Sad and angry today...

[NaturalMindedMomma]

Some days I wish I didn't know what I know.

Does anyone else CRINGE when you find out someone is having a boy? I DO. Most people in my area circ. I just KNOW in my heart most of them will circ their sons. I get so depressed and sad and angry thinking of it.

The more I think of the little boys I cannot save the madder I am. Somedays I just wish I was oblivious.

[bluetoes]

Originally Posted by NaturalMindedMomma

Some days I wish I didn't know what I know.

Does anyone else CRINGE when you find out someone is having a boy? I DO. Most people in my area circ. I just KNOW in my heart most of them will circ their sons. I get so depressed and sad and angry thinking of it.

The more I think of the little boys I cannot save the madder I am. Somedays I just wish I was oblivious.

That is exactly how I feel. I have a friend due any day and while I am delighted for her I am so depressed that she drank the circ. kool-aid no matter how hard I tried.

I wish girls for all the people I know who are pro-circ and boys for all my European/sensible friends!

[Fyrestorm]

I feel your pain! Everytime I hear someone is pregnant I light candles and pray for a girl!

Fortunately, 2 friends that get it both had/are having boys!:

[NaturalMindedMomma]

I'm just tired of ppl's excuses. THERE IS NO EXCUSE. NONE. I just get mad. Why would you want to HURT your baby??????

WHY WOULD YOU LET ANYONE DO THAT TO YOUR CHILD???? It makes me want to leave the country and be around like minded folks.

[K703]

Like what others have said, you know you're an intactivist when you hope that the baby's gender is one way or the other based on whether the parents support circumcision or not (although I don't get too disappointed if anti-circ parents end up with a girl though).

[purplestraws]

I'm totally with you.

I tend to go one step further. My husband and I were walking around in the mall today and I saw a sweet little boy...probably 5 months old. He was adorable. But...instead of feeling happy...I felt sad, because I knew what had been done to him. I always feel so sad. Whenever I change a little boy's diaper in the nursery at church...I'm hopeful...and always let down. That's just what people do here...nobody thinks about it...at all.

[latinalonestar]

I cringe every time I hear someone say they are even pregnant. The first thing I think is "I hope they have a boy". It makes me feel sheepish, angry, and sad. I dream of the day I can truly feel happy for someone when they say that they are pregnant.

[onelilguysmommy]

yeah i know a couple people who will definitely circ if they have boys. i dont know WHY. one, her now 6yo has scar tissue build up and its shaped kinda oddly now and yet MINE are weird cause they didnt have it done? right.

then her sis does it cause her kids dad is

then i know a few other people who do it cause they say theyre supposed to :sigh:

[robertandenith]

ugh tell me about it!!!! I get sick every time I hear someone is having a boy...

[NaturalMindedMomma]

Originally Posted by purplestraws

I'm totally with you.

I tend to go one step further. My husband and I were walking around in the mall today and I saw a sweet little boy...probably 5 months old. He was adorable. But...instead of feeling happy...I felt sad, because I knew what had been done to him. I always feel so sad. Whenever I change a little boy's diaper in the nursery at church...I'm hopeful...and always let down. That's just what people do here...nobody thinks about it...at all.

OK I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE! I see a baby boy and thats the first thing I think of. Its so sad.

[Galatea]

Originally Posted by purplestraws

I'm totally with you.

I tend to go one step further. My husband and I were walking around in the mall today and I saw a sweet little boy...probably 5 months old. He was adorable. But...instead of feeling happy...I felt sad, because I knew what had been done to him. I always feel so sad. Whenever I change a little boy's diaper in the nursery at church...I'm hopeful...and always let down. That's just what people do here...nobody thinks about it...at all.

Yeah, me, too.

[tpintsch]

I'm pretty sure that my nephew that will be born in a few days will be circ'ed despite the information I gave my brother and SIL. I can't wait until he is born but I'm so afraid they are going to do it, that I am contemplating not going to see him after he is born for fear they did it, and I wouldn't be able to control my emotional reaction.

[Night_Nurse]

Originally Posted by tpintsch

I'm pretty sure that my nephew that will be born in a few days will be circ'ed despite the information I gave my brother and SIL. I can't wait until he is born but I'm so afraid they are going to do it, that I am contemplating not going to see him after he is born for fear they did it, and I wouldn't be able to control my emotional reaction.

Have you sent them the circ video yet? Or the Penn and Teller episode? That might make an impression on them.

[mamakah]

"Ignorance is Bliss"

I'm right there with you. It makes me sad to know about the upcoming mutilation of a trusting innocent little one. ugh!

[GinnyMama]

Originally Posted by purplestraws

I'm totally with you.

I tend to go one step further. My husband and I were walking around in the mall today and I saw a sweet little boy...probably 5 months old. He was adorable. But...instead of feeling happy...I felt sad, because I knew what had been done to him. I always feel so sad. Whenever I change a little boy's diaper in the nursery at church...I'm hopeful...and always let down. That's just what people do here...nobody thinks about it...at all.

I feel the same way.

[Pandme]

When my brother and SIL announced they were having a boy, I gritted my teeth and got in gear. Mothering issues, phone calls, I even had my brother attend a diaper change for my son so he could see what it looked like. He came downstairs and told SIL, "It looks....normal!" Then he talked around to a few friends who circed and in one case, the family circed even though the nurses were begging them not to.

I said, those were smart nurses. Just why do you think they were begging?

End of story....nephew born on Tuesday. NOT circed!

[smeep]

Originally Posted by NaturalMindedMomma

Does anyone else CRINGE when you find out someone is having a boy?

Yes. I always secretly hope, "Girl! Girl! Girl!"

[Night_Nurse]

Originally Posted by Pandme

End of story....nephew born on Tuesday. NOT circed!

Great news!

[savvybabygrace]

Yup.

One of my best friends is 26wks preg. with her 2nd boy, and I know 100% they will circ this one too. My neighbor and friend is 37wks preg. with her 3rd boy, and again...def. will circ.
All of my other friends are pregnant/TTC for the 2nd or 3rd time and I get very upset when finding out that they're having boys. It's awkward for me - they all know my beliefs and we don't discuss it. I'm very vocal on facebook and myspace (which they all have accounts) about my anti-circ stance and they have all had the opportunity to watch videos, read info, etc. But they don't.

I do have a wonderful friend whose 18mo son is intact - yay! His father is, too. They have a really special place in my heart as being the only sane family I know in regards to this.

I mourn for every single boy born to people whom I know will circ.

[savvybabygrace]

I agree with pp who said she gets upset even when seeing stranger's little boys and wondering if they were mutilated too (my words, not hers).
Heck, I get upset just seeing dh naked. I have a big grudge against his parents for doing that to him, although I don't think he knows just how deep my sorrow for him is.