My beloved brother, who has shared my journey through life since I was 3 1/2, shot himself in his bathroom on Dec. 17.
He was 35, a husband and a father of 3, with his wife expecting the 4th.
Everyone that knew him is utterly utterly shocked. There are people you know who you would be saddened but not surprised to hear they had killed themselves. He was not one of them. He was full of life, interested in everything, kind to all.
He shot himself in the bathroom of their master bedroom in the short window of time that it took his wife to run the oldest (age 6, kindergarten) to school, taking the other two (aged 3 and 1) with her. She found him several hours later, thinking he was sleeping in. He had been sick.
Partly I'm posting this here because I keep having the impulse to post threads that will reference this event, partly just because.....
I'm so sad. I will miss him desperately. We spent a lot of time together and really enjoyed each other's company. He lived nearby, we even shared an apartment for a few years in our twenties. Before this, I would've said we were close, but I had not the slightest clue he was depressed or distressed, so I guess I can't say that.
I truly believe there was some physical problem causing a depression that magnified everyday worries into something insurmountable.
Mostly though I'm so sad to know he was so sad.
He was 35, a husband and a father of 3, with his wife expecting the 4th.
Everyone that knew him is utterly utterly shocked. There are people you know who you would be saddened but not surprised to hear they had killed themselves. He was not one of them. He was full of life, interested in everything, kind to all.
He shot himself in the bathroom of their master bedroom in the short window of time that it took his wife to run the oldest (age 6, kindergarten) to school, taking the other two (aged 3 and 1) with her. She found him several hours later, thinking he was sleeping in. He had been sick.
Partly I'm posting this here because I keep having the impulse to post threads that will reference this event, partly just because.....
I'm so sad. I will miss him desperately. We spent a lot of time together and really enjoyed each other's company. He lived nearby, we even shared an apartment for a few years in our twenties. Before this, I would've said we were close, but I had not the slightest clue he was depressed or distressed, so I guess I can't say that.
I truly believe there was some physical problem causing a depression that magnified everyday worries into something insurmountable.
Mostly though I'm so sad to know he was so sad.
: for you and the children involved.
:
