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post #81 of 252
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Wow! I am just in awe of you! I did zilch towards my dissertation for the first year of my DS's life. Between the hormones and the supreme lack of sleep, my brain was just mush. It's really awesome that you can find the balance. Enjoy your little one and congratulations!
This is where I'm at. Grumblecakes is 14mo now and I am finally ready to get back into the swing of things. It's pretty daunting, and I'm worried I'm too rusty. I'm also starting a dissertation all the way across the country from my home institution. I hope to read along here for lots of motivation!
post #82 of 252
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Congratulations!

My advisor asked me today if I'd be interested in studying in Paris next spring, as part of an exchange program our university is doing. Um, wow. Of course, I speak not a word of French... OTOH, she was clearly expecting Rain to come with me, and Rain has had a year of college French and will have had more by then... and she loves the idea. I'm not so sure... I mean, it would be cool, and my advisor pointed out that I'd make good connections and be able to study Islam in France, and north and west African immigrants... but I'm really hoping to do fieldwork in the Middle East.

It would be great for Rain, though.... and of course, everything would be paid.

Dar
Dar, you will so be kicking yourself if you don't take advantage of this awesome opportunity for both you and Rain! These study abroad things are just so incredible (I've done two, although both were before Grumblecakes) and when in "real life" would you ever get the chance to do something like that again? And how many kids can be like, "Yeah, I spent a few months in Paris," all nonchalantly and whatnot. SO COOL. DOOOOO EEEEEEET.
post #83 of 252
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Good news! My defense date is finally set! My committee agreed that I was ready to defend this semester...which is such a relief. I would just die if I had to come up with another $1000 for one.more.semester!

Anyways, the defense date is May 5th! I am beyond excited!!! Wish me lots of luck...I've been plugging away at this thing for five years (+4 for my masters) and I never thought this day would come!
Woo Hoo!!!!!! A defense date is awesome. Remember you are the expert of your own research! You will do a great job, but here's some extra good vibes/luck coming your way :
post #84 of 252
Carita & ~pi--

feel free to brag here all you want!! It's great when you get recognized for doing a great job!

Ps.

~pi here are some good vibes for you on your interview this Fri :
post #85 of 252
Now if only I felt like I was on the ball I'm about 1-2 years off my original schedule & so I really want to be done. But of course I am not getting everything done that I want. I keep reminding myself that others are in the same boat on their timeline & they didn't have any major life changes while in school.

Right now I *should* be doing about 5 million different tasks (with a baby on me & kids running around) but instead I am playing online (with a baby on me & kids running around)....
post #86 of 252
well I feel the same way muchpeace

Had a committee meeting today... the good news: there is a chance I will graduate next summer... the bad news: I will have to defend by May - seeing members schedules.

I have to publish a paper by summer, and "make significant progress" on my 3rd project - i.e. chapter 4 of the dissertation. hmmm.. the only thing that freaks me out is cramming my research in like mad this summer. I mean - I will really have to triple my effort. Once teaching starts in the fall - that's it.

weird thing though - i did a presentation - they kicked me out, then they signed forms and then we had Q&A - i feel like I just went through my orals and a mini-defense all over again. I need a good massage and a hot bath now - LOL...
post #87 of 252
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Originally Posted by muchpeace View Post
Woo Hoo!!!!!! A defense date is awesome. Remember you are the expert of your own research! You will do a great job, but here's some extra good vibes/luck coming your way :
Thanks! I needed that today. I met with all of my committee members individually and ended up with quite a to do list of things to correct before the defense. I'm scrambling to get it all done because I have to leave for a conference all next week - bad timing - and then there is the ppt slides I have yet to make for the conference...ack! No rest for the wicked, right?!
post #88 of 252
Well it looks like we are all in the same boat with the endless list of things we have to bust our butts to get done, huh?

Slsurface, yuck on the revisions but at least you know that you are near the finish line. You'll be done before you know it.

I think I need to create a more organized list of "to-do"& calendar list to check out. perhaps break it into self/family/home/work, just so I can get a better pic of what's where. I think a massage sounds awesome right now.

Are you all really organized? How do you do organize your day/week etc/...?

