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do you really have to wait 6 weeks to have sex

post #1 of 19
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Im going on two weeks postpartum and not that i am ready now, but do you really have to wait 6 weeks postpartum to have sex again. I feel great and ready but 6 weeks seems like a long ways away..
post #2 of 19
I dont think you really do. I read that some people are healthy enough for intercourse as early as 3 weeks but NO SOONER than that b/c of your uterus readjusting, etc. Its just that typically your post partum check-up is scheduled for 6 weeks after delivery and "they" think you should be cleared by a doc to prevent infection. Also most people are good to go for sure by 6 weeks so its the standard just to be safe.

It also depends on how severe your laceration (if you had one) was. I was NOT ready for vaginal sex even after 6 weeks. It hurt too bad and I only had a 1st degree laceration. My doc said "listen to your body" so I would guess that would mean your body should tell you if you arent ready, as in it will be painful. So just be sure to stop if there's any pain and be aware that you run the risk of infection.
post #3 of 19
No. I've known people ready at a week

-Angela
post #4 of 19
I was never told I couldn't do it for any particular time, though I was told to use condoms before 8 weeks since I had a cesarean.
post #5 of 19
I don't think you do. After my third child I asked the doctor "how soon?" and her answer was "It depends if you have a private or semiprivate hospital room"
Personally I'm a "wait at least six weeks" person but that's because I didn't want to before then. I think listening to your body is the key.
post #6 of 19
With DD (2nd LO), we went for it (slowly and gently) after a week and a half. Wasn't expecting this, but the mood struck and we rolled with it. I think the PP who said "listen to your body" has got it right. If it doesn't feel good, stop or switch to something that does
post #7 of 19
I think we waited not-quite 3 weeks. I definitely felt I was ready to give it a shot at that point. My mw said that the only important things in determining when it was ok to dtd were that I really wanted to do it (not just feeling pressured) and that we were willing to call it quits if I did start to feel pain or discomfort.
post #8 of 19
If you have a real desire, it is fine to have sex as soon afterwards as you feel ready. If it hurts, then stop, but you can let your body guide your sense of being ready. It always depends on a woman's birth and how her tissue heals and her own hormonal mix - some women have no interest for months, others are interested right away.

Congrats on your baby!
post #9 of 19
If you had any stitches I would wait! We DTD at 3 weeks pp, and I tore all my stitches open, and then we had to wait ANOTHER 6 weeks to let it all heal. (It didn't hurt, but left things down there kind of "funny".
post #10 of 19
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Originally Posted by mama_ani View Post
I don't think you do. After my third child I asked the doctor "how soon?" and her answer was "It depends if you have a private or semiprivate hospital room"

I think the message there is listen to YOUR body (I hear too many stories of women listening to their partner's body!!). Personally, I was only ready for super-slow-and-gentle and 8 weeks, but that was me.
post #11 of 19
I would--next time--didn't wait and got an infection. I got this really brutal infection that lasted 8 months (!) because I didn't know it was an infection. It just made intercourse hurt like crazy and I figured I was STILL healing. But finally when I went to the midwives and insisted that something was wrong, they did a culture and found the infection (cleared up easily with a week of abx cream.) So, next time, I'd wait. The sex was SO not worth it! lol
post #12 of 19
The only thing my doctor told me about pp sex was, if it's before your 6 week checkup use condoms just in case.
post #13 of 19
I am not a respecter of doctors... so even if they told me to wait ...HA...
I do what I want... I think women *know* when the right time is... and no doctor knows the first thing about that...
That being said:
Do it when you want to....1week...6weeks....6months... you do your husband when you are good and ready.

The end.
Tricia
post #14 of 19
My MW cleared me at 2 weeks PP. Said I was all healed up. Tried it at around 2 1/2 weeks or 3 weeks PP, and it was painful. But then again, it's still just as painful now. lol.
post #15 of 19
Whatever you decide, remember that you could already be fertile.
post #16 of 19
we never waited 6 weeks... but I had c-sections so no stitching or soreness --in that area. I think it's important to be healed internally, though, because of the risk of infection. It's hard to say because everyone is different, I'm guessing that is why the '6 week' wait and because it's generally when you go in for your pp check-up.
post #17 of 19
I cannot imagine waiting that long. I never waited more than a week.
post #18 of 19
I waited more than 3 months after DS, but I had some stitches and tearing and even then, it hurt some.

With DD, I think it was a little sooner, but definitely longer than 6 weeks.

Just listen to your body and if it hurts, stop. And another note, not all sex involves intercourse - there are lots of other things y'all could do!
post #19 of 19
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