Originally Posted by AbbieB
DD is 5 so I have started to get in gear and start exploring our homeschooling community. I'm talking to other homeschooling mothers and looking for groups to participate in.
I am in total shock at the judgment out there against unschoolers.
The most recent judgment came from some other moms that had recently attended a monthly meeting of a popular local parents of home schoolers group. There evidently was a speaker there talking about unschooling. I have no idea what she said but man did she get a few of my acquaintances fired up!
Evidently we have no idea what we are doing because learning must take place in set incremental steps. There can be no deviation from the "correct" order. Kids need to read and write and do math (and I'm guessing other subjects too) everyday weather they want to or not or there just is no learning going on.
I'm pretty shocked and dismayed at this attitude coming from other home schoolers.
Anyone want to talk about this?
I think as I consider us eclectic classical with a lifestyle that leans toward CL (hows that for a mouthful) that the pendulum swings both ways , from both sides. I have found that for us anyway we just don't fit with any one group.We don't fit in an unschooling group because we do use curricula and have been judged on that angle ...unfairly I think because no one has a view on how we run our homeschool . On the other hand an hard core school at homer would balk at the fact that our schedule is quite loose. We try to work with each other to accomplish goals.
Here is what I see that happens with people , any people who get very into one philosophy they start to live for the philosophy as opposed to making the philosophy work for them. This can happen to any type of schooler. For instance trying to get a curriculum to work as is, without tweaking or scrapping it entirely for something more reasonable.
I think what people need before they alienate others is to sort of alienate themselves in a way. Say"How would we go about this if there was no philosophy, what's my philosophy, how can we reach the maximum benefit and joy out of what we are doing here? What are MY goals? What if NO ONE was looking?"
I think that cruelly judging other homeschoolers is unfair and wrong and I think it hurts ALL homeschoolers. There are so many labels in the spectrum of home education and degrees of interpretation that no one can fit into any neat category perfectly. Some may lean more toward one lifestyle or teaching style than another so it's a good resource(HS groups) for certain info etc.
Personally however I just don't feel like my family is in need of one right now and in part it is because of the judgment issue that you speak of. I would say that the pros of going it on your own, finding your own path, outweigh the cons if any group is making you feel bad about your personal choices and rights as a parent to live a lifestyle that you feel strongly about .
And like I said while we don't necessarily unschool, I think anyone that leans toward CL or ideas about trusting kids as whole human beings with a say in the matter, is going to come up against it at some point, I know I have.
"He'll never be able to take a test if you don't pull him away from the book he's reading to MAKE him do his history"
Yeah I heard that today lol.
I think a lot of times homeschoolers do best as a group from a distance
First of all for the most part they are pretty strong willed , second of all, like I said , they all have unique philosophies.I think it's great when someone finds a group that works for them, but I don't think it is necessary to be in a group to successfully homeschool.
These are just my random late night thoughts on the matter