PS...Carita did they say why they had you leave the room?
post #89 of 252
I think to talk about what they wanted to see from me before I can graduate. I did ask them specifically about my graduation date and possible defense date. Odd though that they kicked me out, nervewracking really. BTW I am my advisors 1st PhD student to go to completion (he has some RAs that worked for him, but a major advisor was someone else), so he is less familiar with graduation expectations I think and needed to consult the other senior members, YKIM?
post #90 of 252
oh and i printed some monthly calendars - I am writing my appts on each day and then to the side I am writing my research goals for the week. Then when I walk in each day I have a to-do list with time frames for my whole day... accomplishing that is another story - LOL - see how hard I am working right now??

It is going to be a hard year, but I think I knew that upfront - I am really excited abotu the prospect of gradating!!! Worse comes to worse, I can defend in August graduating technically in Dec, but it will be okay as far as jobs go because most northern schools don't start until late august/early sept anyway.

you want to see my timeline I have promised my committee??? Maybe others can share theirs as well?

June 09
- draft of paper sent to committee for feedback
- draft of current networks progress
-a model that has tree co-evolution between species and connective
dependence on connections present in the prior generation +
results)

August 09 - next committee meeting
- paper submitted (hopefully accepted)
- drafts of chapters I, II and III done
- substantial networks progress showing results and clear direction
towards completion

->insert here - if I really thing I have made awesome progress and we have an awesome committee meeting, then I THINK I MIGHT TTC AGAIN!

December 09
- Having applied for jobs/postdocs and/or to funding sources for next stage
- Optimistically done with some major results in networks, ready to start
preparing new manuscript
- Perhaps attend joint MAS/MAA meetings

March 10
- Draft of Thesis done,
- Manuscript for networks draft completed
- Meet deadlines for any conference presentations for summer 2010

May 10
- Manuscript for networks submitted
- Defend
post #91 of 252
Hello. Just saying hi. I'm new to the boards and new to mommyhood.


I'm 1st year PhD in History and taking the semester off since I gave birth to my first child in February. Looking forward to returning in August to my classwork and TA appointment, but geez, I can't even find the time to read a magazine right now. How do you ladies do it?
post #92 of 252
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Originally Posted by Jessnet View Post
Hello. Just saying hi. I'm new to the boards and new to mommyhood.


I'm 1st year PhD in History and taking the semester off since I gave birth to my first child in February. Looking forward to returning in August to my classwork and TA appointment, but geez, I can't even find the time to read a magazine right now. How do you ladies do it?

:

congrats on the baby!! :
post #93 of 252
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Originally Posted by Jessnet View Post
Hello. Just saying hi. I'm new to the boards and new to mommyhood.


I'm 1st year PhD in History and taking the semester off since I gave birth to my first child in February. Looking forward to returning in August to my classwork and TA appointment, but geez, I can't even find the time to read a magazine right now. How do you ladies do it?
Congratulations!!! It usually gets easier as they get older. (I recommend reading while nursing.)

Update here: I just accepted an extremely exciting post-doc! I had two very solid offers -- an embarrassment of riches -- and although I struggled a little with the decision (the offer I didn't accept was local, which would have been better in a lot of ways) I think this is going to be a great choice for me. I am on track to finish the dissertation in the next couple of months, and then assuming I survive (!) we have some long-overdue family vacation planned in between submission and my defenses.
post #94 of 252
woohoo ~pi - glad to hear you made your decision.

welcome Jessnet - iDK how to do it, I am still working on that. I was one of those that had to put DS in preschool because I just procrastinate my work so much - there's no way anything would have gotten done. Also I did not have the luxury to take a semester off because of some unique teaching opportunities. My brain did not agree with that though, so I guess mentally I did take at least a year long vacation - Sometimes I still don't know how I am going to do it - even sitting in an empty office on campus and I can't seem to get motivated.
post #95 of 252
Hi all!

I've lurked on this forum before but never introduced myself. I'm trying to finish my proposal (LONGGG overdue) in anthro. and then write up. It's a little backwards since I conducted most of my fieldwork pre-baby. My 'baby' is 2.5 now, but it's been extremely difficult to find (up until now) good childcare so I can really concentrate on writing. I should add that I'm dyslexic, so it's near impossible to write when I'm tired since words swim off the screen.

