Aw, Anna, that sort of a stupid, manipulative thing would CONSUME me and be all that I thought about. Ugh. Dh, the person who does not go doing radical things as a reaction to situations, would say to let it cool off and blow over, then say what you need to say. But I agree with you- I think you've got the right idea; you need someone else to help you out with the kids. Easier said than done, I know!!!
Before my mom was here, we asked Greg's mom once about watching our kids, or maybe it was just Ceci and she said 'oh no, I'll be much too tired after working all week.' Okay, whatever, that's valid although slightly hurtful. Well, she took my BIL's kids for Saturday and Sunday she went to see the older girls in a horse show. I guess that would wear a person out...
After that junk I was very careful to keep some pretty strong boundries- I invite them to dinner or we go over there, but I never expect or ask them to watch my kids. It does bum me out, though, that BIL has his kids with her all the time, and I do see the closeness they all have. Well, whatever, I guess.
If I need pinch hit help I get Greg's bachelor brother to help me out.
He loves the kids and he parents exactly like he sees us do it, pretty much, b/c we've made the choice to really involve him. Since he's an unemployeed adult, I see this as a smart move!
He has always been so kind to me.
Becca, Anna; I read Jen's blog awhile ago and she is debating the third kid too!
I remember Ashley saying she knew she'd still want another after her Anna was born. I was impressed that she would know right away. You do get those heart string tugs- babyhood goes by so quickly!
I love big kids, though.
After this one (or maybe just onnnne more- shh, secret hope
) it will be fun to give away all the cool baby stuff I've hoarded and enjoy kids who can get their own cereal and use the toilet!
I am 12 weeks and some now, and I just made an appointment to see the HB midwife.
I'm excited, she should be a nice fit for me.
: We went to dinner on Saturday at Greg's co-workers house, his wife runs Centracare, the big hospital/health care monopoly in our town, our C-section rate beats the national averages, always, so guess how they feel about homebirth... What are Greg's first words to her?! 'My wife is planning a homebirth!!!'
My SIL immediately says 'who cleans up? won't that be messy?' Greg says 'jeez, just pull the plug on the tub, duh.' I guess he knows it all b/c then he proceeded to discuss eating the placenta! :shock
We are also pondering living in CA for a year, year and a half while Greg gets a new division of the theatrial rigging company up and running. After this dang-blasted winter I will take East LA!!! I am of the 'anywhere but here' mentality as of late.
Ceci comes home tomorrow- she called once, and only wanted to talk to 'her brother Carl!'
She sounds so grown up, it makes me miss her! But honestly, Greg and I have loved getting to know Carl without the jealous sis.
I always feel like ending my juicy posts with: 'yes, I know that some women I know locally use this site and may well look me up.... good for you! Now you know the real skinny on my life.
' B/c I know this happens, but I love being able to type out what's really going on in my life with this group.