DH and I have come to the decision that we're going to call him Jack. Poor little DS's name has been an issue for a while. I don't think the world needs another John, DH's family pitched a fit, I'm tired of explaining why it's "Pj" and not "Jp", and then being ignored. So in the name of peace we settled on Jack. So I'm guessing that Jack is about 18lbs, give or take. We have transitioned to either a joey hold in the Moby or a snuggle hold in the Maya.

TO THOSE WITH TRAUMATIC BIRTHS - Anyone have flashbacks? I've been having these sudden flashbacks, and it's really hard to deal with sometimes. I don't really want to think about it, but then BAM there it is like it was yesterday.

Rockport - I too think a monthly thread is a good idea.
post #95 of 114
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I went to the PX yesterday and got a few tops, so now I have somtehing besides oversized tshirts to wear in public. I love the PX. I got a polo for $10, a few knit shirts for $8 each. And the commissary has milk for $1.68/gal. Being a military wife has some perks, for sure.
I loved the PX back in the states. Especially on days when they get stock in and they put the old stuff on sale. I got 10 outfits for my former step-sisters new baby for under 10.00. I wish it was that good over here but its all name brand stuff that sales for like 20 per shirt and 50 per pants.

Ive been shopping at the local classified site for some house stuff. I did end up getting me a new outfit, a skirt and top, for 10 the other day. Monday Im picking up two pairs of jeans and an outfit for Elyse for 5.
post #96 of 114
Oh, and this is the third time in three years that DH and I have not only not celebrated Valentine's Day, but also have been separated the whole day. Fist year he was selling cars all day, second year I was a manager at Starbucks and had to close, and this year he's working the night shift. *sigh* I don't believe in the holiday, but still. I'd like us to be more than two weary ships passing in the dusky waters of night.

And Oki, I wish I could find deals like that here! I will keep looking. They have a lot of designer stuff, so I'm having a tough time finding affordable buys. On the other hand their maternity stuff is awsome. I wish I'd gone there while I was pg.
post #97 of 114
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TO THOSE WITH TRAUMATIC BIRTHS - Anyone have flashbacks? I've been having these sudden flashbacks, and it's really hard to deal with sometimes. I don't really want to think about it, but then BAM there it is like it was yesterday.
The trauma for me was Charlies breathing problems. And yes, I get flashbacks.

I'm doing my internships for respiratory care at a hospital. RTs don't do L&D at this hospital, nurses, docs, and anesthesia takes care of it. The other day they called a code in a L&D room at the same time they called a code I had to attend. I stood there having a panic attack worrying about that baby that I wasn't paying enough attention to the code. THAT can't keep happening. Thank goodness there has only been 2 codes called to a L&D room since I've been working here, but I've got to keep my mind in MY job, not someone elses, if you know what I mean.

Otherwise, I'm really enjoying my "job" (so far they don't pay me, I have to pay for the experience, but it's a great experience). We've worked out a routine, and Charlie seems to be doing ok with it. He sure feels right in my arms at the end of the day, though!

DS#1 has come down with a fever and feeling awful tonight. Not sure what's going on. He finally consented to take some tylenol, which means he feels awful. Hoping Charlie doesn't get it.

Hope you all had a happy Valentines day! Its been a year since I had a period, and 2 weeks away from the anniversary of the day Charlie was conceived. The day my life changed immeasureably! totally off topic, I should have known something changed the day after, I was manicly hyper, and I'm never like that! So glad it happened, I feel so blessed to have the little guy.
post #98 of 114
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Teff, maybe it is from using the paci? When does the pain occur? before/after nursing? Perhaps try a different nursing position? It is let down or even a forceful let down?

I would wear him more, but he is so stinking heavy. I am hoping that will change when he has more muscle strength in his torso and it will be easier for me to wear him on my back. The new native is ok for a few minutes. I love the moby, but hate wearing it when he is not in it. I keep the maya wrap in the car. Don't get me wrong, I hold him a lot and have great one on one time, but in some ways, I am looking forward to when he can sit up and "play" with more things. I don't know if any of this makes sense.
Well, we gave up and gave her the paci. She was nursing so much that I started to balloon. Since she can't comfort nurse due to my oversupply, she does this binge and purge thing to get the sucking she wants after she's full and my body just goes into overdrive. I was seriously full to near engorgment an hour after she'd nursed, so I knew I was heading back towards whole breast pain. I think that we'll give it the ditch after she starts solids when I will feel safe taking sage to dip my supply.

