Update - page 6Sorry, I've been out of town for a few days.
So I talked to DH and he was upset by the whole thing as well. Really it was more about the sneaky nature it was done. It is bad enough that she did it at all, but the way it was done was very childish and cruel (to dd and I)
I said there was zero chance that she was going to be alone in the room with DD let alone in the house. We decided that the best way to deal with it was to do nothing. She would argue until she was blue in the face. So that is what we did. She was planning on taking her last night for the evening and we just never went out. There has been a few times she has told me to leave the room, because I was "upsetting DD" (she had fallen forward trying to crawl and hit her face on the floor. She was crying and MIL figured that she was upset because I ran over to DD and she would calm down faster in MIL's arms. The fact that she hasn't seen MIL since she was a month old so she is more or less a stranger. But I digress) I just don't leave and if MIL says she will go change her or something DH or I will go with her. She is very strange with DD anyways. She says "oh Grandma wants to play with her", play for 2 or 3 minutes then put her down. I'm not sayign she has to put in an hour a time, but why remove her from FIL (who is fantastic with her!! I would leave her with him for sure! DD would never get a chance to rest though, he'd play with her until she passed out!)
It is totally getting to her, which makes me happy even if it is totally passive aggressive. I'm really sad actually that it will affect her relationship with her Grandma. I just can't see trusting her again. I loved getting to spend the night with my Grandma when I was growing up and I hoped for the same thing for DD. She has other grandparents, but it still feels like a big loss. I really didn't want my strained relationship with MIL to ever be noticed by DD, but I don't see a way around it now. Sucks, but oh well.
Anyways, I hear my babe stirring, so I gotta run. Sorry it took so long to update, it has been a crazy week.