If you're not finding out the gender... - Page 2

[NaturalMindedMomma]

I am not from your DDC, but I felt the need to really chime in here. Sorry if this is unwanted:

Your main responsibility as a parent is to protect your child. Circing is abuse. It's also legal to let your child CIO and that is abusive to me too. There is no necessity to it and it is not reccomended anymore at all. 85% of the men in the world are NOT circed. I'm sorry that your husband had no choice, but to do the same thing to your son wouldn't make any sense. I would flood him with info and stand strong about NOT doing it.

Honestly, I would divorce my man before I would circ my son.

When I was dating I made sure this was brought up on DATE 1! yes I brought it up on date 1!

I know it's hard, but it's a job a mom must do.

Has he seen a circumcision?? I would make him watch the ones done in the hospital. They are barabaric and not ONE medical association in the world advocates them.

[AfricanQueen99]

^^^ Wow. That was helpful.

[MommyNicoleTX]

for those not finding out, please share where you find cute gender neutral clothes and baby items. i am having a hard time finding unisex items.

[black balloon]

Originally Posted by AfricanQueen99

^^^ Wow. That was helpful.

Oh yes. Terribly helpful and so informative. It's one thing to be staunchly set in your views and another thing to basically attack a mama who is looking for informed opinions.

I also don't believe that the PP would divorce her husband if he wanted to circumcise their child. I love Drew. I can't imagine if he said that he wanted our son circumcised that I would necessarily be happy, but I certainly wouldn't even dare threaten divorce.

BrightBabies:
I have been in tune with the genders of both babies I've carried--this one and my 3-year-old--so with Rory I did buy a few gender-specific things, but amazingly I was able to shop mostly mainstream. Since I didn't need crib bedding or furniture, it was mostly clothing. I had very good luck at Babies R Us, their neutral stuff is mostly white and yellow.

However, I have no problem putting my boy in pink or my girl in blue...one of my favorite outfits from Aurora's babyhood was a little set with brown pants, a blue top, and a brown and blue striped jacket. I just put a little bow on her head to let people know she was a girl.

[NaturalMindedMomma]

i'm sorry, that came completely wrong then! I was NOT attacking anyone!

I guess my post meant was that you have to make a decision and stick with it as your childs mommy. If you are against circing (and it sounds as though you are) you will regret doing it. I just don't think there is ever a reason to circ a little boy.

Again I am so sorry to sound rude, it was not my intent. I just get frustrated with needless RIC. Again my apologies.

Have you sat with him and calmly tried to talk about it. Understand WHY he is so FOR circing. If he is truly agnostic, it is for some other reason.

[MommyNicoleTX]

Originally Posted by black balloon

BrightBabies:
I have been in tune with the genders of both babies I've carried--this one and my 3-year-old--so with Rory I did buy a few gender-specific things, but amazingly I was able to shop mostly mainstream. Since I didn't need crib bedding or furniture, it was mostly clothing. I had very good luck at Babies R Us, their neutral stuff is mostly white and yellow.

However, I have no problem putting my boy in pink or my girl in blue...one of my favorite outfits from Aurora's babyhood was a little set with brown pants, a blue top, and a brown and blue striped jacket. I just put a little bow on her head to let people know she was a girl.

good info thank you! i did get a cute bear outfit that is tan and brown. i love greens and yellows so hope to find some soon. also i love when men wear pink, well i mean when my hubby wears pink

[NaturalMindedMomma]

Originally Posted by black balloon

Oh yes. Terribly helpful and so informative. It's one thing to be staunchly set in your views and another thing to basically attack a mama who is looking for informed opinions.

I also don't believe that the PP would divorce her husband if he wanted to circumcise their child. I love Drew. I can't imagine if he said that he wanted our son circumcised that I would necessarily be happy, but I certainly wouldn't even dare threaten divorce.

BrightBabies:
I have been in tune with the genders of both babies I've carried--this one and my 3-year-old--so with Rory I did buy a few gender-specific things, but amazingly I was able to shop mostly mainstream. Since I didn't need crib bedding or furniture, it was mostly clothing. I had very good luck at Babies R Us, their neutral stuff is mostly white and yellow.

However, I have no problem putting my boy in pink or my girl in blue...one of my favorite outfits from Aurora's babyhood was a little set with brown pants, a blue top, and a brown and blue striped jacket. I just put a little bow on her head to let people know she was a girl.

I didn't say she should, I would, however. I didn't say if he stated he "wanted" to circ I would. But if after careful research and proving the point that it is wrong to him, he didn't budge on his opinion, I would have a very hard time being with someone who would want to hurt our child.

To me if they are presented with the facts and they still do not budge it is an issue with their own circ status. Like a mental thing.I think to alot of circed men, it's like saying there is something wrong with THEIR male anatomy. Does that make sense??? Also coming to terms with what was done to them is painful and hard.

All I was saying that, while YES I love my man, my child would come first and I would do whatever I have to do to protect them from this procedure.

I guess I do feel that strongly.

Again sorry to offend any of you.

[AfricanQueen99]

Originally Posted by NaturalMindedMomma

Have you sat with him and calmly tried to talk about it. Understand WHY he is so FOR circing. If he is truly agnostic, it is for some other reason.

Yes. We are trying. We had a discussion (via cell phones on our way to today's OB appointment) about this...decided to stop to get our bearings...then found out it's a blighted ovum. So it's a moot point. Like I said, he has valid feelings and opinions and reasons (yes, he even has reasons!)...I'm trying to value those things.

Anyway, it's no longer an issue since I'm not carrying a viable bean.

I understand you feel strongly about this, but I wanted to let you know that tossing around "abuse" is a biggie in my book. I'm a social worker...I know abuse.

[angelachristin]

I haven't decided whether I'll find out the gender (I want to be surprised, but at the same time, I am the most impatient person ever, so I don't know if I can hold out). however, my 2-year-old DS is circed because we didn't know any better at the time...when I found mothering and found out all the information about circ, I was inconsolable for a long time about what we had done and DH agreed at that time that if we ever have another boy, we absolutely will not circ. so, it's a nonissue. :