As for the nipple pain, it's right behind the nipple (whole thing including areola) and it starts when the milk starts flowing. It's not thrush, but I have no idea what it is. Forceful letdown is a possibility, since the affected side is the one that gets engorged easily. Hubby wants me to see the midwife or an LC, but argh, I just don't want to be that mom again. I swear we had the LC and my PCP on speed dial with K, and I KNOW my PCP won't treat me for breast issues this time around (she said jokingly that watching me struglle through nursing gave her PTSD).

Have you considered a woven for wearing him? Most people think that the Moby expires on weight bearing after 15 pounds and Anders is way beyond that! I have a girasol woven, and while Nora's no where near Anders, it's been great for wearing her. What about a mei tai like a Babyhawk?

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Point one: I was homeschooled k-12 and I LOVED it. No, I didn't love every moment, but it was the best thing for me. When I was 17 I started full-time at the community college in their "duel-enrollment" program, and finished half my AA&S before I graduated HS. I have some good memories of co-op classes, disections at the kitchen table, and math in my PJs. Plus it gave me such a head start on college. I moved at my own pace, and was not pressured to move on to another concept until I had fully mastered the ones before it.

Point two: Have you spoken to your ILs about their behavior? Maybe your MIL doesn't realize how her actions are percieved?

PJ is growing like a weed, and DH and I have come to the decision that we're going to call him Jack. Poor little DS's name has been an issue for a while. I don't think the world needs another John, DH's family pitched a fit, I'm tired of explaining why it's "Pj" and not "Jp", and then being ignored. So in the name of peace we settled on Jack. So I'm guessing that Jack is about 18lbs, give or take. We have transitioned to either a joey hold in the Moby or a snuggle hold in the Maya.

I was just invited today to join a weekly homeschool coop. Actually , they would like me to organize since that's my forte. I never considered admin or anything like it when I was a teacher, but it just might suit me. I just am NOT good with kids under 13 in large groups. I love them, but I can't muster the force of will it takes to get a bunch of little kids all on the same page, KWIM? It'll be a traditional Catholic group, so there shouldn't be a ton of mommy wars, which also would have been a turnoff. I'm glad to hear you loved it. If we did homeschool, I would really have to look into how to get athletics into our routine though, since K already wants to play soccer in a league (where he got that idea at 2, I'll never know ).

As for the ILs, hubby thinks a confrontation is pointless. They don't even notice the things they do, and when he finally said something to his sister 2 years ago when we were all on vacation, they ending up screaming at each other and she blamed me for him being mad at her. That fight was positively ridiculous - she spent the whole week making snide comments about me sleeping in (I was waiting to wake at my normal time to temp because we were darn near O time and weren't ready to conceive yet ), K waking her up by singing or playing in the morning, his "messes", etc. The final straw was her making some snide comment about a few blades of grass left in the bathtub. I got up and cleaned it throughly with bleach cleanser (probably the first time that's happened in that cabin in a LONG time), and I had to step over my nephew twice to do it. The latter had thrown crayons all over the floor and was in the process of destroying something while screaming at top volume, but K leaving a few blades of grass in the tub was a crisis moment. Hubby got sick of it, told her to leave us alone, and she wouldn't, so he blew up at her. We left the next day after her raising some high drama (clutching our car door in utter agony that he was leaving mad ), and since then we've laid low. I've never forgotten it (I hold grudges, called me a b*tch once when I don't deserve it and I'll never forget it), and I always watch carefully. Since then the same nephew has repeatedly hit, kicked or hurt K and there are always excuses for his violence and no comfort from them for K. We stopped going around much, and they haven't really noticed. No skin off my back, but I feel bad for hubby since they are his family and that's got to hurt. Today, K thought we were going to ILs and said that he didn't want to go to see them (we were on the way to church at a different parish, but same highway), so I think he's starting already to feel their preferences for other children.

BTW, Jack is a common nickname for John. There are 2 in the ILs!
post #99 of 114
Hi, I'm new. Please pardon the lack of personals at this point, the thread is long and I'm still learning everyone. Plus y'all are a little intimidating.

I have a DS (Micah) born Nov 13. From the parts of the thread I've read so far, he fits in exactly with everyone else. He was 8 lb 4 oz at birth, now at least 16.5 lb. Things here are good today, I look forward to connecting with some new people!
post #100 of 114
burnindinner, I dig your username.
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