How do you deal w the anxiety?

[kbl]

I have been TTC and am honestly THRILLED to be pg, but I am also so nervous. I have lost 2 previous pregnancies (1 at 7 wks, 1 very early) and I'm on pins and needles abt this one. I can't quite believe it's true.

How do you calm yourself down abt these fears? I want to let myself be happy abt this one and focus on this one for its own sake. I'm sure I will calm down after the first ultrasound, but I want to calm down before then!

thanks

[tofutti]

visualize the baby all tucked in there - i did this with my DS - best to lie down, quiet, dark, and try to "see" the baby all secure and not going anyplace - in a tree, tucked under a blanket, in a little cabin, whatever works!

sounds weird but it works! (best done during acupuncture, ha)

with my DS i kept seeing him as tough little "sluggo" from the nancy comics, all tough and round, like "i am not budging"

and he kinda looks like sluggo too!

[lisa_nc]

I don't think I CAN relax. Kbl, you are welcome to join us in the PAL thread. I think we're all a little anxious.

[SMR]

I feel relaxed with a bit of my normal obsession! But yes, losing a baby gives us extra reasons to be crazy! Just keep feeling your boobs to see if they're bigger.. that's what I do! haha

[AFishStX]

Originally Posted by SMR

I feel relaxed with a bit of my normal obsession! But yes, losing a baby gives us extra reasons to be crazy! Just keep feeling your boobs to see if they're bigger.. that's what I do! haha

AHAHAHA! laughup I do the exact same thing! I thought I was the only one. Every AM and PM I stand topless in front of the mirror and poke/prod the girls for like 5 mins. DH likes to peek in the door when he thinks I'm not looking, but he's just excited that I'm touching my boobs, the dork.

Kbl, I feel your pain, hugs to you. I'm going through the same thing, but I keep trying to laugh as much as I can and visualize a happy family of three on skis!

[Spring Sun]

It helps me to open myself up to have a strong visualization of the baby-usually something comes. Then I can trust my instinct that the babyw ill be just fine. When I was 18 I had a strong image of myself at 29 yrs old and very pregnant. So, I know that I will at least be very pregnant. And I also had a strong vision of me rolling over to nurse a tiny baby girl in my bedroom-and this was over a year ago. So, while that may be flaky, it has always worked with everything, so I trust it. I just have a good felling about this baby. I worried with my first one, but not this one at all.

[MMx3]

I worried a lot with my last pregnancy, I had a 16 week miscarriage with my first, so I was on pins and needles. I would give myself (and my baby) little pep talks and it would help me calm down. I was also under strict orders to stay as low-stress as possible. Which also helped.
Right now, I figure, if it is meant to be, it will be.

[fantesia28]

I know exactly how you feel, but after worrying for days (not that I am not worrying now), I have decided that things will be okay. Worrying isn't going to change things either way and I am going to enjoy my baby as long as I can.

I am still obsessing though and keep waiting for my boobs to hurt too!! LOL!

[AfricanQueen99]

My only real worry during my other pregnancy was that she was ectopic. Once I learned she wasn't I stopped allowing myself to obsess.

This time I noticed I felt pains in my ovaries and immediately went back in time to those same fears. The next day I felt something in my other ovary and then realized I was being nuts.