I'll share more later.
post #96 of 252

hats off to you all!

Hello Ladies! I have to interject here to say how awesome it is that you can manage to start a family and put up with grad school at the same time. I would also like to offer some encouragement to all of you. I was in your situation 4 months ago, only without the pregnancy or little ones at home! All the posts about committee meetings and dissertation writing and loss of motivation brought back so many (less than pleasant) memories. Dealing with my advisor and a final few experiments while writing my diss literally took all of my time in the last few months before I defended in mid-December. I spent 7 days a week in the lab and barely spoke to my husband. Much of that time was spent procrastinating or doing menial, time-consuming tasks (formatting figures, anyone?) but that was what I needed to get it done. During that time, I found some motivation and comfort in a monthly e-letter for ABDs of all disciplines (www.abdsurvivalguide.com). And I managed to get my defense done and my diss turned in on the very last day of the winter quarter so I could officially graduate in 2008.
Now that I am a postdoc, things are ssoooo much easier! Just the absence of things like supervising committees, courses that have nothing to do with your actual research, and the general BS that goes along with being a grad student has really made all the difference. Science is much more fun when you're actually respected as a scientist! So for those of you suffering under the weight of your dissertation and advisors, take heart-- it does get better!
And since this is a parenting board, I may as well add that I was able to spend much more quality time with my husband once I graduated and I'm now almost 12 weeks pregnant with our first child. :-)
post #97 of 252
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Originally Posted by isaoma View Post
Hi all!

I've lurked on this forum before but never introduced myself. I'm trying to finish my proposal (LONGGG overdue) in anthro. and then write up. It's a little backwards since I conducted most of my fieldwork pre-baby. My 'baby' is 2.5 now, but it's been extremely difficult to find (up until now) good childcare so I can really concentrate on writing. I should add that I'm dyslexic, so it's near impossible to write when I'm tired since words swim off the screen.

I'll share more later.
: great work on the proposal being near done! i am also dyslexic--i totally understand how hard it is when tired!
post #98 of 252
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Originally Posted by HDL View Post
Hello Ladies! I have to interject here to say how awesome it is that you can manage to start a family and put up with grad school at the same time. I would also like to offer some encouragement to all of you. I was in your situation 4 months ago, only without the pregnancy or little ones at home! All the posts about committee meetings and dissertation writing and loss of motivation brought back so many (less than pleasant) memories. Dealing with my advisor and a final few experiments while writing my diss literally took all of my time in the last few months before I defended in mid-December. I spent 7 days a week in the lab and barely spoke to my husband. Much of that time was spent procrastinating or doing menial, time-consuming tasks (formatting figures, anyone?) but that was what I needed to get it done. During that time, I found some motivation and comfort in a monthly e-letter for ABDs of all disciplines (www.abdsurvivalguide.com). And I managed to get my defense done and my diss turned in on the very last day of the winter quarter so I could officially graduate in 2008.
Now that I am a postdoc, things are ssoooo much easier! Just the absence of things like supervising committees, courses that have nothing to do with your actual research, and the general BS that goes along with being a grad student has really made all the difference. Science is much more fun when you're actually respected as a scientist! So for those of you suffering under the weight of your dissertation and advisors, take heart-- it does get better!
And since this is a parenting board, I may as well add that I was able to spend much more quality time with my husband once I graduated and I'm now almost 12 weeks pregnant with our first child. :-)

Congrats on the baby!!
post #99 of 252

woo hoo!! end of semester is here!!

:::

can you tell how happy i am that my semester is done? i just finished all grading for my classes, totally done.

now i get to just focus on the dissertation writing i have tocome up with a workable schedule so i can have all the remaining chapters completed & a defense date set by the end of summer. i am thinking may set chunks of time up several times a day (i.e. 45 straight mins 3X per day) which a set goal for that day (i.e. get mini-section #2 organized). it is just such a big relief to know that i have summer funding for this too & don't have to teach for a few months. i love teaching but i need to focus on just getting done, kwim?

how's your end of semester going?
post #100 of 252
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how's your end of semester going?
I'll let you know after I defend on Tuesday.
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