No no I don't want her to get a reward!! - Page 2

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Originally Posted by Niamh

I saw the 'repeatedly' stipulation, but for my daughter, with her temperament, that one time would be all it took to cement in her mind that this (charity) deserved a reward. Which is why I answered as I did.

See that's what I'm afraid of. My Dd doesn't even really understand what she's doing. She has not voiced that feels so great bringing these pennies so that a school in far away land can be built for girls who can not attend school.
It truly makes no sense to her on many levels.
..to add to the confusion she is home schooled so even the part about building schools is so complex.

I feel like she is just carrying these pennies with no real feeling of charitable contribution. No real understanding. So until that foundation is built I think a reward will wreck the underlying lessons.

We do a lot of donating used clothes and toys to another local church where the Rev's comes to our home to pick things up but my DD never really shows that she feels any pride in giving.
Her empathy meter isn't quite there.

I do like the idea of recognition certificate , I think this can help her understand the value of giving.

Oh and I don't think it is my place to say that the director should have a party for the whole Sunday school. I think that is a huge leap from, "here's little prize for Johanna" to a big party for the kids.
The Sunday school classes have a lot of kids.
I think as the parent I can say not to give my Dd something but I don't think I should orchestrate what should happen for the others.